Real-ationship Goals

New relationships are really exciting, and sometimes existing relationships can feel... stagnant. Or even boring. In this episode, we talk about how boredom shows up in relationships and what it looks like to respond to it in creative and kind ways.  

References: Washington Post article "Boredom is a warning sign. Here's what it's telling you." by Richard Sima

Blythe's Recommendation: How Cultures Create Emotions by Batja Mesquita 

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Sometimes we feel like "It's me, hi, I'm the problem it's me." Shame sounds a lot like that -- believing we're not good enough and are unworthy of love and belonging. This week, we're discussing how shame shows up in relationships and how to respond to this uncomfortable feeling in safe and healthy ways.  

Aleigh's Recommendation: Reservation Dogs (Hulu Series) 

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Quote above in reference to Taylor Swift's, "Anti-Hero."

Does fire shoot out of your head like Inside Out's Anger character when you get angry? If so -- wow. While many of us don't become literal torches, anger is a near universal emotion and something we all experience to some capacity. It's inevitable and therefore so important that we know how to respond to it in healthy ways that preserve the dignity of those around us.   

Arianna's Recommendation: A Measure of Belonging: Twenty-One Writers of Color on the New American South ed. by Cinelle Barnes 

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Foreboding joy is a term coined and described by Dr. Brené Brown. In this episode, our hosts discuss how Dr. Brown's term is a widely experienced emotion that sits at the intersection of joy, vulnerability, and gratitude, and how it has a significant impact on the relationships with ourselves and others.

Arianna's Recommendation: Try a new hobby or activity!

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Relationships are complicated, and sometimes when we say we're over something, we're not actually over it... Cue: grudges. In this episode, our hosts break down what grudges are, how they can be unhelpful in our relationships, and what to do instead.

Blythe's Recommendation: Our Planet (Netflix)

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This episode our hosts are talking about the connection between disappointment and expectations, compromise, and clear communication.

Kyla's Recommendation: Stretching and listening to your body's needs.

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Having a crush, catching feels, or "like liking" someone can be really fun and exciting, but there are times when we can use those feelings for harm. On this episode, our hosts talk about the difference between attraction and feelings and how both are normal but still need to be responded to respectfully.

Aleigh's Recommendation: The Big Brunch on HBO Max

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Does it feel worse to be rejected or to reject someone? Whatever your answer, rejection is a difficult action and feeling. While there are many ways to respond to rejection, the most important thing is that our response is safe and respectful.

Arianna's Recommendation: Watch Avatar: The Way of Water

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Welcome back to Real-ationship Goals podcast - we're excited to be in Season 4, which is all about uncomfortable feelings that we experience in relationships. 

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This was the most challenging tension for us as hosts to hold -- that people who abuse have often experienced deep trauma, but at the same time there is absolutely no excuse for abusive behavior. It is important that we all recognize that both things are true, and doing so does not minimize the abuse or experience of survivors. 

Arianna's Recommendation: white chocolate mocha from Starbucks

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