Real Feels - Modern Masculinity with Brad Gage

I think a lot of guys feel the exact same way as me. So why don't they talk about it openly? Because the patriarchy and modern masculinity tell us that if we do, we're breaking the bro code and we are the worst thing imaginable - feminine. But it's not gendered to feel emotions, it's human.

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Research shows that tubesite porn use is leading men to be less engaged in real relationships, have more erectile dysfunction, and have less motivation to make human connections. Plus, the main porn industry is fraught with abuse and inequity. This is not a deep dive about the injustices of porn, while there are many. This is a practical, reasonable guide for guys who want to ween off of a genuine compulsion.

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Guys, for the sake of your health, check in on the men in your life. Lean into the camaraderie you have in your community. And if you don't have it, be brave and do the work to go get them. At least making male friendship connections should be a little less hard than dating.

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This is a story about a group of the most traditionally masculine men possible - convicts, felons, and murderers - talking about feminism. Brad was inspired by the documentary "The Feminist on Cell Block Y" about program that helps teach prisoners about toxic masculinity, patriarchy, and how they can reach their personal goals in healthier ways. The film is a testament to rehabilitation, education, and how love within a community can heal the wounds we have within ourselves.

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Euphoria is a groundbreaking TV series in a lot of ways, but it wasn't until I understood how the show sexualizes teenagers that I realized why I had always felt uncomfortable at the idea of watching it. I explain how much the things we watch actually affect our view of the world, and why images of sexy teens can be harmful.

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READ the Jessica Valenti piece "The Euphoria Problem" https://jessica.substack.com/p/the-euphoria-problem?s=r

Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson is arguably the biggest movie star in the world, and if you pay close enough attention, he's also the biggest feminist in Hollywood. Brad dives into The Rock's life, love, children, TV show, and more to unravel why Johnson is one of those unique famous men who believes in real equality (which is also why he's probably running for president).

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Sonya Shah is someone Brad has admired from her appearances on other podcasts for her deep expertise around restorative justice, and all forms of healing justice that represent an alternative to the punitive, and many times racially insensitive systems of justice that currently preside in this country. Sonya is the Co-Executive Director of Ahimsa Collective is an organization that works to address harm in ways that foster wholeness for everyone. Their goals are to replace systems of punishment with paradigms grounded in healing, relationship, and love.

It's a great talk where Sonya takes Brad to school around the work of restorative justice - how it's not a silver bullet solution to all instances of harm, and how much race and sheltered moralities really come into play for the people who disagree that we need an alternative to the current justice system's structure of repairing harm.

Real Feels is produced, edited and hosted by Brad Gage. The theme song was written by Russell Henson and our logo was designed by Nolan Fabricus. Thanks for listening and if you or someone you love is interested in seeking a restorative approach to harm, please reach out to the Ahimsa Collective at [email protected]

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Is age just a number? Using celebrities, TV, and pop culture, Brad Gage digs into the psychology of age-gap relationships, why older men and younger women are attracted to each other, how it can sometimes result in an unequal power dynamic, and what can be done to help these relationships thrive.

Includes analysis of age-gap May-December romances, Evolution Theory, Gender Roles, "Daddy Issues", plus Dane Cook and Jerry Seinfeld dating teenagers. It'll all make sense when you listen.

Written and Hosted by Brad Gage

Produced by Brad Gage and Allison Mandell

Editing by Brad Gage

What should come after the #MeToo era? Restorative Justice is a process that hands the power to the victim after harm is done, while still working in collaboration with the person who did the harm. This way all those involved can release some of the shame, anger, or secrecy surrounding the incident. Because sometimes victims need something more than what law and order can provide.

Written, Edited, and Performed by Brad Gage

Music by Russell Henson Check out Russell's music here: https://www.russellhenson.com/

Find resources on Restorative Justice through the Ahimsa Collective https://www.ahimsacollective.net

Cam Fraser is Australia's leading men's sex coach who you can find through his engaging, thoughtful, and frequently funny Instagram videos. He speaks to men about everything from masturbation, to porn, to myths about male sex organs. Luckily, we have become friends, and today's episode is where I get to ask him all my juicy questions about taboos, if porn is energetically cheating on your partner, and how men can help themselves take the shame out of porn, and sex and masturbation. Cam is really all about liberation from the ideas that keep men in the dark about their sexuality, and I am HERE FOR IT.