Real Influence w/ Joey Vaillancourt

What if visualization isn't the problem… but the way I've been taught to do it?

You've probably heard that you should picture your dream life, make the vision bigger and brighter, and feel as if it's already happening. But what happens when you close your eyes and nothing comes to mind? Or when you can see the picture but can't feel the emotion? And what about the doubts that creep in as soon as you return to real life?

In this episode, I share my own frustrating experience with traditional visualization and explain why simply imagining your future may not be enough to help you create it.

I break down the three essential parts of effective visualization: seeing my vision, feeling it emotionally, and working through the limiting beliefs that keep pulling me back.

I also introduce Future Real, a cinematic visualization experience designed to help you turn your future vision into a personal five-minute video you can return to whenever you need clarity, connection, and direction.

Because creating the life I want isn't just about imagining the destination. It's about becoming the person who can live it, taking action, and learning to course-correct along the way.

In this episode, I explore:

• Why traditional visualization can leave me feeling frustrated or disconnected • The three essential parts of visualization that work together • Why seeing my future isn't enough if I can't feel it • How limiting beliefs and self-doubt can undermine my vision • What Future Real is and how it turns my vision into a cinematic experience • How I can use my vision to identify the actions I need to take • Why accountability and course correction matter • What can happen when I stop forcing the outcome and allow things to unfold

If you've ever struggled to visualize your future or wondered why your vision doesn't seem to translate into real life, this conversation is for you.

**Interested in Future Real?**

My team and I are looking for our founding 10 clients who are committed to the process, willing to take action, and ready to work toward a meaningful vision.

The first step is a free, no-pressure 30-minute call to learn more, ask questions, and see whether the program is a good fit. Check the link in the show notes to get started.

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Your biggest goal, made into a 5-minute film starring you. Watch how it works: https://joeyvaillancourt.com/future-reel/

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The Great Life Experiment You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure, overthinking, and old patterns still keep showing up. The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge with one question a day to help you uncover the unconscious patterns underneath it all.

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00:00 Why Traditional Visualization Doesn't Work for Everyone

00:49 Joey's Frustrating Experience With Visualization

03:21 The Need for a Vision You Can Return To

04:36 The Three Floors of Visualization

07:20 Introducing Future Real

08:51 Turning Your Future Into a Five-Minute Film

11:19 Seeing, Feeling, and Challenging Limiting Beliefs

14:03 Staying on Track Through Course Correction

15:55 Who Future Real Is For and How to Get Started

18:05 What Happens When You Stop Forcing It

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Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence, a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure, this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.

What if the first step toward changing your life isn't figuring out how to make everything happen, but deciding what you actually want?

A few years ago, I was working late every night, constantly feeling behind, and believing that success required hustle, grinding, and sacrifice.

My business was growing, but I was still stressed. I was still working too much. And I knew I didn't want to keep repeating the same patterns.

So I hired a mentor, expecting to learn how to build a bigger business.

Instead, we spent 12 months working on my beliefs.

I began challenging the idea that I had to sacrifice myself to become successful. I started practicing a different approach: spending less time on things while operating from a more relaxed state.

The results surprised me.

Over those 12 months, I doubled my business, took nine trips, and watched my team become more productive as I gave them more autonomy.

But the biggest lesson wasn't simply about working less.

It was about making a decision about the life I wanted before knowing exactly how I would create it.

In this episode, I share how I changed my beliefs about success and how you can begin creating a different future.

We'll explore:

1. Challenge your old beliefs. Recognize how your definition of success may be keeping you stuck.

2. Decide what you want. Stop letting uncertainty prevent you from defining your future.

3. Create a vision. Identify the life you want beyond financial milestones and achievements.

4. Change how you operate. Make decisions, set boundaries, and delegate in ways that align with your vision.

5. Practice consistently. Look for evidence of your new beliefs and take action toward the life you're creating.

I'll also share how Monika and I developed Future Reel, which turns your vision into a personalized cinematic film you can revisit regularly.

You don't need every answer today. You need a clear direction and a willingness to start moving toward it.

The question I'm leaving you with:

What would you decide today if you trusted yourself to figure out the how along the way?

Your biggest goal, made into a 5-minute film starring you. Watch how it works: https://joeyvaillancourt.com/future-reel/

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The Great Life Experiment You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure, overthinking, and old patterns still keep showing up. The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge with one question a day to help you uncover the unconscious patterns underneath it all.

Take the FREE quiz here: Pressure Pattern Profile Quiz

00:00 Why You Need to Decide Before You Know How

01:04 The Old Pattern That Was Costing Me My Life

02:25 Why I Spent 12 Months Changing My Beliefs

03:20 The Belief That Doubled My Business

05:07 Decide What You Want Before Figuring Out How

07:20 Turn What You Don't Want Into Your Vision

09:03 How Changing My Approach Created New Opportunities

10:12 Build Your Future Vision With Future Reel

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About:

Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence, a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure, this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.

What if the life you're trying to create doesn't require you to work harder, stress more, or wait for the next milestone?

Recently, I noticed myself slipping back into an old version of me.

I was stressed. Reactive. Worried. Feeling behind. Feeling like I wasn't enough.

I call that version Primal Joey.

And instead of trying to push through it, I used a framework I learned from one of my mentors called the 4D Framework.

It's a simple five-minute exercise that helps you identify: What you actually want in your future Who you're being right now How that current version of you behaves And who you would become if everything you wanted was already accomplished

I call that future version Powerful Joey.

The important part isn't waiting until you have the money, the business, the house, the relationship, or the success you want.

It's asking: How would I behave if I already knew everything was going to work out?

Then starting to live from that state today.

In this episode, I walk you through the exact exercise and how I've used it to become more relaxed, present, loving, grounded, and intentional instead of constantly operating from stress and fear.

We'll talk about: Why stress can become a signal that you're off track The difference between an experience and the story you're attaching to it How to identify your "Primal" version How to define your future or "Powerful" version Why you shouldn't wait for success before becoming the person you want to be How neuroscience supports the importance of embodying a new state Why your behavior can either reinforce your current reality or create room for something new How I started taking more trips and working less as part of this practice And how to use the 4D Framework as a daily compass

You don't need hours.

You need one sheet of paper, one pen, and about five minutes.

Because the goal isn't to become someone else.

It's to start becoming the version of yourself you already know you want to be.

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The Great Life Experiment You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure, overthinking, and old patterns still keep showing up. The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge with one question a day to help you uncover the unconscious patterns underneath it all.

Take the FREE quiz here: Pressure Pattern Profile Quiz

00:00 Feeling Stuck? This Is Your Signal

01:44 Why I Became "Primal Joey" Again

03:26 Where the 4D Framework Started

04:10 The 4D Framework Explained

06:33 Meet Your Powerful Future Self

08:18 Why You Have to Become That Person Now

09:20 How to Start Embodying Your Future Self

12:13 Use Your Future Self as Your Compass

15:31 Consistency Is the Practice

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About:

Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence, a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure, this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.

My kids aren't waiting for me to teach them something.

They're already learning.

From how I respond when I'm tired. From how I treat my wife. From whether I look up when they're talking to me. From how I handle conflict. From the things I repeat every single day.

And that realization changed the way I think about being a dad.

In this episode, I share five things I'm intentionally doing in my own family:

1. Be there. Be present.

2. Be the leader. Don't let their energy set yours.

3. Model it, because you're the mirror.

4. Say what you want, not what you don't want.

5. Say the same words every single day.

This isn't about being a perfect parent.

It's about becoming more aware of the things we're already handing down.

Because most of us inherited a formula from our own parents. They inherited one too. And most of them were simply doing the best they could with what they had.

Now it's our turn to decide what moves forward.

And what stops with us.

The question I'm leaving you with:

What's one thing you want your kids to carry from you and are you living it or just saying it?

Helpful Links:

The Great Life Experiment You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure, overthinking, and old patterns still keep showing up. The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge with one question a day to help you uncover the unconscious patterns underneath it all.

Take the FREE quiz here: Pressure Pattern Profile Quiz

Chapters

00:00 What Are Your Kids Learning From You?

01:00 The Words I Say to My Kids Every Day

02:30 Why I Became Intentional About Parenting

04:34 Tip #1: Be There, Be Present

07:29 Tip #2: Be the Leader

12:05 Tip #3: Model It, Because You're the Mirror

16:22 Tip #4: Say What You Want, Not What You Don't

18:47 Tip #5: The Same Words Every Day

21:35 The Belief I Want My Kids to Carry

22:13 What Do You Want Your Kids to Inherit?

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Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence, a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure, this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.

I spent $100,000 on coaching with David Bayer.

When I shared my experience on YouTube, I got 157 comments. Some were supportive. Others questioned how I could possibly spend that much money, called the experience a scam or a cult, and wondered why anyone would pay for something they could learn for free.

So almost ten months later, I went back through the comments.

And what I found was more interesting than the comments themselves.

Nobody gets mad at a $100,000 truck. Nobody gets angry when someone spends $100,000 on an MBA, a kitchen, or a wedding.

But spend that money on your own mind and suddenly the conversation changes.

This episode isn't about convincing you to spend $100,000 on coaching. It's about the beliefs underneath our reactions to money, investment, success, and personal transformation.

I read some of the harshest comments word for word, concede where people were right, share the real story behind how I made the investment, and explain what actually changed for me.

We also get into the difference between free information and commitment, whether the community I joined was really a "cult," the roughly 75% financial return I made from the investment, and the much bigger return that had nothing to do with money.

Because sometimes the most revealing part of an experience isn't what happened.

It's the story we attach to what happened.

And the question I'm leaving you with is simple:

What is something you could afford right now and still won't let yourself buy and whose voice is it when you tell yourself no?

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The Great Life Experiment You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure, overthinking, and old patterns still keep showing up. The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge with one question a day to help you uncover the unconscious patterns underneath it all.

Take the FREE quiz here: Pressure Pattern Profile Quiz

00:00 The $100K Comment That Started It All

03:06 Why I Spent $100,000 on Coaching

04:10 Nobody Gets Mad at a $100K Truck

05:46 The Truth About My Misleading Title

08:14 What $100K Really Meant to Me

13:07 The Money Beliefs We Inherit

15:09 Free Information vs. Real Commitment

20:10 Did I Join a Cult?

24:47 The Line Nobody Heard

26:04 The 75% Return Nobody Noticed

28:12 The Transformation Beyond Money

31:39 Whose Voice Is It When You Say No?

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Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence, a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure, this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.

Your biggest goal, made into a 5-minute film starring you. Watch how it works: https://joeyvaillancourt.com/future-reel/

For years, I thought I was doing visualization wrong.

I'd close my eyes during guided meditations and see... nothing. While everyone else described vivid images and powerful experiences, I was left wondering if something was wrong with me.

That question stayed with me until it sparked an idea that would eventually become Future Reel.

In this video, I share the personal story behind that breakthrough, why traditional visualization doesn't work for everyone, and how combining cinematic storytelling with coaching can help you build a future your brain can actually connect with.

If you've ever struggled to picture your future, this conversation was made for you.

Helpful Links:

The Great Life Experiment You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure, overthinking, and old patterns still keep showing up. The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge with one question a day to help you uncover the unconscious patterns underneath it all.

Take the FREE quiz here: Pressure Pattern Profile Quiz

Chapters

00:00 Why visualization never worked for me

00:20 Sitting in an Uber changed everything

00:54 "Am I broken?" My biggest frustration

01:26 Why some people visualize differently

02:03 The idea that became Future Reel

02:43 Why I decided to build it anyway

03:20 If visualization has never worked for you

03:54 What Future Reel actually is

04:38 Why seeing your future changes everything

05:38 What happened after I started using it

06:10 Why coaching is part of the process

06:49 Who Future Reel is for

07:10 What happens on the discovery call

07:46 Your next step

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Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence, a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure, this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.

For two decades I looked back on my life and saw a list of failures, the corporate job I left, the farm that folded, the marriage that ended, the masterminds I demanded refunds from. Black and white, right or wrong. Even the good stuff landed as proof I'd fallen short.

This episode is about the word "failure" and how much of a life changes when you stop using it. I go through my own examples, one at a time and what each was actually training me for, including the belief I carried into every room that quietly guaranteed the outcome. Pain is real; the suffering is the story laid over it. You get to choose the meaning, and you're not behind, no matter what your past looks like.

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The Great Life Experiment You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure, overthinking, and old patterns still keep showing up. The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge with one question a day to help you uncover the unconscious patterns underneath it all.

Take the FREE quiz here: Pressure Pattern Profile Quiz

Topics covered

• The glasses that changed everything and the prescription glasses couldn't fix

• Handed-down beliefs: the worldview you inherited without choosing

• Naming the inner prescription and testing it instead of obeying it

• Why evidence follows focus and how that keeps a belief alive

• Ownership vs. blame: not your fault, still your responsibility

Chapters: 00:00 When everything looks like failure 00:33 Welcome to Real Influence 00:58 A quick thing before we start 01:20 The word I stopped using 02:20 Quitting hockey out of fear 03:46 The farm, the marriage, the "failures" 04:20 The masterminds and the refund clause 05:50 The moment I saw it was a choice 06:05 You're not behind — you're on time 08:28 Reframing each story for what it trained 13:33 Living your life as an experiment 15:00 Choosing the meaning from here

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About:

Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence, a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure, this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.

At fourteen, I couldn't read the chalkboard and figured something was wrong with me. A friend handed me his glasses, the board came into focus, and my grades climbed from barely passing to the honor roll, nothing changed but my eyesight. It took another twenty years to notice I was wearing a second prescription I'd never chosen: the one on my whole worldview.

This episode is about that second lens, the handed-down beliefs about money, trust, control, and worth that get installed before you're old enough to question them. The lens feels like reality, but it isn't permanent; it's testable. I walk through how to name the prescription you're looking through and check whether it's even yours, and why the same argument keeps following you into every new partner, job, and situation until you do.

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The Great Life Experiment You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure, overthinking, and old patterns still keep showing up. The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge with one question a day to help you uncover the unconscious patterns underneath it all.

Take the FREE quiz here: Pressure Pattern Profile Quiz

Topics covered

• The glasses that changed everything and the prescription glasses couldn't fix

• Handed-down beliefs: the worldview you inherited without choosing

• Naming the inner prescription and testing it instead of obeying it

• Why evidence follows focus and how that keeps a belief alive

• Ownership vs. blame: not your fault, still your responsibility

Chapters: 00:00 The blurry chalkboard 00:35 Welcome to Real Influence 00:55 A quick thing before we start 01:35 The kid who thought he wasn't smart 03:00 The day Jeff handed me his glasses 04:00 From 60s to the honor roll 05:15 "I don't think you'll cut it" 06:00 The prescription you can't take off 08:15 Name the lens, then test it 10:30 The belief that keeps repeating 11:35 The handed-down shirt that never fit 13:00 What lens are you looking through

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About:

Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence, a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure, this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.

For twenty years I was sure success had a price, and the price was me. More hours, more strain, more proof that I was serious. Then one conversation asked me what success actually was — and how it made me feel and the answer fell apart in my hands.

This episode is about the moment a belief stops looking like a fact and starts looking like a decision you can revisit. I walk through the Experiment Cycle — Notice → Flip → Run → Read — the loop I used to test the rule I'd never questioned, and what changed over the year after I stopped forcing. The point was never doing less. It was living closer to what's actually true for me instead of a formula I inherited by default.

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The Great Life Experiment You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure, overthinking, and old patterns still keep showing up. The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge with one question a day to help you uncover the unconscious patterns underneath it all.

Take the FREE quiz here: Pressure Pattern Profile Quiz

Chapters: 00:00 The price I paid for twenty years

00:48 The formula you never chose

01:33 Looking busy vs. being productive

03:41 The Experiment Cycle: Notice → Flip → Run → Read

04:20 A belief is a decision, not a fact

05:50 Writing the new belief and stacking evidence

07:54 Picking the opposite on purpose

10:10 The campaign and the farm: proof it was easy

12:30 What happened when I ran the experiment

14:48 Six trips, an empowered team, double the revenue

17:24 Alignment over escape

19:47 The one belief to question this week

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About:

Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence, a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure, this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.

There's a point where personal development stops helping and starts keeping you stuck.

In this episode, Joey opens up about a pattern he's seen in himself over the past year: the urge to find one more coach, one more breakthrough, one more framework, one more answer. On the surface, it looks like growth. But underneath, it can become something else entirely — avoidance.

If you've been stuck in self improvement, overthinking your next move, consuming more than you're creating, or feeling burned out by how much "work" you've already done on yourself, this episode is for you.

You'll learn:

• Why self help addiction can feel productive while quietly keeping you stuck

• The difference between pain vs suffering — and how we create extra suffering by revisiting old stories

• How coaching addiction and constant learning can become procrastination through learning

• Why there's a point where you don't need more insight — you need reps

• How to tell when you actually need support… and when you just need to take action

Helpful Links:

The Great Life Experiment You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure, overthinking, and old patterns still keep showing up. The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge with one question a day to help you uncover the unconscious patterns underneath it all.

Take the FREE quiz here: Pressure Pattern Profile Quiz

Chapters: 00:00 The trap of always needing "more" 00:39 When personal development becomes addiction 01:48 Pain vs suffering 02:25 The validation loop behind coaching addiction 03:05 Why I thought I needed another mentor 04:17 The question that stopped me from hiring another coach 05:07 Alignment vs fear 06:06 Choosing a coach whose life you actually want 06:59 The next offer… and the same hesitation 08:53 Breakthroughs, blind spots, and reopening old stories 10:53 Why talking about old problems can keep them alive 12:17 You don't need to fix every area right now 13:22 Taking action vs learning more 14:28 The hamster wheel of self improvement 15:23 What you probably need now is reps

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Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence, a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure, this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.