Real Life Shyt Pod

Shay and Fe bring in the legendary equalizer herself — Jazzy — to help break down a universal struggle: when your friends are beefing, do you jump in, or do you keep your nose in your own damn business?

We cover:

Why mixing friend groups is basically a science experiment gone wrong

Jazzy’s undercover friendship

Why Felicia is “selfish with her friends” (allegedly)

The wedding-gate incident that still has Fe ready to fight

How grown-woman beef is different when you’re in your Perry Ellis era of life

‘Tis the season… for chaos. In this episode, we break down holiday stress, men we deploy links to, white friends and their beloved tchotchkes, and why one of us is a full Grinch while the other wants to grab strangers’ hands and sing carols in the street.

We talk gifts we hate, gifts we pretend to love, CVS clearance presents for people who surprise-gift us (don’t judge), and why Christmas in Europe hits different than Christmas in America.

We test the theory that roasting your friends actually makes you closer and even call a friend live on air to see who’s really the biggest shit talker.

🥴 When “just kidding” jokes are really low-key digs

🙃 The difference between roasting out of love vs. mean-girl energy

👀 How cultural differences play into humor (ahem, our white friends…)

💅 Why being called “petty” might actually be Fe's love language.

Shayla tells a wild birthday dinner story where a friend refused to eat at a restaurant because it was Israeli-owned, sparking a real convo about boycotts, beliefs, and when activism crosses into bias.

Felicia dives deep into her years in the fashion industry and shares painful (and jaw-dropping) examples of being dismissed the second her Black face walked in the room — and what it taught her about professionalism and pride.

The ladies talk about whether we all have a little bias baked in, the exhaustion of bad customer service, and what happens when you realize maybe you have your own stereotypes too.

We’re back, and the month of Mondays was a lot. Fe planned to fly to London to sell her skincare formulas until a spa water tank exploded like a geyser. Then the doctor’s program fell through when the endowment contact passed away. She pivoted to Atlanta for Libra season, surprised our girl Jazzy at Breezy Bowl, then ran a half marathon on two hours of sleep because chaos is cardio.

Shay did Greece in two acts: Santorini, which was chef’s kiss with an Airbnb that strangers lined up to photograph, and then a Mykonos “retreat” that… did not retreat. Room mix-ups that turned doubles into a bed and a bench, breakfast that was basically vibes and silver-dollar pancakes, and not a water station in sight. We break down location, value, vibes, and whether yoga yoga’d.

Also on the docket: Fe finally dumped her perpetually late therapist. Boundaries were set, the breakup email was sent, and an hour of life was reclaimed.

This week on Real Life Shyt, we put friendships under corporate review. Are your friends getting a promotion to your C-Suite, or are they quietly being demoted to the mop closet?

This week, we’re breaking up with group dinners once and for all. Because why should a spinach puff and a side salad cost $250 just because everybody else wanted to cosplay as Salt Bae? Shay pulled her neck in yoga (apparently a fat neck is not the safety device she thought it was), Felicia dragged the Cowboys, and we both dragged restaurants that can’t do separate checks.

What kind of friend are you? The Head of HR who snatches wigs with the truth, or the Director of Strategy who shows up with screenshots, timestamps, and a full PowerPoint? In this episode, we’re building out the Friendship C-Suite and figuring out everyone’s role:

Shay’s over here handing out pink slips and bereavement benefits as Head of HR.

Fe is running strategy like Olivia Pope with Wi-Fi receipts.

Somebody has to be Chief of Wardrobe & Optics (yes, the Ralph’s cashier compliment counts).

And apparently we also need a department called “Fuck Around and Find Out.”

We’re telling stories of when being the “truth teller” actually cost us friendships, why new friends can’t bring old drama, and why your friend group really is just a messy little corporate board meeting with cocktails.

So… what’s your role? CFO of Mess? VP of Emotional Wellness?

Happy Birthday to Fe and Happy 1-Year Anniversary to our pod! We’re talking about the one decision that changed the entire course of our lives — like Shayla ghosting her entire bloodline to escape the Jerry Springer episode that became her life, and Fe saying nah to full-ride sports scholarships at Ivy league schools because she wanted the freedom to explore and find her true passion.

Happy Birthday to Fe and Happy 1-Year Anniversary to us! We’re talking about the one decision that changed the entire course of our lives..forever — like Shayla ghosting her entire bloodline to escape a Jerry Springer storyline that became her life, and Fe saying nah to full-ride sports scholarships because she wanted to party, pledge, and sleep like a human being.. Do we regret them?