Real Talk Friend Therapy: Honest Conversations, Advice + Tips For Stronger Adult Friendships

Continuing on in our series around friendship and conflict, this week Daysha explores what it means to be in a toxic friendship since “toxic” has become the new social media buzzword of the moment and is often being used improperly. She continues to lean on more wisdom from burnout coach, Amina AlTai, to give you three critical assessment points to consider when figuring out if your friendship has become toxic.

So, if you’ve always wondered:

• Is my friend toxic or is our friendship just going through a rough patch?

• How do you know if a friendship is no longer healthy?

• Can a toxic friendship be fixed?

Then I hope you are sat and ready because Real Talk Friend Therapy with Daysha Veronica is in session!

REFERENCES: (As an Amazon Associate, Daysha earns a small percentage from qualifying purchases):

• EP 38: Where In The World Has Daysha Been Ft. Becky Harris

• Amina AlTai

RESOURCES:

• The Real Talk Friend Therapy Friendship Painpoint Survey

• Looking for someone to talk to about this week’s episode? Join our exclusive Facebook group!

• Looking for a new therapist? Or are you interested in starting therapy for the first time? Check out the Real Talk Friend Therapy Therapist Resources List!

• Level up yourself + your adult friendships through more tips, explanations, advice and strategies on the Yes Queen YouTube Channel!

• For news, updates and more insights on how to create stronger adult friendships, join the Yes Queen email list.

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CREDITS:

Producer: Becky Harris 

Executive Producer: Daysha Veronica

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Friendships are just like any other relationship, in that, their wins can feel like our wins. But that also means their bad days or their stress can also feel like ours, too. And sharing each other’s load is healthy, when it’s in balance. So if you’ve ever felt the urge to ghost a friendship, or if you’re like Daysha, and have actually done so, there’s a good chance there’s dynamics in your relationship that are out of balance. So, this week Daysha is going to explore:

• What is burnout (especially what it looks like within our friendships)

• And how to approach getting your relationship back in balance

So, if you’ve always wondered:

• Why do I feel drained after hanging out with friends?

• Why am I losing interest in my friendships?

• Am I outgrowing my friends or am I just burned out?

Then I hope you are sat and ready because Real Talk Friend Therapy with Daysha Veronica is in session!

REFERENCES: (As an Amazon Associate, Daysha earns a small percentage from qualifying purchases):

• EP 21: Your Relationship BATNA

• EP 37: Attachment Styles and Friendship

• Amina AlTai

• The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga

• Psychology Today Burnout Article

• The Corticotropin-Releasing Factor Family: Physiology of the Stress Response

• SBI Framework

RESOURCES:

• The Real Talk Friend Therapy Friendship Painpoint Survey

• Looking for someone to talk to about this week’s episode? Join our exclusive Facebook group!

• Looking for a new therapist? Or are you interested in starting therapy for the first time? Check out the Real Talk Friend Therapy Therapist Resources List!

• Level up yourself + your adult friendships through more tips, explanations, advice and strategies on the Yes Queen YouTube Channel!

• For news, updates and more insights on how to create stronger adult friendships, join the Yes Queen email list.

CONNECT:

Daysha Veronica

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BlueSky: @DayshaVeronica

Yes Queen

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CREDITS:

Producer: Becky Harris 

Executive Producer: Daysha Veronica

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Daysha is taking a slight departure from regularly scheduled programming to discuss the currently developing tragic story of Nolan Wells, the Black Mississippi teen who mysteriously died during an outing with “friends.” She examines what his story as well as the heartbreaking story of Shanquella Robinson reveals about the intricacies of race, friendship and discernment and discusses how we can and should always be thoughtful about the friendships we keep.

In this week’s episode, Daysha specifically:

• Discusses the underlying tension that exists within White and Black friendships

• Explores how advice her mom gave her on race and friendship in her youth kept her from rooting out some problematic friendships

• And makes the case for why a strong sense discernment is a crucial part of the friendship making process

So, I hope you are sat and ready because Real Talk Friend Therapy with Daysha Veronica is in session!

REFERENCES: (As an Amazon Associate, Daysha earns a small percentage from qualifying purchases):

• EP 3: What Is Friendship?

• EP: 21 Your Relationship BATNA

• EP 24: What If I Don’t Have Friends Of My Race? (Part 1)

• EP 28: What If I Don’t Have Friends Of My Race (Part 2) FT. Dannyell Rasco

• EP 38: Where In The World Has Daysha Been? FT. Becky Harris 

RESOURCES:

• The Real Talk Friend Therapy Friendship Painpoint Survey

• Looking for someone to talk to about this week’s episode? Join our exclusive Facebook group!

• Looking for a new therapist? Or are you interested in starting therapy for the first time? Check out the Real Talk Friend Therapy Therapist Resources List!

• Level up yourself + your adult friendships through more tips, explanations, advice and strategies on the Yes Queen YouTube Channel!

• For news, updates and more insights on how to create stronger adult friendships, join the Yes Queen email list.

CONNECT:

Daysha Veronica

IG/Threads: @DayshaVeronica

TikTok: @DayshaVeronica

BlueSky: @DayshaVeronica

Yes Queen

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BlueSky:@YesQueenLife

CREDITS:

Producer: Becky Harris 

Executive Producer: Daysha Veronica

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Making friends as an adult can feel overwhelming—but it's far from impossible. In this episode of our recurring series, #WhyAreWeFriends, Daysha explores the real-life origins of her closest relationships to better understand how meaningful friendships are formed and maintained.

This week, Daysha reconnects with Kendall, her wifey for lifey from high school who she hasn’t lived in the same state as since they were teens. And yet, through a lot of conscious effort and communication, they’ve been able to maintain a vibrant friendship for the last 20 years! They chat about getting kicked out of the Vatican on a school trip to Italy, running high school together as Head and Vice Head of School, and what they learned being in an interracial friendship that started in their teens.

REFERENCES: (As an Amazon Associate, Daysha earns a small percentage from qualifying purchases):

• EP 13: #WhyAreWeFriends w/ Dee

• EP 29: #WhyAreWeFriends w/ Rachel

RESOURCES:

• The Real Talk Friend Therapy Friendship Painpoint Survey

• Looking for someone to talk to about this week’s episode? Join our exclusive Facebook group!

• Looking for a new therapist? Or are you interested in starting therapy for the first time? Check out the Real Talk Friend Therapy Therapist Resources List!

• Level up yourself + your adult friendships through more tips, explanations, advice and strategies on the Yes Queen YouTube Channel!

• For news, updates and more insights on how to create stronger adult friendships, join the Yes Queen email list.

CONNECT:

Daysha Veronica

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BlueSky: @DayshaVeronica

Yes Queen

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CREDITS:

Producer: Becky Harris 

Executive Producer: Daysha Veronica

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Is it just Daysha or does even brunch feel like it’s gotten way more curated, aesthetic and high stakes lately? Are you someone who likes to show out when they plan a get together, but feel like people are all bailing on you at the last minute? Or are you the person who likes to say yes in the moment to an invite but then bail at the last minute?

In this week’s episode, Daysha goes over:

• The difference between hosting and hanging out

• How social media has changed the way we think about those two terms

• And offers some coaching for both event throwers and attendees on how to get better at communicating needs and setting appropriate expectations

So, if you’ve always wondered:

• Why does hanging out with friends feel so complicated now?

• Why is it so hard to casually hang out with friends?

• And how you can enjoy your friendships again without feeling pressured to show off on social media?

Then I hope you are sat and ready because Real Talk Friend Therapy with Daysha Veronica is in session!

REFERENCES: (As an Amazon Associate, Daysha earns a small percentage from qualifying purchases):

• EP 9: WTF Are Boundaries?

• EP 3: What Is Friendship?

• EP: 21 Your Relationship BATNA

RESOURCES:

• The Real Talk Friend Therapy Friendship Painpoint Survey

• Looking for someone to talk to about this week’s episode? Join our exclusive Facebook group!

• Looking for a new therapist? Or are you interested in starting therapy for the first time? Check out the Real Talk Friend Therapy Therapist Resources List!

• Level up yourself + your adult friendships through more tips, explanations, advice and strategies on the Yes Queen YouTube Channel!

• For news, updates and more insights on how to create stronger adult friendships, join the Yes Queen email list.

CONNECT:

Daysha Veronica

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TikTok: @DayshaVeronica

BlueSky: @DayshaVeronica

Yes Queen

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BlueSky:@YesQueenLife

CREDITS:

Producer: Becky Harris 

Executive Producer: Daysha Veronica

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While it’s coming a little late, in honor of Women’s history month, Daysha decides to tackle the age-old question of whether or not men and women — and more specifically hetero men and women can ever truly be friends. While the question can seem silly and slightly regressive, Daysha invites her bestie, Becky Harris, to sit down and ponder with her since Becky has had a lot of successful male friendships. But they soon realize, at what cost are women stifling themselves in order to maintain male friendship and discuss the impact that the media has had over societal norms about opposite sex friendship. And a jaw-dropping revelation forces Daysha’s boyfriend, Jess, to get in on the conversation as well.

So, if you’ve always wondered:

• Why do opposite-sex friendships get complicated?

• What are healthy boundaries in male-female friendships?

• How to make your partner comfortable about your opposite sex best friend

Then I hope you are sat and ready because Real Talk Friend Therapy with Daysha Veronica is in session!

REFERENCES: (As an Amazon Associate, Daysha earns a small percentage from qualifying purchases):

• The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center by Rhaina Cohen

• EP 23: Friendship vs Romance: Is It Worth The Risk? FT. Curly Velasquez

• Folger's Commercial

RESOURCES:

• The Real Talk Friend Therapy Friendship Painpoint Survey

• Looking for someone to talk to about this week’s episode? Join our exclusive Facebook group!

• Looking for a new therapist? Or are you interested in starting therapy for the first time? Check out the Real Talk Friend Therapy Therapist Resources List!

• Level up yourself + your adult friendships through more tips, explanations, advice and strategies on the Yes Queen YouTube Channel!

• For news, updates and more insights on how to create stronger adult friendships, join the Yes Queen email list.

CONNECT:

Daysha Veronica

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TikTok: @DayshaVeronica

BlueSky: @DayshaVeronica

Yes Queen

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TikTok: @YesQueenLife

BlueSky:@YesQueenLife

CREDITS:

Producer: Becky Harris 

Executive Producer: Daysha Veronica

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Contrast, as defined in The Law of Attraction by Michael J. Losier, is “anything you don’t like, doesn’t feel good, or causes you to be in a negative mood.” And when we live in contrast for too long — aka we observe people who make us feel negative, but continue to engage with them and give them our attention, then we are only inviting more negativity into our lives.

In this week Daysha goes over:

• What is contrast and why it’s keeping us from the relationships we want

• How she’s approached getting out of living in contrast

• And how to reframe using what you don’t want to get what you do

So, if you’ve always wondered:

• Why do I keep attracting the wrong friends?

• How do I break out of toxic friendship cycles?

• How do I shift my mindset to attract better friends?

Then I hope you are sat and ready because Real Talk Friend Therapy with Daysha Veronica is in session!

REFERENCES: (As an Amazon Associate, Daysha earns a small percentage from qualifying purchases):

• Law Of Attraction: The Science Of Attracting More Of What You Want And Less Of What You Don’t by Michael J. Losier

• EP 2: Thoughts, Feelings and Meditation

RESOURCES:

• The Real Talk Friend Therapy Friendship Painpoint Survey

• Looking for someone to talk to about this week’s episode? Join our exclusive Facebook group!

• Looking for a new therapist? Or are you interested in starting therapy for the first time? Check out the Real Talk Friend Therapy Therapist Resources List!

• Level up yourself + your adult friendships through more tips, explanations, advice and strategies on the Yes Queen YouTube Channel!

• For news, updates and more insights on how to create stronger adult friendships, join the Yes Queen email list.

CONNECT:

Daysha Veronica

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TikTok: @DayshaVeronica

BlueSky: @DayshaVeronica

Yes Queen

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TikTok: @YesQueenLife

BlueSky:@YesQueenLife

CREDITS:

Producer: Becky Harris 

Executive Producer: Daysha Veronica

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BESTIES! I know it's been a HOT minute since we've connected, and that season 2 ended rather abruptly. So for my first episode back, I wanted to give y'all some background on some of the drama that was going down in my life and spill some piping hot tea about my experience working on the immersive theater show, Brassroots District, that's going on in LA right now. And you know I had to have my bestie, Becky Harris, on to dish with me since she supported me through all the trials and tribulations. So get comfy y'all because this is about to be an episode for the ages.

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REFERENCES: (As an Amazon Associate, Daysha earns a small percentage from qualifying purchases):

• The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga

RESOURCES:

• The Real Talk Friend Therapy Friendship Painpoint Survey

• Looking for someone to talk to about this week’s episode? Join our exclusive Facebook group!

• Looking for a new therapist? Or are you interested in starting therapy for the first time? Check out the Real Talk Friend Therapy Therapist Resources List!

• Level up yourself + your adult friendships through more tips, explanations, advice and strategies on the Yes Queen YouTube Channel!

• For news, updates and more insights on how to create stronger adult friendships, join the Yes Queen email list.

CONNECT:

Daysha Veronica

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BlueSky: @DayshaVeronica

Yes Queen

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CREDITS:

Producer: Becky Harris 

Executive Producer: Daysha Veronica

If you like what you hear, don’t forget to subscribe, and leave us a 5 star review wherever you listen to podcasts!

When people talk about attachment styles in popular culture, it’s usually within the context of a romantic relationship. But understanding your attachment style can actually be super beneficial for your friendships as well. In this week’s episode, Daysha goes over:

• What the three major attachment styles are

• How we, as a culture, have been thinking about independence all wrong

• And how she learned how to manage her anxiety in her friendships

So, if you’ve always wondered:

• What does a secure friendship look like?

• How do I recognize when my attachment style is sabotaging my friendships?

• How to become a more secure friend?

Then I hope you are sat and ready because Real Talk Friend Therapy with Daysha Veronica is in session!

REFERENCES (As an Amazon Associate, Daysha earns a small percentage from qualifying purchases):

• What Attachment Styles Teach Us About Our Friendships; Lane Moore 

• Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make–and Keep–Friends by Marisa G. Franco

• Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find–and Keep–Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller 

• EP 17: WTF is Vulnerability?

• EP 20: Why is Vulnerability SO Hard? FT. Sharmishtha Gupta

RESOURCES:

• The Real Talk Friend Therapy Friendship Painpoint Survey

• Want to hear new episodes 2 days early? Subscribe to our Patreon!

• Looking for someone to talk to about this week’s episode? Join our exclusive Facebook group!

• Looking for a new therapist? Or are you interested in starting therapy for the first time? Check out the Real Talk Friend Therapy Therapist Resources List!

• Level up yourself + your adult friendships through more tips, explanations, advice and strategies on the Yes Queen YouTube Channel!

• For news, updates and more insights on how to create stronger adult friendships, join the Yes Queen email list.

CONNECT:

Daysha Veronica

IG/Threads: @DayshaVeronica

TikTok: @DayshaVeronica

BlueSky: @DayshaVeronica

Yes Queen

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BlueSky:@YesQueenLife

CREDITS:

Producer: Becky Harris 

Executive Producers: Daysha Veronica, Bailey Murphy

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For our last episode in the friendship and money series, Daysha has a mini coaching session for y’all this week that dives into ways you can turn down group outings in a clear and kind manner when you don’t have the funds. In this episode she:

• Offers strategies on how to define your financial boundaries

• Walks you through a step-by-step example on how to say no and what to do when faced with push back

• And reveals personal tactics that she uses when telling people no

So if you’ve always wondered:

• What do I say when I can’t afford to go out?

• How do I handle friends who pressure me to spend money?

• How do I set money boundaries with my friends?

Then I hope you are sat and ready because Real Talk Friend Therapy with Daysha Veronica is in session!

REFERENCES: (As an Amazon Associate, Daysha earns a small percentage from qualifying purchases):

• The Book of Boundaries: Set The Limits That Will Set You Free by Melissa Urban

• The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga

• EP 3: What is Friendship?

• EP 10: To Communicate or Not Communicate Our Boundaries FT. Calix Vu-Bui

RESOURCES:

• The Real Talk Friend Therapy Friendship Painpoint Survey

• Want to hear new episodes 2 days early? Subscribe to our Patreon!

• Looking for someone to talk to about this week’s episode? Join our exclusive Facebook group!

• Looking for a new therapist? Or are you interested in starting therapy for the first time? Check out the Real Talk Friend Therapy Therapist Resources List!

• Level up yourself + your adult friendships through more tips, explanations, advice and strategies on the Yes Queen YouTube Channel!

• For news, updates and more insights on how to create stronger adult friendships, join the Yes Queen email list.

CONNECT:

Daysha Veronica

IG/Threads: @DayshaVeronica

TikTok: @DayshaVeronica

BlueSky: @DayshaVeronica

Yes Queen

IG/Threads: @YesQueenLife

TikTok: @YesQueenLife

BlueSky:@YesQueenLife

CREDITS:

Producer: Becky Harris 

Executive Producers: Daysha Veronica, Bailey Murphy

If you like what you hear, don’t forget to subscribe, and leave us a 5 star review wherever you listen to podcasts!