Real Talk With Amiri

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According to cmswire, we are addicted to social media because of psychology. As Dr. Pamela Rutledge explains, social validation is an important factor in human nature because it affirms our existence. Thus”it’s not how social media works that drives people to use it how they do- it’s people who are driving how social media works for us”.

You are planning to get some work done, or do something as simple as sleep when you decide it would be best to check your phone first before doing so. You start off by maybe checking your texts or emails, and then you decide to check your social medias such as Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook. And before you know it, you have refreshed each social medias’ newsfeed at least three times, and it has been over an hour since you started. This scenario is a familiar one for this generation (especially to us procrastinators), as we are practically glued to our phones on a daily basis. I feel the biggest culprit of this is not the phone itself, but the social medias that are downloaded onto our phones, which causes us mindless hours of staring at a screen. Is it just because we are hiding from the world and living through our phones, or is there a more scientific reason behind it?

Social media addiction is a behavioral addiction characterized as being overly concerned about social media and driven by an uncontrollable urge to log on to or use social media. Social media addicts spend so much time on their social apps that it impairs other important life areas. 

Social media platforms such as Facebook, Snapchat, and Instagram produce the same neural circuitry caused by gambling and recreational drugs. A constant stream of retweets, likes, and shares affects the brain's reward area and triggers the same kind of chemical reaction as other drugs, such as cocaine. Some neuroscientists have compared social media interaction to a syringe of dopamine being injected straight into the system.

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Relationships can be beautiful, offering happiness, friendship, and security. These unions can keep you young and feeling your best. On the other hand, there are relationships that are considered toxic.

These relationships can do the opposite of their counterparts. So, why do people remain in these partnerships?

1. Low self-esteem

2. Financial dependence

3. Shame

4. Shared investments

5. Weighing options

6. Manipulation

7. Doing it for the kids

8. Inability to see the truth

9. Love

In rare circumstances, love will be the reason you stay. No matter how bad the relationship gets, you may still retain feelings for your partner. This is probably one of the hardest unions to break, and the most painful. I hate to tell you this, but love is not enough.

Change is not bad

Ending a relationship, especially if it’s one that’s lasted a decade or more, will seem almost impossible. There will come a time, however, that you will understand that it’s time to go. When you feel this pull, don’t ignore it. It’s best to start the process and move on in life.

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What you allow is what will continue.” This is such a powerful quote. It gives you control over how others treat you, and what behaviors you will accept. If you find that you are being mistreated by someone, you need to disallow that behavior. Whether that involves a conversation, setting boundaries, or cutting ties.

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What TO Do:

• Do recognize that normalizing for what it is: Manipulation.
• Do listen to your inner voice. Learn to distinguish between what you know is right and what someone else asks you to accept.
• Do work on boundaries . If someone is pressuring you to accept something you are uncomfortable with, walk away.
• If it's illegal, dangerous, or has the potential to harm yourself or others, report it to the proper authorities.
• Do discuss what you are going through with supportive, understanding friends, family, therapists or a support community.

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Get Married First.  Having children is a lifetime commitment.  And should not be taken lightly.  
Let's start making real families, and not single mothers. The ones who suffer are the children.  

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Some of the problems you can have in Relationships...
Talking with Special Guest Jason Williams

• Lack of trust
• Overwhelm
• Poor communication
• Not prioritizing each other
• Money stress
• Changing priorities
• Chore wars
• Different intimacy needs
• Lack of appreciation
• Children
• Overinvolvement
• Infidelity
• Significant differences
• Jealousy
• Unrealistic expectations
• Growing apart
• Lack of support
• Addiction
• Moving at different speeds
• Lack of responsibility
• Controlling behavior
• Boredom
• Outside Influences
• Ineffective argument
• Keeping a scoreboard

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Toxic relationships cause feelings of low self-worth, helplessness, fear, anxiety, depression, insecurity, paranoia, and even narcissism. “Toxic relationships are dangerous to your health; they will literally kill you...Toxic relationships cause feelings of low self-worth, helplessness, fear, anxiety, depression, insecurity, paranoia, and even narcissism. “Toxic relationships are dangerous to your health; they will literally kill you. Stress shortens your lifespan. literally kill you. Stress shortens your lifespan.

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What is Trauma Bonding...

Accepting blame for abuse.
Feeling you deserve the abuse
Justifying the abuse
Believeing you can change your abuser
Excusing the abuse 

How to Prevent Trauma Bonding
Take your time when getting to know someone and learn about their past
Look out for the erd flags and signs of abusive behavior
Be sure your boundaries are respected
Make sure what you hear is  really what you get...... 
And that no hidden truths start popping up.
Watch out for som;eone who is overly charming or showers you with excessive attention early on.
Be wary of someone who says that all of their ex-partners are crazy
Remember that if osmeone seems too good to be true, a good chance they are not being  entirely real with you...

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