Real Talk With Amiri

What Do You Think? 

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Thought about a checklist for Ms. Chrisean Rock 

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A up and close dysfunctional relationship.

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 The advertisement shown below gives insight into the feminization of Chinese men through work, for it is due to the man’s career that he is drawn with make-up and pictured in an ad revolving around laundry, a ‘feminine’ job, to begin with.

 Chinese men in America during the 19th and 20th centuries were unable to escape the social stigma of being effeminate regardless of where they turned. They were effectively trapped in a never-ending loop of effeminization. Chinese men were discriminated against at the border for their “effeminate” bodies. For those who were able to make it through this barrier, they were oftentimes forced into feminine jobs, unable to appear as a man in working society. Unable to perform patriarchy with a lack of a present wife and family, they again did not have access to the traditional American man’s ways of achieving manhood. They were further seen as feminine. Ideas perpetuated by Chinese men leading “feminine lives”, i.e. no families or masculine jobs, further incited immigration officials to perform discriminatory practices at the border. Chinese men were not given an opportunity to prove the effeminate stereotype otherwise.57 

For as long as America has been a country, the straight white American man has been king of the hill. But as society changes and culture evolves, the ground beneath that hill is growing shaky. Economically, physically and emotionally, many American men are fighting to maintain a foothold.

"What it means to be a man today is different than what it meant 20 years ago," says James O'Neil, PhD, a psychologist at the University of Connecticut who studies gender role conflict. "There's a paradigm shift occurring in our country regarding what it means to be masculine, and many men have had difficulty adjusting to that transition."

 

Effeminate behaviors are behaviors that men exhibit that are more stereotypical female in nature. This could include more overt displays of emotion and a deeper focus on one’s personal appearance to name just a few. To display or exhibit effeminate behaviors does not make an individual less masculine.

However, often times these effeminate behaviors are the consequence of perceiving oneself as an emasculated male. Believing that one is ‘not man enough’ (emasculated male) is often not a conscious process.

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What could the problem be? 

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I HAD MORE MONEY THAN I’D EVER DREAMED, BUT I FELT EMOTIONALLY BANKRUPT.

KEY POINTS

• Money cannot buy love, but money increases the chances of finding love, and love decreases the need for money.
• A higher income is associated with less daily sadness but not more daily happiness.
• A partner should not be a means for your success, but one with whom you share joint flourishing.
• What Women Say About Money and Love
  
  Here are random citations (appearing mostly in Reddit) from women, on money and love.
  • “I met a woman who was married to a member of one of the wealthiest families in the world. One day, on a plane journey, she sat next to a completely ordinary guy with a completely ordinary job, who was easygoing and kind. They fell in love. She left her husband, married the ordinary guy and they are still in love after many years together.”
  • “Nothing in life is free. Marrying him just for the money means you have been bought and sold. He will expect a certain level of performance from his new acquisition (not just sex) or you will be out the door.”
  • “Frankly I don't mind being bought and sold; marriage itself is a transaction. I don't expect a Mercedes, or anything of that sort. The marriage will still have problems, money or no money, so why not?”
  • “I absolutely do not regret not marrying a rich man.”
  • “Money will not ease the stress of marriage if you do not have a loving relationship.”
  • “There's nothing wrong with marrying a rich man. But do marry for love, honor, respect and compatibility.”
  • “Money won't make your life joyful; it will make it comfortable until you want more. It will never be enough. Find someone who brings honest joy into your life. Money is a bonus.”
  • “I’d rather marry rich, definitely; it’s so much easier to do creative things when you already have money.”
  • You can buy a relationship, a marriage and sex. But are those things true love?
  • Money doesn't buy love, but rather opportunities for finding love.

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What do you think is the most important problem facing this country today

The government/Poor leadership
Economy in general
Immigration
High cost of living/Inflation
Other non-economic
Crime/Violence
Race relations/Racism
No opinion
Poverty/Hunger/Homelessness
Ethics/moral/religious/family decline
Unifying the country
Judicial system/Courts/Laws
Federal budget deficit/Federal debt
Abortion
Guns/Gun control
Elections/Election reform/Democracy
Environment/Pollution/Climate change
LGBT rights
Lack of money
Education
Healthcare
Lack of military defense
Drugs
Foreign policy/Foreign aid/Focusoverseas
Fuel/Oil prices
Taxes
Gap between rich and poor
The media
Wars/War (nonspecific)/Fear of war
National security
Situation with Russia
Lack of respect for each other
Childrens behaviour/Way they are raised
Wage issues
Unemployment/J

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HE WANTS TO PURSUE A CAREER THAT DOESN’T REQUIRE A COLLEGE EDUCATION.

If your child wants to be a doctor or lawyer, a college education is necessary. But what if your child wants to become a plumber, an electrician, a hairdresser, or a musician?

None of these careers absolutely require a college education. Some will net your child good money without college. The others, like becoming a musician, are fairly low paying jobs. If your child takes out loans to pay for a music degree, will he be able to afford to work in the music field while paying off the loans?

When your child has strong ideas about what he wants to do with his life, make sure he actually needs that college degree before paying for it.

SHE CAN’T HANDLE THE ACADEMICS.

HE ISN’T RESPONSIBLE.

WHAT TO DO INSTEAD OF COLLEGE

Contrary to what many teachers lead you to believe, there are plenty of options for kids who are not college bound right after high school.

GET A JOB

GO TO TRADE SCHOOL

LEARN INDEPENDENTLY

ENROLL IN A GAP YEAR PROGRAM

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We are all ordinary people...

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Affirmative action is intended to promote the opportunities of defined minority groups within a society to give them equal access to that of the majority population.

The Congressional Black Caucus Foundation Focuses On Advancing The Global Black Community. Work Collaboratively With CBCF To Ensure That Every American Has A Fair Chance To Succeed. Educational Institute. Public Policy Research. Nonpartisan Nonprofit.

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