Real You, Real Money with Ray Dodd

I want to start with a quick content warning: today we’re talking about grief, specifically the death of a parent.  If this is a vulnerable topic for you, this might be an episode to skip or listen to with care.

I’ve been feeling the pull to record an episode on grieving while running your business for a while now, mainly because this has been so prominent in my own business, and I haven’t found much content that speaks to it.

This isn’t going to be an episode where I teach you how to smash your business goals despite your grief – in my experience, that’s just not how it works. For me, making space to care for myself while grieving is the main thing that has allowed me to balance the work that that I love, which sustains me and my family, with the very personal processes and emotions around losing a loved one.

Listen in for a nuanced conversation on what it’s like to find balance in times of loss, and the unavoidably practical side of trying to slow down in a world that keeps moving.

If you have experience with anything discussed in this episode, I’m sending lots of love your way.

QUOTES

"Sometimes things do fall out of the sky when we weren't expecting it. And that's really scary. But rather than working on all the ways you'll manage it, try to work on looking at the things you can control. One of the main things you can control is believing that you will cope."

"This doesn't have to be the year you smash it. What if this is the year that you coast? What if this is the year where you get by and it's okay? If I'd been honest about that in the moment, I actually think I'd have made more money ironically, because I think I'd have made a plan for a coasting me, not a smashing it me."

Get ready, cause this one’s a deep dive! Doctor Asher Larmie joins me in this episode of Real You Real Money to talk through the intricacies of gender identity, gender conditioning, and what it all means not only when you’re navigating your business, but the world.

Asher is a transmasculine doctor now working independently with clients to combat weight stigma and promote weight-inclusive care. Together, we dive into the complicated nuances between the very personal side of gender identity, and how it relates to the larger social conditioning and often arbitrary expectations we place on people based on the gender they’re born into. Bringing both of our experiences to the table, this conversation is mainly about what it means to be socially conditioned as female.

You can find out more about Asher at https://www.fatdoctor.co.uk/

This week I’m welcoming Joeli Caparco to the podcast! Joeli is a brilliant coach who helps people reconnect with their needs, wants, and desires so that they can have happier, healthier relationships.

Together we unpack the complexities of how money-making plays into, and sometimes determines the dynamics of our marriages and relationships. Fair warning, it’s a maze of conditioning, a healthy dose of grey area, and a whole lot of self (re)discovery!

Stay tuned as Joeli shares her own story of a dysfunctional money dynamic within her previous marriage, and how she created a new family balance that made room for the work that she’s passionate about and the moneymaking possibilities that come with it.

You can find out more about Joeli’s work at

queercyclecoach.com

@joelicaparco

If you’re up to date with coaching industry trends, you may have noticed a big uptick in ‘do it my way’ marketing - people selling the one solution that will skyrocket your business to success. If you’re a long time listener, you may have already guessed that I’m NOT a fan of one size fits all solutions.

In this episode, I’m diving into the mentality that leads people to lean on step by step techniques, how these methods are rooted in scarcity, and the mindset alternatives that will provide much more longevity and ease to your money making. Tune in for tips on how to gain a deeper understanding of your business beliefs and where they come from, plus how to use these to be a discerning consumer of advice and coaching.

QUOTES

"My very first discovery of Mindset was mindblowing to me, this concept that I had control over my brain, that I didn't just have to accept these thoughts and beliefs that didn't feel like they fit me. I got to choose my beliefs about myself rather than just feeling like I was a victim to them."

"There's a need for control, a need for steadiness - because we don't have it, we're trying to create it. What we really need for that stability is to find it internally, and mindset work is part of a way that we can do that."

"Group coaching is an amazing thing when it comes to money because one of the biggest things holding us back from feeling good about money is shame.  One of the key ways that we remove shame is by sharing in groups, by understanding that we're not alone."

I'm thrilled to welcome Nicola to the podcast! As a Coach, Coach Trainer, Certified Coach Supervisor, and experienced Creative Strategist, Nicola takes a strategic yet heart-centered approach, creating holistic solutions by examining the bigger picture and understanding how the various systems of our society intersect.

In this episode, Nicola shares how her experiences have shaped her approach to ambition, both within and outside of money-making. Tune in for valuable advice on taking a holistic approach to ambition, its impact on everything from sales to daily life, and what it means to balance the personal, professional, and beyond.

You can find Nicola at:

https://www.alifemoreinspired.com/

Or on Instagram @nicolaraewickham

QUOTES

‘I think in line with looking at ambition is looking at our definitions of success. For me, a definition of success is being able to do the school runs. That is very personal and that's a definition of success, as well as income goals being a definition of success, as well as being able to go on adventures. Whatever it is, there are these bigger ones and these smaller ones.”

“What has worked before isn’t going to work going forward

“I have learned that I can really trust my business and I can really trust my work. I can trust myself. Life can be happening and things can be going on and with the right support, you can still show up and deliver.”

My guest today is Claire Paniccia, a brilliant business coach helping neurodivergent, spoonie, and creative rebel online entrepreneurs figure out how to do business (and make money) in ways that work for THEM.

Claire and I walk through the unique layout of moneymaking when you’re neurodiverse, from the limits of corporate life to finding your footing in self-employment and everything in between.

Tune in for insight on how running your own business can expand your earning potential, how to get your business to work for you, plus some really helpful tips on how to balance fluctuating energy levels with income consistency.

On Jul 22nd - Jul 25th, Claire is hosting a free 4-day online event to help you toss out the “rules” and build your online business to work for YOUR unique brain.

https://raydodd--conqueryourcontent.thrivecart.com/nd-summit/ (This is an affiliate link, I was a speaker last year and can promise that this is one not to miss!)

QUOTES

“What was a successful, functional, proven path for someone else might not be a successful path for you. Let's say they had really good hiking shoes,  and you have flip flops for the brain.  Your flip flop brain is not going to do well on the hiking path that they used cleats on.”

“I love an unregulated industry because there's so much opportunity without gatekeeping. But a flip side of that coin is that there are gross opportunists. It’s kind of baby with the bathwater.”

Today we’re debunking the myth that there are certain times of the year that you just can’t make money. So many of my clients stress about quiet summer months— lots of people even think it’s a given that they won’t make any sales in August. I want you to know that’s just not true.

Tune in for a breakdown of the reason that you have such low expectations for summer sales, and how to challenge this in a way that could turn August into your best month of the year.

Interested in a free masterclass to boost your sales? Sign up for three simple steps here: https://www.raydodd.co.uk/masterclass

QUOTES

“Think about what your clients want and stay out of their pockets and their diaries and their holiday plans and their rest plans and how much time they should spend with their kids.”

“Don't be afraid to gamify it. In fact, do it. Money doesn't need to be treated so heavily and seriously all the time. In fact, it loves not to be. So how can you make it lighter?”

Today we’re joined by brilliant photographer and business owner Éadaoin Curtin!

Éadaoin’s specialises in branding photography with her business Firechild Photography, and has a fresh and encouraging perspective on how to put your face to your brand. Her approach is backed by years of connecting with entrepreneurs and bringing the most authentic reflection of themselves to the surface.

Tune in for talk on the pressures of being visible— literally — the revelations that happen when you are free of the male gaze, and the conditioning we challenge whenever we have our photo taken.

You can find out more about Éadaoin at:

https://firechildphotography.com/

@ firechildphotography

And if you’re catching this episode on 6 June, you’re JUST in time to sign up to Plenty! You can find all the info here: https://www.raydodd.co.uk/plenty

QUOTES

“None of my clients are getting the photos taken because they want to promote how they look. It's because they want to promote how they work, what they do, how they can help you. The body that they are in is important…and irrelevant.”

“In being the real you, people will be attracted to you. If you’re actively trying to blend in with all the other coaches, you just become one of a crowd. That's the countercultural aspect of showing up in front of the camera as yourself.”

The brilliant Asher Larmie joins me today to talk about combatting scarcity, prioritising accessibility, and learning to embrace making the money you desire.

Asher is an educator and advocate combatting weight stigma and promoting weight-inclusive care. They offer courses, books and masterclasses that empower you on your health journey without all the toxic weight loss nonsense.

Asher is part of my money program Plenty, and has had huge success in doubling their income within the space of 6 months. We walk through that journey together, starting with how to challenge money stories carried through generations, facing the unique finances of being self-employed, and embracing a sense of community to lead you through it all.

This episode is for you if you’re interested in how to challenge your conditioning around money… and so is Plenty! Doors are now open to join, with full information on the program and community and a link to sign up right here: https://www.raydodd.co.uk/plenty.

For more information on working with Asher, check out

@thefatdoctor

https://www.fatdoctor.co.uk/

QUOTES

"I didn't realise just how much that was passed down, I didn't realise it massively impacts how I live my entire life, in the fear that money could just disappear at any moment in time."

"It felt like one of my deepest, darkest secrets. How dare I admit that I not only want to earn money, but I think I can and maybe should earn money. "

"The whole point of this community is that...we are forming a resistance almost. We are here to support each other, but also to help each other to fight back."

'It costs that much cause it takes me f***ing hours…' If you sang this lyric in your head then you’ve probably heard of Laura Jane Barnes, who joins us in today’s episode!

Of course, Laura Jane is more than just a viral song maker (which we’ll get into in the pod). She is a business strategist who helps artists and handmade business owners turn their social media efforts into an engaged and loyal online following.

Tune in as Laura and I talk through why visibility as a small business owner is more essential than you think, how to establish trust with your following, and why the algorithm isn’t your enemy.

For more about Laura Jane, go to:

https://www.laurajanebarnes.com/

Or follow @heyitslaurajane

And if you’re interested in making your own impact online, join the waitlist for Plenty right here: https://www.raydodd.co.uk/plenty

QUOTE

'When it comes to like artists and hand makers and stuff like that, I see a lot of “I don't want to be a content creator. I don't want to be a personal brand’ … Well, you don't have to be, but your journey is going to be more difficult. Because the reason that someone buys from a small business owner over a huge company is that personal connection.'

'I think the other thing with showing up is that people assume that in order to be visible that you have to give up your privacy, and I don't think that's the case. It's not about letting strangers in, it's about letting yourself out.'

'This is the main piece with engagement that so many people are missing: you need to give people an opportunity to share themselves, their values, their opinions, their experiences, their preferences, because people want to talk about themselves…. Then you'll find that people actually start building friendships within your comment section.'