Dr.s Kay and Ray share their separate top 5 moments from the whole season 3 of White Lotus, without having previously discussed. While there were some overlapping concepts, the top 10 moments ended up being (almost entirely) unique! 

What were your top 5 (or top 10!) moments of this season? Any overlaps with Dr. Kay’s & Dr. Ray’s? 

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First 30 members get shoutouts & once we reach 50 members,  we’ll donate $10/month to the ACLU for the year ahead & hopefully beyond!

We now have ONE membership tier at $5/month, and you'll get access to ALL of our benefits, including our behind-the-scenes videos, Mental Health Check-Ups (audio episodes with deeper exploration of various relevant psychological concepts), Mental Health InfoVids (videos with excerpts from reality tv shows matched with mental health or relational lessons & recommendations), Dr. Kay’s Rants (video of one of Dr. Kay’s rant by video episodes), & VIP access to our live Q&A sessions! If you want to remain a free member, you'll still get great exclusive content, including access to polls and lengthy infovid trailers, etc.! 

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Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality. 

So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality. 

Come with us, let’s Reality Test!

Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. Ray

Thank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!

Patreon: patreon.com/RealityTest

Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypods

TikTok: @dr.realitv

Facebook Page: Reality Test Pod

YouTube Channel: @RealityTestPod

Email: [email protected]

This is a video excerpt of episode 88. The full video is on patreon.com/RealityTest!

And the full audio is wherever you get your podcasts!

Dr.s Kay and Ray discuss the second half of The White Lotus season 3 finale! They finish discussing the resolutions reached by the end of the finale, including around the murders that the season started with. Various metaphors and spiritual references are discussed, as well as various uses of water imagery.

What was your favorite metaphor or reference Mike White fashioned this season?

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First 30 members get shoutouts & once we reach 50 members,  we’ll donate $10/month to the ACLU for the year ahead & hopefully beyond!

We now have ONE membership tier at $5/month, and you'll get access to ALL of our benefits, including our behind-the-scenes videos, Mental Health Check-Ups (audio episodes with deeper exploration of various relevant psychological concepts), Mental Health InfoVids (videos with excerpts from reality tv shows matched with mental health or relational lessons & recommendations), Dr. Kay’s Rants (video of one of Dr. Kay’s rant by video episodes), & VIP access to our live Q&A sessions! If you want to remain a free member, you'll still get great exclusive content, including access to polls and lengthy infovid trailers, etc.! 

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Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality. 

So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality. 

Come with us, let’s Reality Test!

Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. Ray

Thank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!

Patreon: patreon.com/RealityTest

Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypods

TikTok: @dr.realitv

Facebook Page: Reality Test Pod

YouTube Channel: @RealityTestPod

Email: [email protected]

Dr.s Kay and Ray discuss the second half of The White Lotus season 3 finale! They finish discussing the resolutions reached by the end of the finale, including around the murders that the season started with. Various metaphors and spiritual references are discussed, as well as various uses of water imagery.

What was your favorite metaphor or reference Mike White fashioned this season?

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Listeners! Come visit the Patreon for free at⁠⁠ ⁠patreon.com/RealityTest⁠⁠⁠ & check out some of the benefits of a free membership & the paid tier! 

First 30 members get shoutouts & once we reach 50 members,  we’ll donate $10/month to the ACLU for the year ahead & hopefully beyond!

We now have ONE membership tier at $5/month, and you'll get access to ALL of our benefits, including our behind-the-scenes videos, Mental Health Check-Ups (audio episodes with deeper exploration of various relevant psychological concepts), Mental Health InfoVids (videos with excerpts from reality tv shows matched with mental health or relational lessons & recommendations), Dr. Kay’s Rants (video of one of Dr. Kay’s rant by video episodes), & VIP access to our live Q&A sessions! If you want to remain a free member, you'll still get great exclusive content, including access to polls and lengthy infovid trailers, etc.! 

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Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality. 

So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality. 

Come with us, let’s Reality Test!

Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. Ray

Thank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!

Patreon: patreon.com/RealityTest

Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypods

TikTok: @dr.realitv

Facebook Page: Reality Test Pod

YouTube Channel: @RealityTestPod

Email: [email protected]

This is a video excerpt of episode 87, also found on YouTube.

The full video is on ⁠Patreon⁠

FULL AUDIO on Apple & Spotify

Dr.s Kay and Ray discuss the first half of The White Lotus season 3 finale! They explore Mike White's stated theme of spirituality, psychological concepts that came up, and where resolution was found.

Dr. Ray points out a potential moment of implicit racism in the direction (or production/editing?), and both hosts discuss the connection between spirituality and community orientation. They also discuss the opening message from the monk and its connection to comfort with ambiguity vs. the need for resolution.

What plot lines do you think lacked resolution?

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Listeners! Come visit the Patreon for free at⁠⁠ ⁠patreon.com/RealityTest⁠⁠⁠ & check out some of the benefits of a free membership & the paid tier! 

First 30 members get shoutouts & once we reach 50 members,  we’ll donate $10/month to the ACLU for the year ahead & hopefully beyond!

We now have ONE membership tier at $5/month, and you'll get access to ALL of our benefits, including our behind-the-scenes videos, Mental Health Check-Ups (audio episodes with deeper exploration of various relevant psychological concepts), Mental Health InfoVids (videos with excerpts from reality tv shows matched with mental health or relational lessons & recommendations), Dr. Kay’s Rants (video of one of Dr. Kay’s rant by video episodes), & VIP access to our live Q&A sessions! If you want to remain a free member, you'll still get great exclusive content, including access to polls and lengthy infovid trailers, etc.! 

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Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality. 

So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality. 

Come with us, let’s Reality Test!

Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. Ray

Thank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!

Patreon: patreon.com/RealityTest

Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypods

TikTok: @dr.realitv

Facebook Page: Reality Test Pod

YouTube Channel: @RealityTestPod

Email: [email protected]

Dr.s Kay and Ray discuss the first half of The White Lotus season 3 finale! They explore Mike White's stated theme of spirituality, psychological concepts that came up, and where resolution was found.

Dr. Ray points out a potential moment of implicit racism in the direction (or production/editing?), and both hosts discuss the connection between spirituality and community orientation. They also discuss the opening message from the monk and its connection to comfort with ambiguity vs. the need for resolution.

What plot lines do you think lacked resolution?

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Listeners! Come visit the Patreon for free at⁠ ⁠patreon.com/RealityTest⁠⁠ & check out some of the benefits of a free membership & the paid tier! 

First 30 members get shoutouts & once we reach 50 members,  we’ll donate $10/month to the ACLU for the year ahead & hopefully beyond!

We now have ONE membership tier at $5/month, and you'll get access to ALL of our benefits, including our behind-the-scenes videos, Mental Health Check-Ups (audio episodes with deeper exploration of various relevant psychological concepts), Mental Health InfoVids (videos with excerpts from reality tv shows matched with mental health or relational lessons & recommendations), Dr. Kay’s Rants (video of one of Dr. Kay’s rant by video episodes), & VIP access to our live Q&A sessions! If you want to remain a free member, you'll still get great exclusive content, including access to polls and lengthy infovid trailers, etc.! 

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Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality. 

So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality. 

Come with us, let’s Reality Test!

Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. Ray

Thank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!

Patreon: patreon.com/RealityTest

Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypods

TikTok: @dr.realitv

Facebook Page: Reality Test Pod

YouTube Channel: @RealityTestPod

Email: [email protected]

This is an excerpt of the video version of episode 86!

Video Excerpt also found on YouTube: https://youtu.be/w3kPr7hZNoU

And on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/do-this-but-dont-126422016

For the full video, visit our Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/posts/video-episode-86-126423642

For the full audio: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0hQ2SdZzJ2z1G1EfXHkYZd?si=Sq2hxKe1RMSWKKfDcf5lZg

Or on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/do-this-but-dont-126225949

Or on YouTube: https://www.youtu.be/tVaBs7pzPpE

Dr.s Kay and Ray discuss their top 5 “do’s” and top 5 “don’t’s” when players are living that pod life in any given Love is Blind season. Their explanations of these top 10 recommendations for connecting well in the pods are accompanied by examples from Season 8 tragedies, comedies, and dramas. 

This includes deeper discussion of the castmates who didn’t make it to the honeymoon stage, including Madison, Mason, Megs, and Alex. However, they wrote these Do’s & Don’ts with the larger context of Love is Blind universe in mind, so they’ll be useful for future seasons! For example, one “Do” is to talk about past relationships and attachment, something that came up with numerous dyads, including Madison & Alex. 

What are some of your suggestions to future Love is Blind castmates for behaviors to consider and behaviors to avoid? 

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Listeners! Come visit the Patreon for free at⁠ ⁠patreon.com/RealityTest⁠⁠ & check out some of the benefits of a free membership & the paid tier! 

First 30 members get shoutouts & once we reach 50 members,  we’ll donate $10/month to the ACLU for the year ahead & hopefully beyond!

We now have ONE membership tier at $5/month, and you'll get access to ALL of our benefits, including our behind-the-scenes videos, Mental Health Check-Ups (audio episodes with deeper exploration of various relevant psychological concepts), Mental Health InfoVids (videos with excerpts from reality tv shows matched with mental health or relational lessons & recommendations), Dr. Kay’s Rants (video of one of Dr. Kay’s rant by video episodes), & VIP access to our live Q&A sessions! If you want to remain a free member, you'll still get great exclusive content, including access to polls and lengthy infovid trailers, etc.! 

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Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality. 

So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality. 

Come with us, let’s Reality Test!

Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. Ray

Thank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!

Patreon: patreon.com/RealityTest

Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypods

TikTok: @dr.realitv

Facebook Page: Reality Test Pod

YouTube Channel: @RealityTestPod

Email: [email protected]

Check out the video version of this episode... there's a free excerpt on

Spotify,

YouTube, &

Patreon!
For the full video, become a Patreon member for $5/month or buy one video episode for $5 when paying on computer (to avoid Apple Store's fees of $2.50 extra!)!

Dr.s Kay and Ray discuss their top 5 “do’s” (behaviors to aspire to) and top 5 “don’t’s” (behaviors to avoid) when players are living that pod life in any given Love is Blind season. Their explanations of these top 10 recommendations for connecting well in the pods are accompanied by examples from Season 8 tragedies, comedies, and dramas. 

This includes deeper discussion of the castmates who didn’t make it to the honeymoon stage, including Madison, Mason, Megs, and Alex. However, they wrote these Do’s & Don’ts with the larger context of Love is Blind universe in mind, so they’ll be useful for future seasons! For example, one “Do” is to talk about past relationships and attachment, something that came up with numerous dyads, including Madison & Alex. 

What are some of your suggestions to future Love is Blind castmates for behaviors to aspire to and behaviors to avoid? 

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Listeners! Come visit the Patreon for free at⁠ ⁠patreon.com/RealityTest⁠⁠ & check out some of the benefits of a free membership & the paid tier! 

First 30 members get shoutouts & once we reach 50 members,  we’ll donate $10/month to the ACLU for the year ahead & hopefully beyond!

We now have ONE membership tier at $5/month, and you'll get access to ALL of our benefits, including our behind-the-scenes videos, Mental Health Check-Ups (audio episodes with deeper exploration of various relevant psychological concepts), Mental Health InfoVids (videos with excerpts from reality tv shows matched with mental health or relational lessons & recommendations), Dr. Kay’s Rants (video of one of Dr. Kay’s rant by video episodes), & VIP access to our live Q&A sessions! If you want to remain a free member, you'll still get great exclusive content, including access to polls and lengthy infovid trailers, etc.! 

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Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality. 

So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality. 

Come with us, let’s Reality Test!

Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. Ray

Thank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!

Patreon: patreon.com/RealityTest

Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypods

TikTok: @dr.realitv

Facebook Page: Reality Test Pod

YouTube Channel: @RealityTestPod

Email: [email protected]

This is an excerpt of the video version of episode 85!

Also found on YouTube:  https://youtu.be/Rmgd9f5ctDc

For the full video, visit our Patreon at patreon.com/RealityTest

For the full audio: https://spotifycreators-web.app.link/e/doRl22FVaSb

Dr.s Kay and Ray bring us back to their 8 awards for the month of March! Shows included range from Southern Charm & Summer House to The Bachelor and Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, as Dr.s Kay and Ray award castmates & moments from all of the realiTV they watched over the reality tv-rich month of March, 2025!

To whom or which moment would you award the TESTosterboned award (the most patriarchal moment or castmate) this month? Hint: Summer House was a fruitful source this month! What about the “Bechdel TEST” (the most feminist), “TESTimonials” (best confessional), or “TESTing 1, 2, 3” (best/worst producer antic)  awards? 

All shows included: The Bachelor, Love is Blind 8, Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, Southern Charm, and Summer House.

Next week, Dr.s Kay & Ray will discuss the Do’s & Don’ts of the Love is Blind pods! This will include deeper discussion of the castmates who didn’t make it to the honeymoon stage, including Madison, Mason, Megs, and Alex. However, they wrote these Do’s & Don’ts with the larger context of Love is Blind universe in mind, so they’ll be useful for future seasons! 

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Listeners! Come visit the Patreon for free at⁠ ⁠patreon.com/RealityTest⁠⁠ & check out some of the benefits of a free membership & the paid tier! 

First 30 members get shoutouts & once we reach 50 members,  we’ll donate $10/month to the ACLU for the year ahead & hopefully beyond!

We now have ONE membership tier at $5/month, and you'll get access to ALL of our benefits, including our behind-the-scenes videos, Mental Health Check-Ups (audio episodes with deeper exploration of various relevant psychological concepts), Mental Health InfoVids (videos with excerpts from reality tv shows matched with mental health or relational lessons & recommendations), Dr. Kay’s Rants (video of one of Dr. Kay’s rant by video episodes), & VIP access to our live Q&A sessions! If you want to remain a free member, you'll still get great exclusive content, including access to polls and lengthy infovid trailers, etc.! 

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Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality. 

So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality. 

Come with us, let’s Reality Test!

Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. Ray

Thank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!

Patreon: patreon.com/RealityTest

Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypods

TikTok: @dr.realitv

Facebook Page: Reality Test Pod

YouTube Channel: @RealityTestPod

Email: [email protected]

Dr.s Kay and Ray bring back their 8 awards in the awards show for the month of March! Shows included range from Southern Charm & Summer House to The Bachelor and Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, as Dr.s Kay and Ray award castmates & moments from all of the realiTV they watched over the reality tv-rich month of March, 2025!

Dr.s Kay & Ray discuss topics like the all-cast trip on Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, the sex shaming by castmates & by producers in two different shows, Craig's disclosure to Austen, The Bachelor finale, and Shep's first real heartbreak!

To whom or which moment would you award the TESTosterboned award (the most patriarchal moment or castmate) this month? Hint: Summer House was a fruitful source this month! What about the “Bechdel TEST” (the most feminist), “TESTimonials” (best confessional), or “TESTing 1, 2, 3” (best/worst producer antic)  awards? 

All shows included: The Bachelor, Love is Blind 8, Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, Southern Charm, and Summer House.

Next week, Dr.s Kay & Ray will discuss the Do’s & Don’ts of the Love is Blind pods! This will include deeper discussion of the castmates who didn’t make it to the honeymoon stage, including Madison, Mason, Megs, and Alex. However, they wrote these Do’s & Don’ts with the larger context of Love is Blind universe in mind, so they’ll be useful for future seasons! 

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Listeners! Come visit the Patreon for free at⁠ ⁠patreon.com/RealityTest⁠⁠ & check out some of the benefits of a free membership & the paid tier! 

First 30 members get shoutouts & once we reach 50 members,  we’ll donate $10/month to the ACLU for the year ahead & hopefully beyond!

We now have ONE membership tier at $5/month, and you'll get access to ALL of our benefits, including our behind-the-scenes videos, Mental Health Check-Ups (audio episodes with deeper exploration of various relevant psychological concepts), Mental Health InfoVids (videos with excerpts from reality tv shows matched with mental health or relational lessons & recommendations), Dr. Kay’s Rants (video of one of Dr. Kay’s rant by video episodes), & VIP access to our live Q&A sessions! If you want to remain a free member, you'll still get great exclusive content, including access to polls and lengthy infovid trailers, etc.! 

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Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality. 

So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality. 

Come with us, let’s Reality Test!

Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. Ray

Thank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!

Patreon: patreon.com/RealityTest

Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypods

TikTok: @dr.realitv

Facebook Page: Reality Test Pod

YouTube Channel: @RealityTestPod

Email: [email protected]

This is an excerpt of the video version of episode 84!

Also found on our YouTube: https://youtu.be/0MW_tAxZhLQ

For the full video, visit our Patreon at patreon.com/RealityTest

For the full audio: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1UMUKUDteelJLYqW4lcFGR?si=L0zh7wZRQ8-sgx1_rWukJA

Dr.s Kay and Ray continue the discussion they started last week, reviewing the four couples who made it to the altar on Love is Blind, season 8, as well as a number of the singles who came out of any stage of the show, including the pods. For example, Dr.s Kay & Ray discuss Lauren, Dave, Madison, Alex, Mason, & Megs, who joined in the reuniting, the sock bin tossing, the fam jamming, the counting down, the AD/O celebrating, and the dancing at the virtual concert ending. Next week, Dr.s Kay & Ray will be doing another episode of their world famous Award Ceremonies! Join the conversation for the 8 awards granted to any and all reality tv that came out in the month of March!

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Listeners! Come visit the Patreon for free at ⁠patreon.com/RealityTest⁠ (http://patreon.com/RealityTest) & check out some of the benefits of a free membership & the paid tier! First 30 members get shoutouts & once we reach 50 members,  we’ll donate $10/month to the ACLU for the year ahead & hopefully beyond!We now have ONE membership tier at $5/month, and you'll get access to ALL of our benefits, including our behind-the-scenes videos, Mental Health Check-Ups (audio episodes with deeper exploration of various relevant psychological concepts), Mental Health InfoVids (videos with excerpts from reality tv shows matched with mental health or relational lessons & recommendations), Dr. Kay’s Rants (video of one of Dr. Kay’s rant by video episodes), & VIP access to our live Q&A sessions! If you want to remain a free member, you'll still get great exclusive content, including access to polls and lengthy infovid trailers, etc.! 

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Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality. So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality. 

Come with us, let’s Reality Test!

Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. Ray

Thank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!

Patreon: patreon.com/RealityTest

Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypods

TikTok: @dr.realitv

Facebook Page: Reality Test Pod

YouTube Channel: @RealityTestPod

Email: [email protected]