Unforgiveness is the act of not letting go of an offense. Holding on to hurt. Holding on to a grievance. Holding a grudge in an effort to punish the offender but at the end the only person that suffers the most is the individual that is unwilling to forgive.
To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable, because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you.- C.S. Lewis
Forgiveness is an act of the will and not something that is birthed out of our emotions.
It’s narcissistic opens the door to the enemyGrieves the HSProof of a hardened heartPuts a stronghold on our livesBecomes bitterness and eventually affects our healthImmobilizes the hand of GodBrings destruction into our livesIT IS FUELED BY HATEYou know you have issues with unforgiveness when:
You are impulsiveYou want to air your grievancesYou are compulsiveYou don’t take responsibility for your feelingsYou are constantly sickYou gossip about that individualYou feel righteous and entitledJesus told his disciples (Luke 17:1) ”its impossible for no offenses to come your way” (NKJV)
- you can’t avoid them, they are not selective
its not “if they come” its when they comeOFFENSES WILL COMEits impossible to hide from ityou can’t dodge itthe longer you live the more you will have to face them
Your capacity to process and manage offenses will determine your overall outcome.
If you are not able to confront and overcome an offense what makes you think that God is going to entrust you with a greater task
God’s not looking for perfection just disposition. He’s not looking for talent, he’s in search of hearts that are meek and gentle.
If you get bent out of shape over the most minute situations you can forget about being commissioned by Him for something that’s bigger than you.