If you want a reminder of how awesome you are, spend some quality time with yourself.

My beloved guest Felisha Hunter and I discuss the annoying things people have said to us that ruined our lives in the best way. Grab Felisha’s books here: http://a.co/d/fxgjJOa

Ok but why is the ending of a friendship so incredibly painful?

Can you drink and do drugs and still be in recovery? What if you’ve recovered from a million other things? Tamara and I discuss the reintroduction of alcohol into her life after 7 years of abstinence. Can she still say she’s in recovery? Spoiler: fuck, yes she can.

People-pleasing is manipulative and I don’t care what you think.

It’s not me, it’s you! No, wait. It’s me. My enlightenment about being more compassionate, feeling guilty, realizing my triggers, and gaining more tolerance for others… especially myself.

When we’re forced to let go of who we are, to become what we need to be. Gross, painful, not fun, but bring it on!

Are you a self-described fixer or hero? Because, same. I love you but please stop. No one likes it. Also, you’re probably frustrated and exhausted and that’s not fun for you.

In these situations, there are no winners… but there are a TON of losers. Special guest Lauren and I exchange horror stories, and talk about why the actual F we entertained these psychos for longer than 2 seconds. Lauren went through something unbelievable and if I could put a bounty on that dude’s head, I would (for legal reasons, I am joking). Also, can we pump the brakes on feeling embarrassed when we’re trapped in these relationships, pleeeease!

…and strong notes of co-dependency in so many relationships. Learning how to have my own back, finally!