Step 4 of the Nar-Anon Program. In the second part of Step 4, questions 14 - 31 are discussed:  
14.  Do I trust my own judgment? Why or why not?
15. Under what circumstances have I used my lack of trust as a weapon against others?
16. Who do I trust today and why?
17. What issues do I still not entrust to my Higher Power?
18. Why have I allowed someone to take advantage of me? What can I do differently?
19. What are some of my fears or anxieties?
20. How do I know if my fears are rational or irrational?
21. What do I believe causes my fears?
22. How can my Higher Power help with my fears?
23. What resentments am I holding onto from my past?
24. What do I gain from holding onto these resentments?
25. How are these resentments still affecting my life today?
26. Why do I resent it when others do not behave or act the way I think they should?
27. How do my resentments affect my relationships?
28. What do I fear will happen if I let go of my imaginary power?
29. Do I feel powerless and frightened of failure if I let go? If so, why? 
30. How has my controlling affected the well-being of others? Myself?
31. What can I do to let go of feeling the need to control?
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Step 4 of the Nar-Anon Program. In the first part of Step 4, questions 1 - 13 are discussed:  
1. What do I believe is the purpose of taking and writing my inventory?
2. Which feelings am I willing to explore?
3.  How can I change my life to have a more positive outlook?
4. How will honesty about my feelings benefit me?
5. What is working and not working in my life?
6. Am I afraid to take an honest look at myself? What are my fears?
7. How does having a Higher Power help me with my fears?
8. How can I overcome any fears of changing the things I can?
9. What are my positive and negative traits?
10. What attributes and principles do I value in myself?
11. How have they defined me as a person?
12. What stands in the way of my well-being?
13. Describe the person I want to be.
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Step 3 of the Nar-Anon Program. In the final part of Step 3, questions 16 - 36 are discussed:  
16. What does faith mean to me? 
17. What does having faith in a Higher Power mean to me? How do I obtain this faith? 
18. What are advantages of having faith and a belief in a Higher Power?
19. How did I feel about God or a Higher Power in the past? 
20. What is my present relationship with a Higher Power?
21. What is the difference between a Higher Power's will and self-will? Which way am I living my life today?
22. What have I done to interfere with a Higher Power's involvement in my life?
23. What steps can I take to know and understand my Higher Power's will for me?
24. When a loved one makes decisions I do not like, in what ways have I tried to take my will back?
25. What, if any, are my fears that my Higher Power's will for me may not be what I want?
26. In what situations have I been successful or unsuccessful in trusting the outcome?
27. Are there parts of my life or problems I am unwilling to turn over to a Higher Power? Explain.
28. What attitudes, beliefs or fears stand in my way or interfere with my trust in a Higher Power?
29. How can practicing surrender and trust in all my affairs contribute to a better way to live my life?
30. How do the words in the Serenity Prayer help me in my recovery?
31. How have I used the Serenity Prayer in my personal life?
32. Am I aware help is available and I do not need to continue carrying my problems by myself?
33. Am I learning what recovery and serenity can mean to me? Explain.
34. What tools can I use to help in my recovery?
35. What positive actions can I take to reinforce decisions I make?
36. In what ways am I stronger and happier than when I first walked into the rooms of Nar-Anon?
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Step 3 of the Nar-Anon Program. In the first part of Step 3, questions 1 - 15 are discussed:  
1.  What does it mean to make a decision? 
2.  Am I fearful of the outcome of decisions I make? What are my fears? 
3. Have I had trouble making decisions in the past? Explain? 
4.  Do I think it is my responsibility to make decisions and choices for others? Why? 
5. What decisions have I made for the addict in the past and what were the results?
6. What does turning my will and my life over to a Higher Power mean to me?  
7. Do I believe that turning my life over to a Higher Power means giving up - or does it give me an opportunity to find guidance for a better life? 
8. How easy or difficult is it to turn my will over to a Higher Power? 
9. Can I trust a Higher Power will take care of me? 
10. What areas of my life am I now willing to turn over to a Higher Power? 
11. Do I trust a Higher Power can help the addict or do I still think I can save him/her? 
12. What fears are keeping me from letting go? 
13. Why do I want to take it back?  
14. How have I been successful or unsuccessful in letting go? 
15. What am I learning about the difference between giving up and letting go? 
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Step 2 of the Nar-Anon Program. In the final part of Step 2, questions 9 - 25 are discussed:  

9.  Do I realize I have freedom to choose a Higher Power based on my own understanding? Am I free to have more than one definition of a Higher Power?  
10. What are my beliefs about a Higher Power? 
11. What draws me toward a Higher Power? 
12. Have I tried letting go and letting a Higher Power into my life? How? 
13. When do I seek a Higher Power? 
14. Am I ready to accept guidance from my Higher Power? Explain. 
15. How can coming to believe in a Higher Power help me change my thoughts, feelings, and actions? 
16. Do I believe a Power greater than myself could restore me to sanity? If not, what is stopping me? 
17. What does sanity mean to me? 
18. How has my past behavior created problems in my relationships and my life? 
19. What have I learned from repeating the same patterns of behavior, and each time expecting a different outcome?
20. In what ways do I see my Higher Power restoring me to sanity?
21. What past behaviors am I beginning to change? 
22. How do my actions, at times, differ from what I truly feel? 
23. Recovery requires patience and understanding. Do I expect immediate results? 
24. If I allow myself the time I need to accept what this step means to me, how do I believe this will help my recovery? 
25. Why does the second step say ‘could restore us to sanity’ instead of ‘would’ restore us to sanity? 

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Step 2 of the Nar-Anon Program. In the first part of Step 2, questions 1 - 8 are discussed:  
1.      Think about the word “believe”. What does it mean to me? 
2.      In what do I believe? 
3.      What fears, if any, block me from believing in or accepting a Higher Power? 
4.      How have past experiences affected my willingness to believe in a Higher Power? 
5.      How does believing in a Higher Power affect my spirituality? 
6.      How has my belief in a Higher Power changed since I started the Nar-Anon program? 
7.      How do I now understand hope, belief, and faith? 
8.      How can hope and faith in a Higher Power change my life? 
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Step 1 of the Nar-Anon Program. In the final part of step 1, questions 41 - 61 are discussed:  
41.  How can practicing acceptance in all my affairs contribute to a better way to life my life? 42.  How can I allow my loved ones to find their own life paths as I am finding mine? 
43.  If nothing changes, nothing changes. What does this statement mean to me? 
44.  In what ways am I beginning to see that expecting perfection in myself or others is unrealistic?
45.  Am I ready to stop punishing myself for past failures and start now with a new beginning? Explain.
46. Am I able to accept myself for whom I am? 
47. What can I do to accept myself for who I am? 
48. How did I feel when I heard addiction is a disease? 
49. Am I able to accept that addiction is a disease? If not, why not? 
50. As a person who loves an addict, what do I need to understand about addiction? 
51. If I am able to accept that addiction is a disease, how will this change the way I feel and react to the addict in my life? 
52. How has accepting this fact changed my perspective of addiction? 
53. What is the difference between detaching with love and attaching with love?
54. Does detaching mean I just don’t care anymore?
55. Is my emotional well-being in any way dependent on the behavior of another? 
56. What is causing me to feel stuck or trapped and unable to detach?
57. Detaching also means letting go of fear, of the need to control, of trying to do too much, or of holding on too tightly. In what way does detachment from the addict’s problems give me freedom?
58. Are there activities I find interesting that would help me to detach? What are they? 
59. Am I ready to set boundaries?
60. Am I learning to set my boundaries for the right reasons, not to manipulate the addict into recovery, but to restore myself to sanity?
61. Can I be flexible if it becomes appropriate to change a boundary? 
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Step 1 of the Nar-Anon Program. In this episode, questions 18 - 40 are discussed:  
 
18.  Are most of my waking thoughts consumed with worries about the addict? 
19.   Have I let go of things there were important to me, like hobbies and friends? 
20.   Have I lied or covered up because of the addict? Explain. 
21.   Do I have trouble sleeping at night? 
22.   Am I having financial problems? 
23.   Am I having health problems? 
24.   When was the last time I did something fun? 
25.   How has the addiction of a family member or friend changed my life? 
26.   Do I think the following emotions or behaviors indicate an unmanageable life? Anger, fear, guilt, obsession, anxiety, pride, jealousy, control, frustration, denial, sadness, distress, dishonesty, manipulation, resentment, hate, negativity, low self-esteem, shame. 
27.   Which of these emotions or behaviors stand out for me? Why? 
28.   Am I able to accept that my life might be unmanageable? 
29.   How has denial played a part in my life with regard to my life being unmanageable?
30.   Do I feel responsible for the addiction of my loved one and/or do I blame others? 
31.   What am I currently doing to help or enable the addict because of these feelings? 
32.   Do I feel responsible for other people’s actions? 
33.   Do I have a strong need to be in control? In my own life? In others’ lives? 
34.   What do I fear will happen if I let go? 
35.   Do I allow other people or circumstances to control my life? 
36.   How does this keep me from taking care of myself? 
37.   Have I accepted as fact there are situations in my life over which I have no control? Explain. 
38.   Do I understand addiction is a disease that cannot be cured? 
39.   Do I try to work the addict’s program instead of my own? 
40.   In what ways do I feel pity and/or compassion for the addict?
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Step 1 of the Nar-Anon Program. This episode covers the beginning of step 1, and the first 17 questions are discussed: 
 
1.       Do I have trouble letting others know I am hurting?
2.       How can I find strength and support from others who have been where I am now?
3.       What am I learning as I listen to others?
 4.      Am I beginning to open my mind to the possibility of a new way of life?
5.       Can I see I have no control over the addict’s drug use?
6.       How have I tried to control the addict?
7.       How do I try to control others? Do I try to help people when in reality I am trying to control them?
8.       How is my need for power or control related to enabling? 
9.       Did I initially come to Nar-Anon to find out how to get the addict to stop using? 
10.   What actions have I taken to try to help the addict? 
11.   How have steps I have taken to protect the addict from the consequences of his actions worked for either of us? 
12.   How am I still making excuses for the addict? Is “yes, but” a part of my explanation? 
13.   Do I still think there is something I can say or do to get the addict to stop using drugs? 
14.   Can I admit I am powerless over the addict? 
15.   What was I powerless over this week? How did it make me feel? 
16.   What have I done in the past to fix something because I was worried or scared? What can I do differently next time? 
17.   What things in my life do I think I have control over? 

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In this short introduction, you will learn a little about me and why I am doing this recovery program. You are invited to join this 12-step journey with me. 
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