Red Flags Everywhere

It's our Valentine's Day episode and we have actor and social media's Earl of Dad Jokes Lucas Alifano to help us through! Have you ever had a good Valentine's Day? A bad one? We talk about some of our best and worst. We continue talking about: is it possible to be friends with your ex? How does forgiveness come into play? We unpack and get to the root of how in some relationships we lose ourselves in our relationships. Lucas provides James with some dating truth bombs that blow his mind and reframe his approach and way of thinking- and how relationships should enhance our lives. You'll also hear how Lucas was there at ground zero for one of James' breakups and how he helped him through it. Plus we discuss our favorite romantic movies, and just why we love being single!

Guest: Lucas Alifano (he/him) - is a performer/singer based out of Los Angeles. He loves a good joke and spreading giggles. Social Media: @earlofdadjokes across all platforms.

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It's time to let our light shine today, and to help us do that it's life coach and podcast host of Shine on, Sista Jennifer Covington! Jen is a rarity in that she was able to make her long distance relationship work! She shares her journey, and how she had to put herself first. She lays down some important questions you have to ask yourself when in a relationship, and if you're not sure if you should continue being in one. What are willing to tolerate? She also breaks down the difference between 'slow fade/fade to black' and ghosting- which- if any of these, is best? Get ready to walk away feeling empowered as you navigate through relationships as Jen unpacks the lessons she had to learn and how she was finally able to resign as Presdient and member of 'The Sucker Club'.

Guest: Jennifer Covington (she/her) - she's is a certified life coach, business strategist and an internationally recognized motivational speaker who helps ambitious, heart-centered soul sisters (and brothers) reach their highest potential by shining their light, turning their passion into profit and going after their dreams every day. She's been featured in several popular publications such as Wild Sister Magazine, Thrive Global and the Huffington Post. On her podcast Shine on, Sista! you'll get your weekly dose of motivation, practical strategies and inspiring stories from people who are truly making their dreams come true. She tackles business, metaphysics, spirituality, productivity, profitability, creativity, happiness, travel, success, love, health and social impact. You'll laugh, you'll cry, you'll get fired up and will be ready to shine on! Website: https://jennifercovington.com/, IG: @therealjcov

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Today we answer the question: can you be friends with your ex? To help answer that question we bring on one of James' ex's, Paul Chapple. We've talked about him on the show before and now you'll hear his side- as there's always two sides to every story. James and Paul unpack their relationship, taking us through how it all began, the highs, the lows, the challenges, how it ended, and ultimately how they were able to find themselves back together again in a really strong friendship. Buckle up for an open, honest, and fun conversation of two lovers, turned ex's, turned friends.

Guest: Paul Chapple (he/him) - Head of Shore Excursions, Land Product Development & Operations. A certified data scientist with over 15+ years of experience in leading successful cruise lines. And former boyfriend to host James Arthur M.

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As we head into an election year we got a listener question that asks is it even possible to date someone of a different political ideology in today's climate? What's the best approach in asking someone's political affiliation? Does it matter? Well to help answer that we have political news junkie Ben Randle who we've dubbed our political analyst, to help us answer and dive into that question. We also explore how to navigate dating and hanging out your friends in the same space - it can sometimes be awkward, and anxiety enducing. We also explore the importance of knowing our values, how relationships have either brought out the best or worst in us, and Ben explains how how relationships are like a democracy.

Our guest today is Ben Villegas Randle: a New York City theater director, and political enthusiast and news junkie who knows how to explain the most complex political situations and make it digestable for the every day person. IG: benvrdirects

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She's Back by popular demand! You know her you love her, it's Nnekay Fitzclarke form our first episode, my former co-host of MInority Korner and a current librarian/dating profile setup pro- here to give us some tips for setting up our dating profiles- new year new us, new profile- and she has the credentials as an expert profile builder. She not only met her husband who she's been with for over 13 years on an online dating site, she's helped set up her friends, has been given elite status, and has been in the trenches that can be online/app dating, and has some wild stories of how she made it through. Also we look to some other experts who have some profile tips as well. You'll learn how if you stay ready you never have to get ready, as you might even find your next date on Yelp!

Our guest today is Nnekay FitzClarke: former co-host and creator of Minority Korner Podcast, she is an all-star librarian, she calls herself an all-around sassy broad who likes to think she knows a thing or two. IG: @nnekay

Articles Refrenced:

• https://www.self.com/story/8-ways-to-create-an-amazing-online-dating-profile

• https://www.wellandgood.com/how-to-write-dating-profile/

• https://www.marieclaire.co.uk/life/sex-and-relationships/15-ways-to-make-your-online-dating-profile-stand-out-from-the-pack-1-118673

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We've got Biz Ellis from the podcast One Bad Mother for a very open and honest episode that dives deep into how we get ourselves out of those bad relationship patterns! Biz talks about how she broke out of, in her words, "dating the same idiot,". What she had to learn, and do to heal from some of the treatment she'd experienced in the past from people she was dating, being cheated on, sexually abused, people with addiction, and how she stopped settling. We also talk about the simple yet meaningful "aha" green flags she discovered she was looking for when she met her now husband of 17 years. Also we uncover how life is sometimes like a gay porn. Biz also helps to answer our listener question about what do we do when our kids want to start dating and help them not experience the same shit we went through.

Mentions of Sexual Abuse Time Stamp: 11:00 - 11:20, and 57:15 - 59:05

Our Guest for this show is Biz Ellis (she/her): Biz is the creator and host of the comedy podcast about parent­ing, One Bad Mother, which is enter­ing its 12th year. She also volun­teers at the Pasadena Humane Society and is very good at jigsaw puzzles. Seriously, it is a special gift.

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Get ready to experience a metamorphosis through your trauma! Just in time for the festive season! Today we have licensed Marriage and Family therapist and HIV Prevention specialist, and author, and host of TubTalks Damon L. Jacobs to help us navigate how past trauma impacts our relationships. We talk about little 't' trauma and big 'T' trauma, and some ways that when we examine and heal from these as they occur, they can show up in our relationships, as well as in our partners. We also explore Ghosting! Getting ghosted, what is going on when this is happening, how to have compassion for those who we feel have wronged us, taking back our own agency, and how that inner love and energy has to come from within. This episode does address issues around abuse, and sexual violence, so if these are topics that might be triggering for you, please take care of yourself as you listen.

Mentions of Sexual Abuse Time Stamp: 41:51 - 49:00

Our Guest for this show is Damon L. Jacobs (he/him): a New York-based Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and HIV prevention specialist who focuses his work on sexual health, polyamory, and harm-reduction. He is the author of two books titled, "Absolutely Should-less" and "Rational Relating." He is best known for championing the use of pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) in The New York Times, USA Today, ABC News, MSNBC, NPR, and more. He was honored to receive a Commissioner Special Recognition Award for his work through the New York State Department of Health in 2016." IG: @damonljacobs

Tub Talks on YouTube: https://TubTalksWithDamon.com

Blog: https://50lessonsof50.blogspot.com/

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New Year, new US, time for us to explore our new rules for 2024! We've got Sarah Brown our editor and producer is hoping out from behind the scenes to in front of the mic as we explore what 2023 has taught us about relationships, ourselves, what we're leaving behind in 2024, and what commitments are we making to ourselves, and dating, as we move into 2024. Learn how the acrynom I.M.P.R.O.V.E. can be a useful tool to help you regulate your emotions, and be your best self. We've got tactical guidance, tactics, and wisdom for ya as we sneak into 2024!

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How addicted to your smartphone are you? Chances are if you have one, you have some level of reliance, dependence, or addiction to this device and it's having a great effect on your relationships and you may not even notice! But it's not your fault! We examine just how rampant smartphone addiction is, and spring boarding off of last week's episode, how your attachment style may impact your usage and dependence on your phone. We look at addiction as a coping strategy, and examine dating app culture. Don't worry we've got some tips and strategies to help you curb your smart phone addiction so you can have deeper, more meaningful relationships with others, and yourself. Plus how the acronym A.R.E. can give you the imperative three sets of questions checklist to see if your partner can create that safe space you need.

Our Guest for this show is Shannon Algeo (he/him): MA, AMFT, APCC, is a psychotherapist, public speaker, author of Trust Your Truth, and meditation teacher. He is known by millions of people around the world for sharing his life experiences in ways that land in the hearts, minds, and bodies of individuals who are seeking to learn, grow, deepen, and heal. Host/creator of the popular Soul Feed podcast interviwing iconic cultural and spiritual leaders like Deepak Chopra, and Marianne Williamson. Was named one of the "35 Under 35 in Wellness to Watch" by Wanderlust. Website: www.shannonalgeo.com, IG: @shannon.algeo, TikTok: @shannon.algeo

Get Shannon's Book Trust Your Truth: www.trustyourtruthbook.com

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In this episode we take an honest look at ourselves and maybe some things we've done in past in relationships that, looking back, we're not proud of, asking ourselves: were we the villain? We're talking about some of the worst breakups we've been the cause of, as well as what red flags would our ex's would share about us? What's worst breaking up with someone on Christmas or New Years Eve? Is there a best time to break up with someone? We explore questions around monogamy, along with some of our other sexcapdes, in our sexiest episode to-date! Also we've got a listener question about what to do when your ex reaches back out?

Our Guest for this show is jarrett hill (he/him): he's an award-winning journalist, professor, and artist who's contributed to The New York Times, Variety, NBC News, CNN International, and Channel Q, among others. He's serving his second term as President of the National Association of Black Journalists' of Los Angeles (NABJLA). jarrett is the founder of trblmkng., encompassing his work as a creative artist with writing, interior design, speaking & hosting, media training and consulting. hill is also an adjunct professor at the University of Southern California's Annenberg School of Communication and Journalism. He is also the co-host of FANTI with Tre'vell Anderson, one of Apple Podcasts' "Best of 2020." The pair is co-authoring "Historically Black Phrases," for Ten Speed Press at Penguin Random House, due out September 19, 2023! Follow on social IG & X: @jarretthill, TikTok: @jarrett.hill

Check out his book Historically Black Phrases

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