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What is my ego fixation?

Why is it so hard to let it go? 

What will I lose by letting go of my attachment?

Today Jared and Melissa answer a question from a listener:

"I'm beginning to become aware of my patterns, but I can't change them. Why is this so hard?" 

Today we discuss our ego fixations, letting go of control, and the humble willingness it takes to become new. 

Thanks so much for listening, and we hope you enjoy this episode.

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Today our guest is Aubrey Chaves. 

Aubrey is an Enneagram 2.

Just as a refresher, The Enneagram Two is called the Helper. They need to be needed and liked. They are naturally helpful and accommodating, but struggle with feeling unwanted, unworthy or unloved. 

Aubrey’s enneagram journey coincided with a painful crisis of faith. 

She talks about deconstructing her ideas about a God who is constantly disappointed with her, and rediscovering a God that loves her unconditionally. 

Aubrey talks about shame getting mixed into her faith, death of the false self, and discovering God through really truly knowing herself. 

She also gives really useful advice for 2s struggling to figure out what is their to do. 

Also, Aubrey and her husband Tim are cohosts for the podcast Faith Matters. Their podcast has been a really valuable resource for me for years now, so definitely check it out.

Thanks so much for listening, and we hope you enjoy his episode. 

Show Notes:
Faith Matters Podcast
Care of the Soul Thomas by, Thomas Moore
The Road Back to You by, Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile

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We have another interview for you today with my friend, Brenna Kimber. 

Brenna is a six on the enneagram. 

As a quick reminder an Enneagram six is called the loyal skeptic. They are responsible, group minded, and very loyal. They also tend to struggle with trusting themselves and other people, and this  can cause some anxiety and hyper vigilance, and thinking of in terms of worst case scenarios. 

Brenna is someone who has used the enneagram for deep inner work, and I’m so excited for you to learn from her today. 

She talks about her search for safety, her pattern of externalizing authority, and learning to surrender and live her life without a plan and from a more embodied place. 

As always, thanks for listening, and we hope you enjoy this episode.

Show notes:
https://faithmatters.org/dont-let-a-good-faith-crisis-go-to-waste-jared-halverson/

The Road Back to You

The Path Between Us

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Melissa here. 

As I’ve been working as a coach, I’ve noticed a lot of people struggling with their faith. Some people experience this as a crisis, others are experiencing  new questions or doubts, others have family members who are having a painful experience in the church and it’s making church hard. 

I’ve noticed some patterns when in comes to enneagram types, and going through some kind of faith shift. 

I am seeing how our personality structure- or our ego- can help or hurt the process. 

Today, with Jared’s help, I wanted to share what I’m noticing and help you be aware of what to look out for if you’re going through a faith crisis.

Today we go through all 9 types and discuss what things in church can potentially trigger an ego response, and ways your ego might automatically protect itself. 

We also give some tips that can help you as you navigate a faith shift. 

Thanks for listening!

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Instagram: @melissaenglebright

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Today we’re talking to my dear friend, Lindsay Alder! 

Lindsay is a 4 on the Enneagram, and today she’s sharing what’s it is like to be deep diving in that rich emotional world of an enneagram 4. 

She talks about how relationships can get tricky when people don’t know how to meet you in that space, and how the Enneagram has helped her navigate the the tension between being true to herself, and still meet people where they are at. 

Feel free to reach out! 

Email: [email protected]
Instagram: @melissaenglebright

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The Enneagram is not static. It is a dynamic tool of growth and transformation. Part of the brilliance of the Enneagram is understand your lines of stress and integration. 

Understanding your lines and bringing awareness to where you will help you move beyond you type, and bring depth to your enneagram practice.

Need help finding your type? Email [email protected]

Instagram: @missenglebright

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The number one question we have been getting from folks is “how do I learn to be embodied?” 

Today we thought we would show you how we practice embodiment in a coaching session. 

Jared volunteered to be coached today. Enneagram Fives tend to be the most private type on the Enneagram, so this is a very rare and special treat. 
 

Thanks for listening and we hope you enjoy this episode. 

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We use all sorts of easy buttons when we don't want to feel pain. Food, media, booze or porn are common ones. But gratitude can also be a socially acceptable easy button. 

How do we express gratitude that is sincere and heartfelt? 

When does gratitude start to verge on spiritual bypass?

What should each type look out for as they express gratitude and develop practices that are supportive?

Thanks for listening!

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Embodiment is a buzz word right now, but what does it really mean? 

Why do we disconnect from our bodies? And what's the danger in that? 

Why is coming home to our bodies so difficult?

In this episode we talk about people pleasing, a reflected sense of self, trauma, and sin as separateness. 

We talk about the sacred work of letting letting old patterns die, and becoming new. 

We also speculate around the sacred feminine. These words are our own, and are not meant to represent the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. 

Thanks so much for listening!

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What do we mean when we say that someone is a heart type or a head type? 

Today we're introducing the centers of intelligence! 

Body/Belly: (8s, 9s. 1s)
Heart: (2s, 3s, 4s)
Head: (5s, 6s, 7s)

What are the gifts of each center?

What happens when we aren't fully present to our centers?

What happens when there are imbalances?

We also talk about how coming home to the body increases your capacity to feel and recognize the spirit and receive revelation. 

Feel free to reach out with any questions!

Email: [email protected]
Instagram: @melissaenglebright