I've kept it a secret for 9 months and i'm ready to share it with the world. I'm a DAD! 

Dr. Lance von Stade came up with the idea of interviewing me, to take a snapshot in time of what my hopes, fears, values, wishes, intentions, expectations are BEFORE having a baby. 

This is recorded 6 days before our baby's due date. 

My wife and I decided to not make any social media posts, we only told friends and family. Now I get to share it with all of you, if this podcast was posted, it's because we have a baby!

We go deep into what my fears are, what fatherhood role models would I like to emulate, what are my intentions for for the birth process, who do I hope my child becomes, who do I want to be for my child. 

This is a very conscious step into setting the intention for "Conscious Fatherhood" 

I'm very happy to share this with you. 

Thank you Dr. Lance von Stade for facilitating this interview. 

How to Cultivate Your SUPERPOWER of Introspection for Greater Mind-Body Connection 

With Dr. Lance von Stade, owner of Golden Gate Chiropractic Center in San Francisco CA, Co-Founder and Lead Facilitator of Kairos Training Culture, CEO of Athlete on Purpose.

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5:40

How Dr. Lance developed from being known as the expert in Movement and Human Performance to now being sought out as a speaker on Non-Violent Communication, and Trust.

The Ladder of Physical to Emotional Awareness:

When the quality of your movement is no longer the rung of the ladder of health you are climbing, when you know how to move, eat, recuperate and your needs for safety and sustenance are met, then you can become more aware of how you talk to yourself, how present you are, and the feelings you experience on a daily basis.

11:40

How do you start to cultivate an experience of asking the question, “How are your physical ailments affecting your life?”

The Advocacy Process for Understanding the Connection Your Emotional and Physical Body­­:

Most people tend to put others before themselves; so how can we advocate for others.

1. What is on your mind right now (physical body)?

2. How is that starting point related to areas above or below that?

3. Have you noticed how your body changes shape in different emotional states? (sad, boastful, fear, etc)

4. Do you notice that when you are in different emotional states that these physical ailments are different?

5. Are the loads of stress in your life contributing to the life you want to live?

6. Notice are the loads of stress in your life matched by the quantity and quality of your recuperative strategies.

If not, you will suffer symptoms.

17:45

How you can connect the dots between physical and emotional needs; and distinguishing the difference between self and emotional states from others.

Non-Violent Communication

https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Marshall-Rosenberg/dp/1892005034

21:00

Do I Even Care?

Resources:

Crucial Conversations

Motivational Interviewing

25:00

Introspective look at YOUR observations, feelings, needs and requests

25:40

The SUPERPOWER of introspection

Are you able to notice that your state changes, and immediately react, or notice the state change as a stimulus itself, and choosing how you want to react.

29:00

How do you start to cultivate greater introspective to notice what you are noticing.

Book: A New Earth by Ekhart Tolley

1. Stimulus

2. Story

3. Are you aware that you are the observer witnessing that you are the entity creating the story?

Connect with Dr. Lance von Stade

www.drlancevonstade.com

www.drlances.blog

[email protected]

IG: @drlancevonstade

You're probably a lot like me, in that you are seeking an even greater life experience, you want to create a change in the world, and you love to create things that serve humanity. 

AND also like me you probably get stuck in wanting to make things PERFECT. 

These two questions have helped me gauge when something is complete, and also how to get my creation out to the world. 

The first question is "Am I Proud of It?" and the second "Is it Good Enough, For Now?" 

these have helped me find balance between releasing something I am really proud of, and knowing that I can always update, add to, or change something in the future without getting stuck in the procrastination of ideation. 

Your experiences and the emotions that you have will shape and mold the person you become. 

It's important to know that it's ok to feel sadness, anger, hurt, AND it's important to know that if you don't process these thoughts or emotions then these thoughts will become our emotions, these emotions will become our mood, our mood will become our temperament, this temperament will become our personality, over time our personality will shift our personal REALITY.

If your personality isn't serving you, know you have the opportunity to create change. 

This change will occur when you can go through a process of UNDERSTANDING what has shaped the stories you tell yourself, the experiences that shaped your personality, and the environment that molded your personal reality. 

with this understanding you get to rewrite the stories you tell yourself. 

Our stories are what shape our life, they provide meaning to our experiences and lessons learned and they help connect with others at a deep level, through true authenticity, vulnerability, and our own meaning...

we can move audiences, shape the trajectory of our life and get people to take action. 

The problem is most of us don't know how to share our stories, we think others won't want to listen, and we think don't know how to share in a way that motivates or inspires others. 

In this episode I share the POWER of story, how I will continue to let my grandpas legacy live on through story telling and how YOU can harness the power of your own stories!

Many of us often let our emotions "get the best of us", or we regret the way we reacted to a given situation. 

By being able to build our emotional intelligence and emotional health we can choose how we want to respond in the moment to certain situations or triggers, and by doing so we will be able to present ourselves to the world in a way we want, appropriately to the given situation and build deeper more meaningful connections with others. 

I break down a 4-Step process to identify our feelings, choose how we want to respond, and reflect later to make sure we don't get stuck in states of feelings that no longer serve us. 

If you feel like you have just been putting in the work, going through the motions, or lost sight of where this is all going.

You have a need for reconnecting to where it is all going. 

If you can sit down and set a clear intention of where each piece in your life is going you'll be able to know what the steps are to get there and where you'll need to hustle and when you can flow. 

In your business, relationships, personal life, it can be easy to feel overwhelmed or stuck if you lose sight of how all the pieces fit. 

Make sure to take a moment to write down why you're doing everything, and where its all going, so that you can revisit it when you feel the fatigue of the day to day grind. 

For many of us who have been feeling tired, worn down, or stuck in a cycle of just going through the motions, and sleep hasn't been helping you feel more rejuvenated...

the reality is you probably don't need more sleep, what you need is to be actually doing the things that bring you purpose, self-love, joy, and where you feel at home.

By taking, or making the time to do these things you will most likely feel more energized and whole. 

In this podcast I share how by NOT doing the things that give us energy, self-love and joy you are doing a disservice to those around you.

In this podcast I share how even if you feel like you don't have the time, you have other responsibilities, or you don't know what to do to bring yourself energy... you can get to understand what it is you need to do and why it's important to make the time for some self care. 

"And now, how do I want to show up in this moment?" 

This one question will allow you to be the creator of your life in the moment, rather than responding to life you will start to notice, you have a choice. 

How you hold your posture, your eye contact, presence, tone, words, actions, inactions, facial expressions, etc. All of these are choices that we can consciously control; and when we choose how we want to present ourselves and respond to the world we will notice how the world tends to respond how we might hope. 

In this episode I share exactly HOW I have been using this question, at what parts of my day and how you can use it to start to create your reality. 

Excited for you to list, subscribe and share if you found it valuable. 

Dr. Jordan Fairley