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Podcast host Wendy Lim and relationship therapist Tamara Vroomen talk about the function of doubting and criticizing the other in a relationship. It's a deactivation strategy of the attachment system, mostly used to distance themselves when the other comes too close. 

Wendy Lim and relationship therapist Tamara vroomen discuss having sex in the first months of dating. We talk about the general difference between men and women. It's important to communicate if you are on the same page, cause sex doesn't mean the same thing for everyone. 

Wendy Lim and relationship therapist Tamara Vroomen talk about online dating. What are the pitfalls?

In this podcast Wendy Lim and relationship therapist Tamara Vroomen talk about authenticity and how not to lose yourself. A lot of people have the urge to melt together in relationships. They subconsciously want to recreate the warm attachment they had with their caretaker when they were young. It just feels so warm and cozy and connected and safe. 

It is challenging to find a balance between being autonomous and connected. It takes being connected to your own body, feeling your needs and boundaries and daring to communicate these with your partner. For this you can use tools as discussed in non-violent communication or radical honesty.

Wendy Lim and relationship therapist Tamara Vroomen talk about the inner child. Not only the spiritual world talks about it, alsof mainstream psychology acknowledges it and uses it in schema therapy. In this episode we converse how to meet your inner child and how to listen to it in order to follow your needs, dreams and boundaries.

Podcast host Wendy Lim and relationship therapist Tamara Vroomen talk about the anxious and avoidant attachment styles. Instead of focussing on the challenges and negative aspects, we discuss the positive traits.  For more information go to www.howtolove101.com www.facebook.com/tamara101 and www.instagram.com/tamara_howtolove or book in a free 1 hour discovery session at [email protected]

Curious cat Wendy Lim and relationship therapist Tamara Vroomen talk about selflove. How can you feel more compassion towards yourself, why is selfsoothing important, and how to silence that inner critical voice. 

This episode podcast host Wendy Lim and relationship therapist Tamara Vroomen discuss how to let go of an ex, and the challenges arise. We look at brain chemistry that makes us addicted to an ex and what kind of rituals we can use to let him go. 

In this episode Wendy Lim and relationship therapist Tamara Vroomen talk about how to manifest your ideal partner and not to chase him, by using affirmations, visualisations and how to let go of the result. For a guided meditation on how to do this visit the website www.howtolove101.com