Resolute: Zero Tolerance For Domestic Abuse

Dr Emma Katz joins Resolute to unpack the realities of coercive control and domestic abuse. She explains how abusers create systems of fear and isolation, the impact on survivors, and why recognising these patterns is essential for safety and recovery.

If you or someone you know is affected by domestic abuse, reaching out to a trusted professional or support service can be an important step.

Connect with Resolute: • Website: https://www.resolutesupport.uk

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Connect with Dr Emma Katz: • Substack: https://dremmakatz.substack.com

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emmakatz_phd

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-emma-katz-5b911865

• Website: https://dremmakatz.com

We sit down with Gordon Doudie, an Independent Domestic Violence Advocate (IDVA) for Doncaster Council. Drawing on his years of experience as a former police officer, Gordon offers a rare dual perspective on supporting survivors — from frontline response to long‑term advocacy.

Together, we explore the realities of domestic abuse, the challenges faced by those seeking safety, and the vital role IDVAs play in helping individuals rebuild their lives with dignity and support.

Nicky McClarty, a survivor of domestic abuse, shares her journey of survival and healing.

Nicky discusses her recent involvement in media interviews about the government's strategy on violence against women and girls. She highlights the critical need for education on healthy relationships for both boys and girls in schools, stressing the importance of lived experiences in teaching these concepts.

Nicky also shares personal stories, insights on the justice system, and the impact of support networks. Emphasising the ongoing fight for better funding, support, and educational initiatives to combat domestic abuse.

Nickys Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/19TdGLQ4BS/

Dr. Jessica Taylor discusses her motivation behind founding Victim Focus, her experiences fighting against victim blaming in the realm of child sexual exploitation and anti-human trafficking, and the intense backlash she faced for her critical stance. Tune in to hear Dr. Taylor's inspiring journey, the changes she advocates for, and her commitment to spreading awareness and fostering true healing in the sector.

Dr. Taylor: https://www.drjessicataylor.com

VictimFocus: https://www.victimfocus.com

In this episode, Deb and her guest Deborah Alderson discuss the importance of preventing domestic abuse through innovative solutions. Deborah shares her extensive background in policing, particularly her focus on public protection and addressing domestic abuse. They delve into various projects, including educating children about healthy relationships, the Operation Encompass Next Steps program, and the GPS domestic abuse proximity system. They highlight the significance of a multi-agency approach, the role of housing in victim protection, and the need for better education and training for frontline workers. Join them as they explore the crucial steps required to make a meaningful impact on domestic abuse prevention and victim support. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome 01:10 Deborah's Career in Policing 02:27 Innovative Projects on Domestic Abuse 03:56 Operation Encompass and Educating Children 06:54 Multi-Agency Tasking and Coordination 08:04 Housing Solutions for Domestic Abuse Victims 10:54 GPS Proximity System for Domestic Abuse 17:11 Meeting with Government Officials 19:23 Challenges and Future Goals 32:43 Conclusion and Next Steps

Due to some technical difficulties, we've decided to release a minisode of the Resolute podcast with Simon franc, Founder and CEO of Kulpa.

Kulpa is a safe space to store and capture data that can be used to store evidence in the event of a crime and the best part, it's FREE.

Find the Kulpa website here: http://www.kulpacloud.com?utm_source=-custom-by-source-0-

Plus Kulpa's Instagram account: https://www.instagram.com/kulpacloud/

In today's episode, our guest 'Survivor Afterwards' from TikTok bravely shares her harrowing journey of surviving brutal trauma and abuse. 'Survivor Afterwards' details her experiences of being subjected to physical and emotional violence from a young age, culminating in a horrific rape by a first cousin in 2022. She speaks candidly about her struggles with PTSD, addiction, and the ongoing battle to rebuild her life. The conversation also touches on the importance of trauma-informed care, self-healing practices like meditation and yoga, and the role of community and support in recovery.

Find Nick at: https://www.tiktok.com/@survivor_afterwards?utm_source=youtube

00:00 Introduction to Nick's Story

00:38 Nick's Traumatic Past

03:15 The Impact of Trauma

03:56 The Brutal Assault

07:21 Coping Mechanisms and Addiction

09:27 The Road to Recovery

12:58 Breaking the Cycle of Abuse

27:22 Finding Peace and Healing

31:39 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Healing

32:12 Struggles with Mental Health and Lack of Support

32:38 Misunderstandings and Misjudgments

34:18 The Importance of Community and Self-Education

37:58 Finding Healing Through Meditation and Self-Care

40:10 The Role of Mental Health Services and Self-Reliance

47:44 Creating a Safe and Healing Environment

50:58 Encouragement and Final Thoughts

Life coach Rachel Marie shares her harrowing journey through domestic violence and the subsequent battle with Complex PTSD. She discusses the challenges of obtaining effective therapy, particularly EMDR, due to long NHS waiting lists, and the crisis points she has faced along the way. Rachel also offers insights on her mission to help others heal through her coaching business, focusing on thriving beyond trauma. She sheds light on the shortcomings of the current support systems, including women's refuges, and emphasizes the urgent need for better assistance and training to support survivors more effectively. Rachel's courageous account aims to inspire and spread awareness, showcasing the importance of mental health support and resilience in overcoming long-term trauma.

Find Rachel on TikTok at Rachelmarie_lifecoach

00:00 Introduction and Speaker Background

01:35 Challenges with EMDR Therapy Access

03:06 Personal Struggles with Complex PTSD

03:55 Diagnosis and Initial Treatment

07:40 Coping Mechanisms and Therapy Techniques

10:34 Issues with NHS and Therapy Availability

15:26 The Importance of Proper Support Systems

18:35 Experiences with Legal and Social Systems

30:01 The Need for Better Resources and Awareness

48:17 Conclusion and Future Plans

#WomenAgainstViolence #MeToo #MentalHealth #Trauma

Survivors Jade Blue and Charlotte join Debbie on the Resolute podcast to discuss their experiences after sexual violence. Charlotte discusses her Open Justice For All campaign that secured free court transcripts for sexual offence victims, while Jade shares insights from successfully suing the CPS and her work on police advisory groups.

Both women speak candidly about rebuilding intimate relationships after trauma and navigating a justice system that repeatedly fails victims - from inadequate police responses to traumatic court experiences that led both to contemplate suicide. They highlight how poor training, lack of empathy, and systemic failures, contribute to the low conviction rates for sexual offences.

The conversation examines the urgent need for properly funded survivor support services, as volunteers and underpaid victim advocates often provide the only consistent support through a victim's journey. Despite their ongoing advocacy work, both women acknowledge the exhaustion that comes with pushing for meaningful change in a resistant system.

00:00 Introduction

00:39 Charlotte's Advocacy Journey

01:50 Campaign Success and Government Pilot

03:07 Challenges in the Justice System

04:45 Jade's Justice Journey

06:10 Independent Advisory Groups

08:09 Victim Support and Safe Spaces

12:17 Police Training and Response

17:41 Personal Stories and Moving Forward

25:18 Charlotte's Relationship and Realizations

33:01 Re-reporting the Rape: A Second Chance

33:48 The Harsh Reality of the Justice System

35:10 The Emotional Toll on Victims

37:36 The Fight for Change

44:11 The Role of Support Systems

51:08 The Need for Proper Funding

57:28 Concluding Thoughts

#DomesticAbuse #DomesticViolence #CoerciveControl #FamilyCourt

Follow Jade Blue on X @jadeblueLDN

Follow Charlotte on X @openjustice4all

Jay Darkmoore, an ex-police officer with nearly 10 years of experience who now writes crime thrillers, joins Debbie on the Resolute podcast to discuss his recently published police memoir. They examine the systemic issues within policing and the justice system, focusing on how domestic abuse cases are handled.

Jay explains why he left the police force, citing pressure from senior management to meet quotas that led to inappropriate arrests and inadequate victim support. The conversation highlights the disconnect between police, courts, and family courts that often fails domestic abuse victims.

Debbie and Jay explore practical solutions including the Kulpa app and tagged monitoring systems that could better protect victims while reducing costs. They also discuss the importance of implementing workplace domestic abuse policies and teaching healthy relationship education early.

Their conversation offers insights into domestic abuse cases from both police and victim advocacy perspectives, emphasizing the need for meaningful systemic change to protect vulnerable individuals.

00:00 Introduction to Jay Darkmoore

01:09 Why Jay Left the Police Force

06:08 Challenges in Modern Policing

13:39 Domestic Violence and Legal System Flaws

18:26 The Need for Systemic Change

38:55 The Petition and International Efforts

39:31 Introducing the Kulpa App

40:36 Challenges in Evidence Collection

46:00 Family Court Issues

53:16 Workplace Support and Training

01:00:29 Employer Failures and Personal Stories

01:05:17 Concluding Thoughts and Future Plans

View Jay's Linktree at https://linktr.ee/Jaydarkmoore

#DomesticAbuse #DomesticViolence #CoerciveControl #familycourt