Special thanks to guest Darrington for his unique perspective on bullying. Regardless of whatever background have or world view we adhere to, there is no escaping the effects of bullying. Even if by some miracle we are able to avoid it ourselves, the effects can be seen on all those around us who we care for. In this Podcast we are setting aside our differences in opinions on the "big issue" so we can focus on things that are more practical in our daily lives: the brutal affects that bullies can cause.
If you or anyone you know is the victim of a bully or any abuse please contact us at [email protected] or contact the links below. Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255
We are making several courses available for self improvement, discipline and organization. Please feel free to use or share with a friend! https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1bzZFcl9jkWeVyM3ko2RV5S1mszc7h-QR?usp=sharing
In the Podcast I referenced Dale Carnegie's famous book How to Win Friends and Influence people.
You can find the notes in the drive or read below "How to keep a disagreement from becoming an argument".
Welcome the disagreement. When two partners always agree, one of them is not necessary. If there is some point you haven’t thought about, be thankful it is brought to your attention. Perhaps you may be corrected before you make a serious mistake.
Distrust your first instinctive impression.
Don’t be defensive. Keep calm and watch out for your first reaction.
Control your temper. You can measure a size of a person by what makes him angry.
Listen first. Give your opponents a chance to talk. Let them finish.
Try to build bridges of understanding. Don’t built higher barriers of misunderstanding.
Look for areas of agreement. Dwell first on the points and areas that you agree.
Be honest. Look for areas in which you can admit your error and do so.
Apologize for mistakes will help disarm your opponent.
Promise to think over your opponents ideas and study them carefully. Your opponent may be right! You never want to hear “ We tried to tell you, but you wouldn’t listen!”
Thank your opponents sincerely for their interest. Anyone who takes the time to disagree with you is interested in the same things you are. Think of them as people who really want to help you and you may turn your opponents into friends.
Postpone action to give both sides time to think through the problem.
Ask could my opponent be right? Partly right? Is there truth or merit to their position? Thedore Roosevelt said if he was right 75 percent of the time he would reach his highest level of expectations.