Respect Me, Once The Dust Settles.

Growing older isn't one big moment—it happens quietly.

One conversation with your barber. A few gray hairs. A different group chat. Calling your parents just to make sure they're okay. Realizing the adults you looked up to were figuring life out one day at a time, just like you are now.

In Started With a Barber, Now We're Here, Brandon reflects on the invisible transition into adulthood, the responsibilities that slowly replace our childhood freedoms, and why peace, stability, and gratitude become the new definition of success. This isn't an episode about getting older—it's about becoming the person you spent your childhood watching.

Because one day, without even realizing it...

you look in the mirror and think:

Started with a barber... now we're here.

Leftover Pizza isn't about pizza.

It's about the people who walk away from your life, disappear when you need them most, and somehow return months or years later expecting everything to be exactly the way they left it.

In this episode, Brandon explores why people assume they still have access to us after time has passed. Through conversations about nostalgia, loneliness, guilt, curiosity, success, and entitlement, he examines the psychology behind why people come back—and why forgiveness doesn't automatically mean the door reopens.

Because relationships don't have a microwave.

Sometimes people don't miss you. They miss the comfort, the familiarity, or the access they once had. And sometimes, the version of you they left behind doesn't exist anymore.

This episode isn't about holding grudges. It's about understanding the difference between forgiveness and access, recognizing how growth changes boundaries, and asking one difficult question:

When someone comes back... are they reconnecting with you, or simply trying to reheat what they abandoned?

The list continues...

In Part 2 of 100 Things Grown Men Gotta Stop Doing, we get back into the uncomfortable conversations, the jokes, and the moments where we have to look at ourselves and ask:

"Bro... what are we doing?"

From awkward workplace interactions, risking your life for Pokémon Go, hiding emotions from your woman, giving advice without supporting the journey, lying about your age and money, pretending you don't have emotions, bandwagon sports fandom, fake wisdom, and everything in between...

this episode is about accountability, self-awareness, and growth.

Because the goal isn't to be perfect.

The goal is to recognize when it's time to tighten up.

Some of these are jokes.

Some of these are serious.

But all of them come from the same place:

Be honest with yourself.
Be comfortable with who you are.
Be willing to grow.

Comment your own addition:

What is something grown men need to stop doing?

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Trust the process.

There are moments when it feels like everything is falling apart.

Then there are seasons when everything starts falling into place.

This episode is a celebration of one of those seasons.

We talk about the New York Knicks bringing a championship back to the city, Jalen Brunson's rise as the new face of New York basketball, the New York Liberty continuing their championship standard with another Commissioner's Cup, and Sabrina Ionescu delivering another clutch moment on the biggest stage.

We also reflect on Jay-Z's historic three-night run at Yankee Stadium, unforgettable appearances from Beyoncé, Nas, Rihanna, Usher, Jadakiss, Fat Joe, Memphis Bleek, and Blue Ivy, and why those moments meant so much to a generation that grew up on New York culture.

From Raising Kanan paying homage to the Lo Life movement to Kai Cenat returning to the internet, this summer has felt like a love letter to the city.

And somewhere in the middle of all of it...

I found my own reason to smile.

After months of unemployment, uncertainty, and rebuilding my life, I landed a new job, found my confidence again, and started a new chapter. This is an episode about restoration, gratitude, and recognizing when life finally starts moving in your favor.

Special shout-out to Corey, the very first winner of our podcast giveaway. Thank you for being part of this growing community.

If you've been rocking with Respect Me Once The Dust Settles from the beginning, thank you for believing in the vision. The best is still ahead.

Trust the process.

What happens when a creator stops chasing moments and starts creating opportunities for other people?

In this episode of Respect Me Once The Dust Settles, we talk about Kai Cenat's evolution from one of the biggest streamers in the world into something bigger: a creator building culture, community, and opportunities for the next generation.

We break down Streamer University and why this moment represents a shift in entertainment, attention, and the creator economy. From Kai Cenat's return after stepping away, to his commitment to creating experiences for others, this episode explores what happens when you stop thinking only about yourself and start thinking about the ceiling and the people.

We also dive into the story of Suburb Baby — a creator whose journey represents everyone trying to figure it out. After stepping away, returning, staying consistent, learning the game, and respecting the process, he found himself in a moment where the world started paying attention.

This episode is about more than streaming.

It's about preparation meeting opportunity.

It's about staying committed when nobody is watching.

It's about understanding that the opportunity doesn't create you — it reveals the work you were already putting in.

If you're building something, chasing a dream, or trying to find your lane, this episode is for you.

Support the podcast through Patreon:
$1/month — less than a coffee, helping build exclusive content and the next chapter of Respect Me Once The Dust Settles.

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Trust the process.

I recently had a debate about fashion with someone from atlanta. He said to me Atlanta’s “ white boy “ swag , or “preppy” boy swag should be credited for why Ralph Lauren is Ralph Lauren.

I had to remind him of who Ralph Rueben Lifshitz was , and how he’s a Bronx legend.

I then mentioned the lo life crew , and that same Friday night lo life crew was being depicted in Raising Kanan

The pod episode goes much further than my debate , we dive a bit into hip hop history.

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Before algorithms decided what we watched, before every moment became a clip, before music became something we consumed in seconds...

there was a time when culture had a destination.

In this episode, I take a trip back to the era of 106th & Park, BET, MTV, music videos, and the moments that shaped a generation.

We talk about a time when artists didn't just drop songs — they created experiences. When music videos had creativity, storytelling, and anticipation. When kids wanted to be Allen Iverson or Bow Wow, when Bow Wow and Romeo debates were everywhere, and when movies like Like Mike showed how sports, hip-hop, and childhood dreams could all collide.

We revisit what made 106th & Park special: Freestyle Friday, legendary performances, artists addressing rumors, beefs becoming public, groups breaking up in real time, and fans feeling connected to the culture.

We also talk about how music television changed. MTV was once the place where you discovered music, but somewhere along the way the "music" became secondary.

This episode isn't just nostalgia.

It's about how we consume culture, what we lost when everything became instant, and why some moments felt bigger because we all experienced them together.

Because there was a time when music wasn't just something you heard...

it was something you lived.

We talk about food every day, but how often do we actually question what we're putting into our bodies?

In this episode, I dive into America's complicated relationship with food: oversized portions, convenience culture, ultra-processed foods, changing food systems, and why so many of us have normalized feeling tired, sluggish, and disconnected from our health.

This isn't about fear or pretending there is a perfect diet.

It's about awareness.

I talk about my own journey with the gym, losing weight, building discipline, and realizing that respecting yourself also means respecting what you consume.

From understanding where our food comes from, to recognizing the importance of whole foods, hydration, and better habits, this episode is a reminder that health starts with the choices we make every day.

The goal isn't perfection.

The goal is paying attention.

Because the body carrying you through your dreams deserves better.

What does it actually mean when someone says, "She 90s fine"?

This episode isn't about ranking women or comparing generations. It's about the qualities that made certain women feel timeless. I reflect on the quiet confidence, grace, intelligence, mystery, femininity, style, and presence that defined an era through women like Nia Long, Clair Huxtable, Regina King, Sanaa Lathan, Taraji P. Henson, and Moesha.

Some women never had to tell the world they were the prize—they carried themselves like it was already understood.

This is a conversation about presence over performance, substance over attention, and why some qualities never go out of style.

What made someone "90s fine" wasn't just beauty.

It was everything that came with it.

Fellas... relax.

This episode is comedy.

Welcome to Part 1 of 100 Things Us Men Have to Stop Doing, where I call out some of the funniest, most random, and most unnecessary habits we've somehow normalized as men. From showing up to the cookout with hot dogs, to arguing about Drake for an hour, to having purple LED lights in your apartment, nothing is safe.

Some of these are jokes. Some have a little truth behind them. All of them are up for debate.

If you laugh, we did our job.

If you get offended... you probably made the list.

This is only 1 through 25.

We still have 75 more to clean up.