Respected & Connected: Practical Conversations for Couples Who Want Real Partnership

Have you ever wondered how your past relationships have shaped your emotional responses to your partner?

This episode explores the four different relationship attachment styles. Our Guest today is Bev Mitelman M.A., the founder of Securely Loved. Bev and Sharon dive into attachment styles, and how those subconscious patterns affect how we perceive conflict with our loved ones. Learn about the four key relationship attachment styles; Secure, Anxious Preoccupied, Fearful Avoidant, and Dismissive Avoidant; hear Bev explain how these attachment style form, what patterns they cause us to fall into, and how being aware of your style can allow you to connect more effectively with loved ones.

Bev's Links:

https://www.SecurelyLoved.com

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Connect with Sharon

• Website: https://www.respectedandconnected.com

• Connect on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/respected_and_connected

• Connect on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RespectedConnected

• Schedule a breakthrough call: https://respectedandconnected.com/gridlock

Voice Over, Mixing and Mastering Credits:

L. Connor Voice - [email protected]

Lconnorvoice.com

Music Credits:

Happy Growth - Music Radio Creative

Tired of feeling let down or resentful in your relationships?

This episode explores the hidden power of disappointment. Sharon dives deep into common mistakes we make when dealing with unmet expectations.

Learn practical skills like the "Feedback Wheel" and "Soft Startup" to transform conflict into connection. Discover how to avoid unhealthy coping mechanisms and communicate your needs effectively, even after betrayals or during life transitions.

Website and Linktree:

Connect with Sharon

• Website: https://www.respectedandconnected.com

• Connect on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/respected_and_connected

• Connect on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RespectedConnected

• Schedule a breakthrough call: https://respectedandconnected.com/gridlock

Voice Over, Mixing and Mastering Credits:

L. Connor Voice - [email protected]

http://www.lconnorvoice.com

Music Credits:

Happy Growth - Music Radio Creative

Is unconditional love a worthwhile aspiration or an unrealistic expectation?

In this episode, Zach Beach shares his insights on the concept of unconditional love and how it can be navigated alongside the necessary boundaries in various relationships. He emphasizes the importance of setting intentions and aspirations, the significance of integrating both the relative and absolute aspects of our human experience, and the necessity of maintaining boundaries as a form of self-love. Zach also explores the roles of the heart and mind in understanding life's challenges, accountability, and the evolutionary aspect of social connections.

Website and Linktree:

Connect with Sharon

• Website: https://www.respectedandconnected.com

• Connect on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/respected_and_connected

• Connect on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RespectedConnected

• Schedule a free call: https://respectedandconnected.com/contact

Connect with Zach Beach

• Zach's Website: https://www.zachbeach.com/

• Zach on Instagram:

• Learn to Love Podcast: https://www.zachbeach.com/podcasts/

• Living front the Heart Podcast: https://www.zachbeach.com/series/living-from-the-heart/

Voice Over, Mixing and Mastering Credits:

L. Connor Voice - [email protected]

Lconnorvoice.com

Music Credits:

Happy Growth - Music Radio Creative

Do you ever hold back in asking for what you want in your relationship because you're not sure if your expectations are reasonable? I hear this all the time. And while I sometimes think that people do have unrealistic expectations of their intimate relationships, I also think that we're asking the wrong question.

In this episode, we discuss:

• A few guiding principles for understanding and communicating your expectations

• How to be more thoughtful about how you communicate and negotiate getting your needs met

• The two types of partnership issues and how to address them

• Differentiating between needs and strategies for a more satisfying relationship

Website and Linktree:

Connect with Sharon

• Website: https://www.respectedandconnected.com

• Connect on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/respected_and_connected

• Connect on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RespectedConnected

• Schedule a free call: https://respectedandconnected.com/contact

Sharon's Travel Agent - Jessica Facer

• https://www.wanderpodtravel.com/

Voice Over, Mixing and Mastering Credits:

L. Connor Voice - [email protected]

Lconnorvoice.com

Music Credits:

Happy Growth - Music Radio Creative

Men…do you know what your partner needs to feel safe & provided for in today's relationships? Because it has changed.

Kristal DeSantis is a marriage and family therapist who specializes in men's issues. She's the author of the book Strong: A Relationship Field Guide for the Modern Man. And she's on the podcast today to talk about some of the ideas and concepts she's learned from working with men and helping them navigate intimate relationships.

Topics discussed:

• How expectations for intimate relationship have changed

• What do women mean when they say they want a partner instead of a provider?

• Why traditional therapy has not adequately addressed men's issues

• Specific skills for creating safety in today's relationships

Website and Linktree:

Free Guide: How to Talk to Your Partner About Getting Help With your Relationship Respectedandconnected.com/coupleswork

Connect with Sharon

• Website: https://www.respectedandconnected.com

• Connect on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/respected_and_connected

• Connect on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RespectedConnected

• Schedule a free call: https://respectedandconnected.com/contact

Connect with Kristal:

• Website: https://www.strong.love/

• Buy the book: https://www.amazon.com/Strong-Relationship-Field-Guide-Modern/dp/1959099027

Voice Over, Mixing and Mastering Credits:

L. Connor Voice - [email protected]

Lconnorvoice.com

Music Credits:

Happy Growth - Music Radio Creative

What do you do when you're doing your best to use good relationship skills and your partner isn't responding well? If you've ever felt like things go wrong no matter how hard you try, this episode is for you.

Topics discussed:

• Understanding relationship phases - love without knowledge, knowledge without love, and knowing love

• Identifying common reactions to unmet expectations

• Choosing healthier strategies for effective communication

• The importance of patience and persistence in the process of change

Website and Linktree:

Connect with Sharon

• Website: https://www.respectedandconnected.com

• Connect on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/respected_and_connected

• Connect on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RespectedConnected

• Schedule a free call: https://respectedandconnected.com/contact

Voice Over, Mixing and Mastering Credits:

L. Connor Voice - [email protected]

Lconnorvoice.com

Music Credits:

Happy Growth - Music Radio Creative

Have you ever used a personality test to help you understand your partner or your relationship better? Today's guest Laurel Roberts-Meese is a therapist who uses the enneagram with individuals and couples to help them understand their fears, motivations, and behaviors better.

Topics discussed:

• The nine enneagram types, their fears, and motivations

• The enneagram as a trauma informed personality typing system

• Understanding conflicts in a couple through the lens of the enneagram

• How understanding each person's fears and motivations can help couples navigate conflict more effectively

Website and Linktree:

Connect with Sharon

• Website: https://www.respectedandconnected.com

• Connect on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/respected_and_connected

• Connect on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RespectedConnected

• Schedule a free call: https://respectedandconnected.com/contact

Connect with Laurel

• Laurel Therapy Collective Website: https://www.laureltherapy.net/

Voice Over, Mixing and Mastering Credits:

L. Connor Voice - [email protected]

Lconnorvoice.com

Music Credits:

Happy Growth - Music Radio Creative

One question that I get often as a relationship coach is - when should someone see a professional for help with their relationship? A lot of us have an idea of the BIG things that end most relationships like abuse and infidelity, but what about everything else? What about couples that just feel stuck, aren't feeling close, fight too much…but don't know if things are bad enough to warrant investing in getting help?

As a relationship coach, I'm a huge advocate for getting help before you're in crisis. And today I want to talk a little bit more about how to know if you need support, especially if you're feeling stuck and there are no huge glaring issues in your relationship.

Topics discussed:

• When to seek professional help for your relationship

• Understanding common relationship issues

• The increasing occurrence of "grey divorce"

• Recognizing unhealthy conflict patterns

• The importance of early intervention for addressing relationship challenges

• The role of a couples coach or therapist

Website and Linktree:

Free Guide: How to Talk to Your Partner About Getting Help With your Relationship Respectedandconnected.com/coupleswork

Connect with Sharon

• Website: https://www.respectedandconnected.com

• Connect on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/respected_and_connected

• Connect on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RespectedConnected

• Schedule a free call: https://respectedandconnected.com/contact

Voice Over, Mixing and Mastering Credits:

L. Connor Voice - [email protected]

Lconnorvoice.com

Music Credits:

Happy Growth - Music Radio Creative

Hear Sharon on the other end of the mic in this conversation with hosts of the Couples Therapy in Seven Words podcast.

Topics discussed:

• Sharon's personal journey navigating cultural expectations, pursuing a career in engineering, and advocating for a more equitable relationship

• Navigating gender role conflicts

• Advocating for yourself by "calling in" instead of "calling out"

Website and Linktree:

Free Guide: Five Skills for an Intimate, Collaborative Relationship: Respectedandconnected.com/skills

Connect with Sharon

• Website: https://www.respectedandconnected.com

• Connect on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/respected_and_connected

• Connect on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RespectedConnected

• Schedule a free call: https://respectedandconnected.com/contact

Guest Links:

Couples Therapy in Seven Words Podcast: https://couplestherapyinsevenwords.com/

Voice Over, Mixing and Mastering Credits:

L. Connor Voice - [email protected]

Lconnorvoice.com

Music Credits:

Happy Growth - Music Radio Creative

Have you ever wondered why you and your partner can view the same situation so differently? You can't even agree about what happened and how you should handle it. Trying to make up that difference and get on the same page can be absolutely mind boggling. Today's guest, Thais Gibson, is here to help. We're talking about attachment styles and understanding your relationship through an attachment lens can help you understand each other better and handle your differences more productively.

Topics discussed:

• Moving beyond traditional EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) to address subconscious attachment wounds and programming

• Understanding your core wounds and communicating your needs

• Taking responsibility for your part of a relationship while also fostering connection and interdependence

Website and Linktree:

Get the full show notes and links to the resources mentioned at https://respectedandconnected.com/podcast/b/ep-142

Connect with Sharon

• Website: https://www.respectedandconnected.com

• Connect on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/respected_and_connected

• Connect on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RespectedConnected

• Schedule a free call: https://respectedandconnected.com/contact

Guest Links:

Personal Development School Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHQ4lSaKRap5HyrpitrTOhQ

Voice Over, Mixing and Mastering Credits:

L. Connor Voice - [email protected]

Lconnorvoice.com

Music Credits:

Happy Growth - Music Radio Creative