We don't forget to heal, but sometimes we need to heal by forgetting. The science is clear enough - forgetting is a helpful skill in our circumstances around grief. Let's unpack how to do so with intention instead of packing things and pretending they're not real.

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"I’ve had to start putting all the pieces of me back together instead trying to silo these little bits apart as if one is more important than the rest.”

Kate Boyd is the author of An Untidy Faith (Herald Press, April 2013) and host of The Untidy Faith podcast. Amid her own grief in the pandemic, Kate recognized a need for someone to speak up on behalf the Messy Middle Christians looking to reimagine what faith, life, and community could look like after disentangling. Her story invites us to become more curious about what we are carrying and find a pathway toward wholeness if we too are navigating grief and faith change at the same time.

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How do you hold yourself knowing you're about to experience divorce? The same way we would face any other impending loss - by going internal. Let's talk it out.

"What I have started experiencing is being able to communicate what my intentions, desires, expectations are in social settings. I now know that if I or the other people don't communicate, I cannot fill in those gaps with my own ideas or beliefs - it doesn't allow the relationship to last or flourish."

Cortland Coffey is one of the most intentional, compassionate, and curious humans I've ever had the pleasure of knowing and I am so excited to share his story about relational healing today! His personal journey to dismantle relational paradigms, permanence, and expectations has allowed him to learn more about himself and others. The grief around relational shifts is real - we disappoint others and sometimes ourselves, but ultimately, can rebuild back a better way of relating that is healthier and more sustainable for all.

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How many times have you heard about the five stages of grief and been overwhelmed? This week we're chatting about all those grief theories and how to sort the helpful from the noise.

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"Life is just one part of this - and death is the other side of the coin - but that doesn't mean we need to be afraid of what we don't yet understand."

Caili Danieu is a death doula and intuitive life coach working to dismantle the anxiety and fear we carry around death and dying. Her personal experience with death is as personal as it gets, radically transforming her approach to life itself as well as the way we grieve. I can't wait for you to hear her story.

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We've hit 100 episodes on Restorative Grief! Okay, so we hit it a few weeks ago (months, if you count all the bonus episodes) but I decided it was a great time to share the heart of what I've learned and where the show is headed. Thank you keeping us "on the air" for the last two years - here's the 100 more!

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This week, we're dismantling black & white thinking binaries that keep us limited in our integration and growth. The idea of clarity is deceptive when we marry it with control, but if we can invite the both/and of reality into our healing process, we will find ourselves flourishing when we least expect it.

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"Once you bring yourself to that vulnerable place - that baseline emotionality - there is a real temptation to retreat."

Author Benjamin Perry wants us to know our tears matter for so many reasons, we're losing count. After nearly 12 years of not crying, Benjamin decided to experiment with his own baseline emotionality and pursue a tearful project of crying at least once a day for a year. The outcome expanded his inner world and outer connections in healthy ways he never anticipated.

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Pet loss is a legitimate reason to grieve, and yet so many times we disqualify ourselves from the loss of our little companions out of shame, comparison, or any number of self-criticisms. Let's chat this week about how to move through the loss of a pet with as much kindness as anything else we may grieve.

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