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Are you using porn as a pacifier?

Why do certain fantasies feel so powerful?

And can you really reach a place where porn loses its pull?

In this episode, we sit down with Drew Boa, founder of Husband Material and author of Outgrow Porn, to talk about why lasting freedom requires more than simply fighting urges.

Drew describes porn as a pacifier—something many people discovered young and learned to use to soothe pain, loneliness, rejection, powerlessness, or unmet needs. We unpack how specific fantasies can reveal what we’re actually longing for, why understanding both pain triggers and pleasure triggers matters, and how going back into our childhood stories can help us understand where these patterns began.

Drew also shares his practical BOA method: Breathe, Observe, Attune—a simple tool for moving through an urge without fighting against it and learning to identify what you truly need in that moment.

This conversation unpacks how Drew has over ten years of freedom from internet pornography, and a key lies in the ability to “Heal the boy to free the man.”

Resources:

Outgrow Porn Book

Husband Material

R2M:

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Is an accidental chasm being created between spouses within the Christian recovery community? How do you know when you and your spouse are ready for couples work? And what do you do when one spouse is ready to heal together, but the other is not? 

In today’s conversation, we answer some of the most meaningful questions we’ve recently been asked about couples recovery, The Bridge Back to Us being revolutionary in the industry, and why sobriety and personal growth do not always restore a marriage. 

We hope that this conversation helps you understand what may be missing in your recovery journey and reminds you that, with humility, support, and Jesus at the center, it is possible to begin building a bridge back to one another.

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What fills you up when you’re feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or emotionally drained? How do you know whether you need physical rest, relational connection, a mental break, or time with Jesus?

Learning to identify and communicate our needs has helped us stay healthier, more connected, and more grounded in who God created us to be—but this has not always come naturally to us.

In today’s conversation, we share some of our own struggles with running on empty, recognizing when we’re moving into the “yellow circle,” and discovering the deeper needs beneath irritability, numbing, unhealthy coping, increased temptation, scrolling, overeating, or disconnection. We’ve also learned that the things we expect to fill us up do not always meet the need beneath what we’re feeling.

Our hope is that, through our conversation, you learn how to become better teammates by communicating needs, choosing curiosity over criticism, extending grace while you figure out what truly restores you, and creating space for one another to rest, process, connect, and spend time with Jesus.

Resources:

The Bridge Back to Us 

Couples Daily Journal ( each spouse should have one)

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What does it mean to be a biblically sexual man? Can masculine men also be deeply romantic? And how can we stop lusting and learn to embrace true beauty in other people?

What if we processed beauty differently? What if beauty helped reveal our deeper needs, emotions, and inner longings rather than leading us into lust?

 In today’s conversation with trauma therapist and author Sam Jolman, we unpack the difference between what happens in our physical bodies—arousal—and what happens in our hearts when we notice or feel attracted to another person.

We also discuss what we can do when we notice our spouse looking at someone attractive, how couples can respond without immediately moving into fear, shame, or accusation, and how we can steward our hearts in ways that honor God, ourselves, and our spouse.

This conversation touches on several topics that are crucial for us during our own healing journey. We hope you enjoy this convo as much as we did and be sure to check out Sam Jolman’s book below.

Resources: 

Sam's Book

Sam's Website

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Today, with Brook Mosser, we challenge the idea that masculinity is defined by toughness, silence, performance, or stereotypically “manly” activities. Instead, biblical masculinity is marked by humility, confession, emotional honesty, meekness, and the courage to be fully known.

Brook shares vulnerably from his own story of family betrayal, hidden pain, forgiveness, marriage, fatherhood, and the relationships that have helped shape him into the man he is today. Together, we talk about why so many men struggle to name what is really happening inside them, why accountability alone is often not enough, and why genuine brotherhood can become a place of healing, strength, and freedom.

This episode is an invitation for men to reject isolation, stop pretending, and allow trusted brothers to help carry the weight of life. It is also an encouragement for wives who want to support their husbands without shaming, controlling, or forcing vulnerability.

The most masculine men are not the ones who hide their weakness. They are the ones brave enough to tell the truth, receive help, and become more like Jesus.

Brook's Resources:

Intentional

Sowing a Hidden Seed 31-Day Prayer Devotional

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Website

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In this episode, we sit down with Laurie Krieg to talk about one of the most important and often intimidating topics for Christian parents (and reference her newest book a lot), Raising Wise Kids in a Sexually Broken World.

Laurie shares from her own story, her years of ministry experience, and her work with parents to help families move from fear-based parenting to gospel-centered discipleship. We talk about why sheltering our kids from every hard conversation is not the same as preparing them, and how to talk about sexuality with both compassion and conviction.

This conversation is full of wisdom, honesty, and practical encouragement for parents who want to help their kids understand God's good design, recognize brokenness with compassion, and learn how to love others without compromising truth.

Resources:

https://lauriekrieg.com/

Her Newest Book

R2M Resources

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Everyone says date nights are vital for a healthy marriage.

But after betrayal, date night can feel anything but fun. It can feel awkward, scary, vulnerable, and even triggering. One wrong question, one hard moment, and suddenly the whole night feels ruined.

If that’s where you are, we get it.

Restoring date night was not easy for us. We had some funny fails, awkward silences, and plenty of trial and error along the way. But over time, we learned how to make date night feel safe, lighthearted, and enjoyable again.

In this episode, we share the do’s and don’ts of date night in recovery, what helped us stop turning dates into recovery check-ins, and how couples can begin laughing, reconnecting, and creating new memories after betrayal.

Resources:

Date Night Cards

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Can travel feel safe again when trust is still healing?

For many couples, work trips, weekends away, or time apart can bring up fear, anxiety, and painful memories. In this episode, we talk about how to create a travel safety plan that helps both spouses feel cared for before, during, and after a trip.

We share practical ways to prepare instead of repair, build trust through proactive accountability, identify triggers, and create boundaries that protect the relationship.

Travel does not have to be another place where fear takes over. With humility, preparation, and a clear plan, it can become an opportunity to rebuild safety and trust.

Resources:

Ask Us Anything

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In this shocking and eye-opening episode, we sit down with Michael Leahy, founder and CEO of BraveHearts and author of Porn Nation, to talk about a danger most people are not prepared for: the way AI is reshaping pornography, addiction, intimacy, emotional attachment, and what it means to be human.

Michael has spent decades helping men, women, and couples heal from sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. But after watching the rapid rise of AI, he believes we are entering an entirely new frontier — one that may be even more dangerous than the early days of internet pornography.

This conversation goes beyond AI-generated pornography. We talk about AI companions, emotional dependency, betrayed spouses, parenting, recovery, and why real relationships, with real hurt and pain, need a real community and a real God.

This is a sobering and urgent conversation for every spouse, parent, pastor, counselor, and ministry leader who wants to understand what is coming — and how we can respond with wisdom, safety, and hope.

Resources:

Bravehearts 

The Bridge Back to Us 8-Week Course

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In this episode, we sit down with Troy Snyder, MS, NCC, LPC, CCSAS, CPCS, a counselor who has been working in the sexual addiction field for over 25 years, to talk about what healing looks like beneath addiction.

So often, the focus in recovery becomes, “How do I stop the behavior?” But Troy invites us to ask a deeper question: What is happening in the heart? What pain is being avoided? What core wounds are still tender? What emotions were never named, processed, or brought into healthy community? And what is pornography falsely promising to fix?

We also talk about the depth of betrayal trauma and why the betrayed spouse’s pain cannot be minimized, rushed, or placed on a timeline. Troy gives language for how the unfaithful spouse can stay humble, own the impact, and begin to understand the grief and devastation betrayal creates.

Resources:

C-SASI Page

Troy Snyder's Page

The Bridge Back to Us 8-Week Course

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