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After years of pain, trauma, manipulation, and addiction, Adelle lost hope. Just at their breaking point, Travis went on a men's retreat and had a mountain-top experience with  Jesus enabling him to confront his fears and take steps towards honesty and healing. Unfortunately, Travis was advised to blanket the details of his infidelity and left out major factors that later came to the light and left Adelle again devastated and wanting a divorce. 

In this episode, Adelle describes how Travis's ability to enter into her pain through the grieving period demonstrated that he had experienced significant heart change. Instead of grief further dividing them and leading Travis into shame and destructive behaviors, it built connection, empathy, and trust. Travis shares his steps to healing and being emotionally available, while Adelle shares with us her pain and the stages of grief she experienced, and which ones she got stuck in. 

Their journey of restoration is full of God's provision and further led them to create a remarkable ministry called The Noble Marriage. 

The Noble Marriage Resources:
https://www.instagram.com/thenoblemarriage/
https://thenoblemarriage.com/
https://www.youtube.com/c/TheNobleMarriage

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Today we hear from  Carrie Holladay as she shares her story of betrayal and how she discovered that her trauma could be used to give others hope. She is a coach, a  powerful voice on Instagram and in the LDS community, and an advocate for women's health and healing.

She shares with us how devastated she was by her husband's sexual betrayal, and how it intensified  her already present battles with eating disorders, depression, and body dysphoria. While discovering his actions, she shares how being in pregnant mode and having four kids under five years put her in a state of compartmentalization.  Unfortunatley, while she suppressed her pain, the internal side effects only got worse. Carries' heartbreaking story takes a turn and now allows her to use her story to now help women overcome and heal. Listen today for a story filled with validation, empathy and hope.

More Resources:
https://sincerelycarriejean.com/
https://www.instagram.com/sincerelycarriejean/


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If you're like Charity, perhaps you've been angry that you now need to omit secular tv shows and movies that have content that could trigger your spouses. For a time, she asked,  "why do we have to suffer and miss out on the fun of the latest TV binge-worthy series?"  Today we talk about what we choose to watch and why and the difference between everything being lawful but not everything being helpful.

We also had what we thought was a great podcast topic until the Holy Spirit hijacked our conversation. Instead of sharing what life looks like after recovery, we get passionate about how pro-active accountability is a vital ingredient that is missing from most men's recovery game plans. Instead of using our accountability groups as a place for weekly confession, we need to take the reigns of responsibility and reach out for help before we slip or relapse. In addition to pro-active accountability, the question is, am I acting proactively to remove the areas of temptation, and am I willing to become my own worse enemy for my addiction?

We also explain what it means to "finish the fantasy" by sharing our fantasies with safe people to make them lose power and luster. Instead of our fantasies haunting us, triggering us, and hiding in the shadows, we explain the power of dragging them into the light and explaining what the real aftermath would be of finishing the fantasy.

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In this episode, we interview Amanda and Katie, the founders of The Victory Collective. Together they have started a platform to share their story and normalize the struggle of pornography among girls and women. They are powerfully reaching a younger generation by giving them a voice and platform where they can be seen and loved amid a struggle that binds so many girls in isolation, guilt, and shame. 

We got a chance to dive into their stories of struggle, confusion, shame, and victory. Today through The Victory Collective, their goal is to be a voice to the voiceless and remove the shame that so many have from struggling with pornography, masturbation, and sexual brokenness. They share what it was like to struggle with porn while at Christian schools, how it affected their relationships, and how confessing to someone safe changed their perspective of the fight. 

Listen now to their powerful testimony and then support them in their brave endeavors as they point others to hope and restoration.

More Resources:
https://www.instagram.com/the_victory_collective/
https://www.thevictorycollective.net/


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Our favorite one-liners:

“Trust is not a gift to be given, but  is a responsibility to be earned.”
“Healthy people make healthy relationships.”
“What’s happening in the present is normally rooted in the past.”
“Admitting our brokenness to our spouse is the first step in moving towards intimacy.”

Today we had the incredible opportunity to interview Debra Fileta, a licensed professional counselor, author, relational expert, and national speaker. She is the author of True Love Dates, Choosing Marriage, Love in Every Season, Are You Really Ok? and Married Sex.

In this episode, Debra shares with us how her passion for couples came out of her brokenness and how God has used her story to lead couples to discover true and lasting intimacy.

She explains that our sexual brokenness is commonly rooted in our past, and instead of putting on a bandaid or increasing our frequency of sex, we need to heal the root issues. If we can learn to be a healthy spouse, we can begin to experience healthy, life-giving sexual intimacy. She explains how sex is so much more than a physical connection but that it is physiological, emotional, spiritual, and recreational. 

She asks a simple yet profound question,” what is your sexual template?” We all have one, and it defines how we view sex, but most of us have never examined if it is grounded in truth or lies. We must learn how to see through the fallacies of sex that culture has created and understand the beautiful experience that God made sex to be. She shares a powerful message and explains how we can begin to experience the incredible gift of Married Sex.

More Resources:
https://debrafileta.com/
https://www.instagram.com/DebraFileta/
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-and-relationships-with-debra-fileta/id1417804351


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What is a trigger? What can I do when I am triggered? How can I support my spouse when they are triggered?

Today we discuss triggers and how healthily handling them can lead to restoration. At the beginning of our healing process, triggers overwhelmed us and sent us spiraling and fighting, leaving us confused and disconnected. We found that we can react four different ways to triggers: suppress them, medicate them, unhealthily let them lead us or healthily process them in a way that leads to growth. 

In this episode, we get raw and real again as we share stories and personal examples of how we miserably failed at times and eventually how we learned to support one another through being triggered. We hope that as you listen, you identify what you can do to healthily process a trigger and help your spouse as they go through triggers as well.

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How can we proactively prepare our kids for an over-sexualized culture? How can we protect them from the damaging effects of pornography? What should we do if we discover our child is watching pornography? How early should we talk about sex, and how do we bring up the topic of pornography with our kids?

Today we have the privilege to share our interview with Kristen Jenson, who answers these questions and shares her wisdom on these topics! Kristen is the founder of Defend Young Minds and the #1 best-selling author of the Good Pictures Bad Pictures series. She is empowering resilient, screen-smart kids who know how to reject pornography through her many endeavors.

This episode discusses practical tools for preparing our children for what they will face in today’s culture and how to respond if they have already been exposed to pornography.  

Listen now and click the links below to get all the tools that Defend Young Minds have created!

More Resources:
https://www.defendyoungminds.com/
https://www.defendyoungminds.com/brain-defense


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If fear is not displaced by grace, it will ultimately ruin our lives. Before anything else, grace is relational, meaning we have to experience grace to understand it. 

Today we get an in-depth look at the meaning and power of grace. What does it mean, and how have misguided teachings distorted and diluted its message? Ed Khouri has been in the field of addiction and recovery for over 40 years. He has authored numerous books and today equips leaders on these topics in over 90 nations. In 2015 he felt God nudging him to understand grace on a deeper level, and today he shares with us his life-changing discoveries. Grace changes everything. It determines if we live in fear and make choices that hurt us and others or live relationally healthy lives with God, our spouse, and others. Once we can understand and, more importantly, experience grace, it allows us to become a face of grace. Learn more by listening now and then, purchasing his newest book, Becoming a Face of Grace.

More Resources:
https://www.equippinghearts.com/our-team
https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Face-Grace-Navigating-Relationship/dp/1947360906


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 Today we interview Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill,  the Founders of Connection Codes. Glenn is a clinical sexologist and family therapist, and both Glenn and Phyllis are connection code coaches who help couples, families, individuals, churches, and businesses build deeper connections. Today we discuss how to live authentic lives and communicate our emotions in a way that creates a connection with those around us. Unfortunately, Charity and I would fight almost every time we talked about our feelings at the beginning of recovery. Through Connections Codes, they share how instead of avoiding these hard conversations, we can learn how to understand emotion and use our feelings as a way to foster a deeper connection!

Glenn and Phyllis also share some incredible tools, including a core emotion wheel, a free webinar, and an online e-course through Connection Codes that have helped thousands of people build deeper connections.

More Resources:
https://www.connectioncodes.co/
https://www.instagram.com/connectioncodes/


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Out of the Dust is the name of this incredible married duo, as well as the headline of their story. Today Chris and Steph Teague share their story of downfall, divorce, and miraculous remarriage. After two years of having a Christian, ministry-filled marriage,  Chris told Steph that he didn’t believe in God and didn’t want to be married. After getting divorced and not talking for eight months, God brought them back together in a way that can only be described as a miracle. Listen now for the behind-the-scenes look at what happened and how God used their season of brokenness to create a beautiful story of restoration. 

Using music as their platform, they continue to tour and take steps of faith, creating life-changing music spreading the message of hope to a world desperately in need.


More Resources:
https://outofthedustmusic.com/
https://www.instagram.com/outofthedustmusic/


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https://www.instagram.com/restored2more/
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