By Lauren Spigelmyer
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In the final episode of the emotional regulation series, Lauren dives into the third step: problem-solving. If you haven’t listened to the previous two episodes, be sure to check them out first. Sometimes, emotional dysregulation stems from a recurring issue that can’t be resolved with regulation techniques alone—it requires working through the problem itself.
Lauren walks through the importance of keeping communication simple: "You felt, I felt, problem, solution."
With problem solving, timing is key—you can’t address problem-solving when a child is dysregulated or immediately after, as this could re-trigger them. The goal here isn’t to teach a lesson, but to collaboratively solve a problem in a way that helps children feel heard and open to solutions.
Don’t forget to share what you’ve learned, write it down, and apply these strategies in real-life situations!
If you haven't already, check out Five Ives to see how strategies like this can be applied to adults, especially in the workplace. Five Ives works with staff in high burnout jobs to help them incorporate regulation strategies into their daily routines.
Try-at-home tip: Eating mindfully - be present with your meal.
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In this episode Lauren re-visits her framework for helping kids recognize emotional dysregulation. Emotions are abstract and recognizing the spectrum of emotions can be hard, especially for kiddos who have so many stimuli that can knock them out of their window of tolerance.
After walking through the key steps of using the framework to recognize that you're dysregulated, Lauren explains how to visualize the window of tolerance and how use it to identify when you're dysregulated.
Try-at-home tip: Aromatherapy - not just essential oils!
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Window of Tolerance
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If you haven't listened yet, go back and listen to the past 2 episodes of this series on going back to the basics of emotional regulation. Today Lauren is giving us strategies for how to up or down regulate on the spot - in the moment that the dysregulation occurs.
There are hundreds of regulation strategies that you can try yourself or with your kiddos. Lauren is sharing her go-to strategies and providing resources for finding other strategies so that you can find what works for you and your kids.
If you haven't already, check out Five Ives to see how strategies like this can be applied to adults, especially in the workplace. Five Ives works with staff in high burnout jobs to help them incorporate regulation strategies into their daily routines.
Favorite Quote
"Just think in opposites and you'll have good strategies to use."
Listener Question: Where can I learn more about this?
Try-at-home tip: Try using taste to regulate the nervous system. Think about using foods that have strong tastes like sourness or bitterness.
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Deepak Chopra
Rangan Chatterji
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In this second episode of this re-introduction to the Returning To Us series, Lauren walks through how to build and use a calm down quiet space in your home or classroom. In the last episode, Lauren strategies for recognizing and categorizing emotional states - a critical step in emotional regulation.
Creating a quiet space to facilitate regulation is an easy way to help your kiddos with emotional regulation. This isn't a time out or punishment; it's a safe place where kids can go to focus on how they are feeling internally and employ emotional regulation strategies.
Lauren provides the steps necessary to setting up a quiet space in your home and teaching your young kids to use it in concert with the regulation strategies and temperature system introduced in past episodes.
Listener Question: Where do you get all the materials you use to create this?
Try-at-home tip: Create a mind space for your teens, tweens, and young adults.
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In this new series Lauren is going back to the beginning for some re-introductions. From how she got her start with The Behavior Hub to her current role with the University of Pennsylvania, Lauren walks us through her growth as an expert in the brain and human behaviors.
She also gives us a re-introduction to the Returning To Us podcast. The goal of the podcast is to give people the information and tools they need to return to a regulated, balanced nervous system state.
And, with the spirit of getting back to basics in mind, Lauren spends time re-introducing the strategies and tools needed to teach emotional regulation to really young kids.
Favorite Quote
"We're human. We have to work through emotions. Not just bypass them."
Try-at-home tip: Try the turtle squeeze regulation technique.
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In the final installment of Lauren's series on books that help kids deal with hard topics, she's sharing 4 more books. In this episode, Lauren gives an overview of each book and her recommendations for adapting it to kids in different age groups.
We want to protect our kids, but to do that, we need to give them the language to explain their experiences. It's good to educate them earlier and young and allow them to feel comfortable expressing themselves in uncomfortable situations. And, as always, Lauren gives some great ideas for how to easily modify these for your younger kiddos.
Different books resonate with different people, kids, and situations so make sure to look these up online and check the reviews to see what other people are saying.
Listener Question: How do I know which of these books is appropriate for my child or student? How do I know what to change to make it more appropriate?
Try-at-home tip: Let your kids lead.
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In this second installment of Lauren's series on books that help kids deal with hard topics, she's sharing 4 more books. In this episode, Lauren gives an overview of each book and her recommendations for adapting it to kids in different age groups.
Most books on these topics are designed for kids ages 5-12, but they can be modified for younger kids. It can be helpful to introduce the topics early as long as they're introduced in a developmentally appropriate way. Lauren gives some great ideas for how to easily modify these for your younger kiddos.
Different books resonate with different people, kids, and situations so make sure to look these up online and check the reviews to see what other people are saying.
Try-at-home tip: Use water as a tool of regulation with your kids.
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This is the first episode of a review series where Lauren introduces children's books that address topics like private parts, abuse, and anxiety. In this episode, Lauren gives an overview of each book and her recommendations for adapting it to kids in different age groups. Check them out online for reviews and Lauren will give her opinion of each book.
Different books resonate with different people, kids, and situations so make sure to look these up online and check the reviews to see what other people are saying.
Try-at-home tip: Read books with your kiddos!
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Annnnd....she's back! After taking July off to enjoy the summer, Lauren is back with the final installment of emotional regulation strategies. So far Lauren has shared over 30 emotional regulation tools that you can use to build your toolbox. If you missed them, go back and listen to episodes 1-6 so that you can start curating a list of strategies that work for the kids in your life.
This is now officially the last episode in the regulation series - Lauren couldn't help herself sharing just one last set of regulation tools! In this episode, Lauren shares new regulation strategies that focus on blowing. Some of these may be a little annoying for the adults around, but blowing is a great tool for helping kids regulate their emotions.
Coming up next week is a new series on using books to help kids learn about and deal with hard things. Tune in next week for the first installment!
Lauren answers this week’s listener question during the episode: What if I try these things and nothing is working?
Try-at-home tip: Using fire exposure as meditation.
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For the past 6 weeks, Lauren has shared close to 30 emotional regulation tools that you can use to build your toolbox. If you missed them, go back and listen to episodes 1-5 so that you can start curating a list of strategies that work for the kids in your life.
This is the last episode before Lauren's summer break. The podcast will be on break for all of July, but Lauren will be back in August with a series on books that help kids learn about and deal with hard topics. So, enjoy your July and we'll be excited to reconnect later this summer!
In this episode, Lauren shares 5 new regulation strategies that you can use with your kiddos to help prevent emotional dysregulation or to regulate emotions in the moment when they are happening.
Lauren answers this week’s listener question during the episode: How do I teach my kid these techniques? When I try to teach them, they get more upset.
Try-at-home tip: Create an accountability group around these tools and implementing them.
Update: There will be no podcast episodes in July. Lauren is taking a little break during a busy summer month, but will be back in August with an exciting new series!
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