Sometimes instead of doing the necessary work to heal, we tend to find comfort in our pain. We use hurt to attract more hurt, expecting people love use through our pain.

Negating that voice within that tells us that a person is not meant to be in our space is sometime the tipping point of emotions that sends us overboard. Not taking heed to that gut feeling.

On this journey of finding love, we have choices on how we choose to proceed. We have a choice on what we attract into our life in this regard, whether good or bad!

What I often find is that instead of people embracing the single phase or quote on quote the lonely phase of their lives; we begin to use other people for a temporary fix. This phase is meant for preparation of self.

We tend to sabotage our own happiness when finding love because we project our past relationships onto our new relationships; which causes us to attract out past hurts.

Women I want you to understand something, you are the prize! Enough said! You are the backbone of men; we need you to survive and vice versa.

Sometimes we are so hard on ourselves when our dating life and relationship life doesn't go as plan and it puts us in this mood of saying F#@& It; that's ok but we can't stay there. Don't let others Insecurities control your outcome.

More often than not, I find most people that is on their journey to find love; they are infatuated with the idea of love which causes them to be pushed further and further away from their designed partner.

More often than not, I see so many women chasing behind a man that does add any value to their lives; vice versa with men as well. And the intentional chase and pursuit is not reciprocal.