You can change, but only if you're willing to let go of the version of you that you are now. Accept that part of you is gone. Thank it for its service, then build new habits and behaviors that align with the new version.

When you go into something with all the motivation and zero skill or ability to adapt, most people stop just as fast. Only extremely resilient people tend to handle those situations well and regroup after there big fail. For the rest, learn to start with purpose, then accelerate at the right time. Discipline and standards to offset the cycling of motivation.

Just because you've heard something bad about a person, doesn't make it true. Even if it was at one time, it doesn't mean it still is. Yes, this can work both ways. Let them show you who they are now. And trust that. Good, bad, or indifferent.

If you don't take it personally, getting beat up on purpose can teach you way more than you think 🤣. The trick is to keep trying to find a way. Pay attention to their movements. Learn from those more advanced than you. Test things out on those with similar levels. Teach and help those lessor skilled.

Some people only want to see what you do wrong because they already painted you as the monster in their story. Stop trying to justify yourself. You don't owe anyone a defense for your existence. Their place in your history doesn't equal a place in your future.

Who you are in the fire is who you really are in your heart. Do you like that person? If not, go to work and build those character traits up.

Most things aren't hard. Your ego is too big to admit you might be wrong, might suck at things, or you lack many life skills. Being uncomfortable with your feelings doesn't mean things are hard. It means you need to put in more work on yourself.

This quip isn't meant to let you off the hook to improve your communication abilities. But those who truly want to win with you will help get you to the right path by being curious and reactive. If they are determined to be against you, no matter how perfect you might say it, they will still hear it the wrong way.

You can only feign ignorance for so long. Then you just need to admit you just don't care. If not, you're a liar. That's much worse in the end.

This is a different way of thinking about your behavior patterns or habits. And the ramble at the end is me hitting a realization while talking and thinking it through, but not wanting to start over with that new knowledge to make it clean 🤷‍♂️😂.