In this episode, Allen and Torri dive deep into why forgiveness is essential—not optional—in God’s master plan for our lives. They explore forgiveness as a biblical command, a foundation for spiritual growth, a key to restored relationships, and a pathway to true peace, both with others and within ourselves.

Key Takeaways:

- Forgiveness is foundational, not just a virtue among many. It's a non-negotiable part of God's plan for building healthy relationships, spiritual maturity, and unity in both church and community. Without forgiveness, our spiritual life and relationships remain stuck and weighed down by past hurts.

- This week’s acronym, GRACE, outlines the forgiveness journey:
    G: Growth—Forgiveness unlocks spiritual and personal growth. Unforgiveness holds us back and tethers us to the past, while letting go brings freedom and the ability to move forward.
    R: Reflection—Honest self-reflection is crucial. Take regular time to assess your feelings, acknowledge your role in conflict, and recognize when there’s unforgiveness hiding in your heart.
    A: Acknowledgment—We all need God’s help; no one is above needing forgiveness. There’s no “graduating” from needing grace. Acknowledge your need, and God will meet you there.
    C: Compassion—Emulate all of Christ, not just the parts we like. True compassion is forgiving as Christ forgave us—patiently, fully, and before apologies.
    E: Embrace (the Process)—Forgiveness isn’t “one and done”; it’s a process. It’s often hard, sometimes takes time, and may require ongoing humility, but on the other side is real peace and wholeness.

- Forgiveness, according to scripture, is an act of grace and mercy—choosing to release not just resentment, but also any desire for retribution. Jesus teaches in Matthew 6:14-15 that if we forgive, we will be forgiven, but if we refuse, our own forgiveness is withheld. God sets this standard—not us or cultural expectations.

- God values reconciliation over outward gifts or religious acts. If there’s unresolved conflict, even our worship is interrupted (Matthew 5:23-24). Making peace is a higher priority to God than just “doing church.”

- Forgiving others and forgiving ourselves are both required for moving forward. Unforgiveness toward ourselves is just as limiting and prideful as holding grudges against others. We’re called to believe in God’s forgiveness for us, release past shame, and step into the renewed life He offers.

- True forgiveness is not “fake it till you make it” or waiting for the other person’s apology. It’s letting go, even if the other never makes it right, because it’s about our obedience and healing.

- The measure we use with others—judgment, condemnation, or forgiveness—returns to us (Luke 6:37-42). When we sow mercy, we reap mercy.

- Forgiveness isn’t about excusing wrongs or minimizing pain. It’s about releasing yourself from the burden of bitterness, trusting God to handle justice, and opening your life to His healing, blessing, and assignment.

- A heavenly perspective is vital: God’s big picture for His people is built on forgiveness—none of us enter His kingdom without it. It’s the foundation, not the pinnacle, of Christian life.

Practical Steps:

- Regularly reflect and pray about areas of unforgiveness—towards others and yourself.
- Humbly acknowledge your ongoing need for God’s grace.
- Practice compassion—respond with Christlike love and patience even when it’s hard.
- Embrace the process—don’t rush, but don’t get stuck; trust God to finish the work in you.

Closing Thought:

Forgiveness is at the core of God’s master plan, not just for others, but for your own healing and freedom. When we let God’s grace flow through us—by forgiving as He forgave—we become unburdened, spiritually healthy, and ready to fulfill His greater purposes. Don’t wait for a

In this episode, Allen and Torri discuss why forgiveness and restoration are essential not only to Christian faith but to personal freedom, healing, and healthy relationships. They use their own stories, biblical examples, and practical acronyms to break down the process of forgiveness, especially when it is difficult or feels impossible.

Key Takeaways:

- Forgiveness is both a command from God and a choice we have to make, even when our feelings tell us otherwise. Withholding forgiveness keeps us burdened; it’s as much about our own freedom as it is about others.

- The FAITH acronym is used as a roadmap:
    F: Feelings. Acknowledge your emotions honestly. Don’t fake it or suppress them—work through them with openness.
    A: Acknowledgment. Recognize the reality of the hurt, your own imperfections, and the humanity of those who have wronged you.
    I: Insight. Seek understanding about the root causes—where your pain, anger, or reactions truly come from, and recognize patterns.
    T: Trust. Rely on God’s strength and guidance, not just your willpower. Trust that He can change your heart and help you forgive.
    H: Healing. Embrace the healing and freedom that come with forgiveness. Let go of bitterness, release burdens, and make room for restoration—of self and, sometimes, relationships.

- Forgiveness doesn’t always mean restoration of the relationship in its original form. Sometimes, it just opens the door to peace or possible reconciliation (as in the example of Joseph forgiving his brothers, or David forgiving Saul’s family), even if the relationship’s boundaries change.

- Ignoring or excusing wounds isn’t the same as forgiving. True forgiveness involves facing our hurt, being real about the pain, and allowing God to address it—even if that takes time and vulnerability.

- Bitterness is not just plotting revenge; it’s letting pain and resentment take up residence in your life. True forgiveness involves moving out of that cycle and choosing to see people—and yourself—through the lens of God’s grace.

- The Bible calls us to forgive “from the heart,” not just with words (Matthew 18). This is not humanly easy—and sometimes feels impossible—but God doesn’t call us to do it in our own strength. We need his Spirit.

- Prayer, open conversations, and self-examination are important for genuine forgiveness. Sometimes, the hardest step is to admit you need help and to ask God to give you what you lack.

- Allen and Torri share personal stories and examples showing that forgiveness and restoration can happen, even in situations that seem broken beyond repair. Self-forgiveness may be the first step necessary before you’re able to forgive others.

- Culture may reward holding grudges or seeking revenge, but the standard for believers is Christ—who not only forgave but also pursued restoration and peace.

Practical Steps:

- Be honest with God about your feelings and pain.
- Reflect on root issues in your heart, not just surface behavior.
- Pray and invite God to heal, direct, and give you strength to forgive and move forward.
- Accept that forgiveness is a process and may require multiple conversations.
- Don’t rush or place your healing on a strict timeline—give God space to work.
- Let God set the standard for relationships, responses, and reconciliation—not culture or your own emotions.

Closing Thought:

Forgiveness and restoration are not about pretending hurt didn’t happen or excusing bad behavior. They are about choosing to release resentment, trust God’s justice and healing, and make space for real peace and growth. We all need God’s help for this—none of us can do it alone. True restoration begins when we are honest with ourselves and God, extend the same grace He’s shown us, and allow Him to work in our hearts and lives.

In this episode, Allen and Torri explore why forgiveness is at the heart of our spiritual journey, not only as a biblical command but as a practice that brings freedom and growth—both in our relationships and within ourselves.

Key Takeaways:

- Forgiveness Is a Command:  
  Forgiving others—and ourselves—isn’t optional for believers. The Bible teaches (Matthew 6:14-15) that we are required to forgive, and withholding it blocks our own spiritual well-being and growth.

- The F.R.E.S.H. Approach:  
  Allen and Torri break forgiveness into five steps using FRESH:
    - F: Forgive—Obey God’s call to forgive, even when it’s difficult.
    - R: Reflect—Examine your heart for mistakes or bitterness, but do so for growth, not shame.
    - E: Embrace Grace—Accept God’s grace for yourself and be willing to offer that same grace to others.
    - S: Self-Control—Let go of resentment and refuse to retaliate.
    - H: Heavenly Perspective—Keep God’s bigger eternal picture in view, not just your temporary hurt.

- Forgive Others and Yourself:  
  True forgiveness is about more than letting others off the hook—it’s about extending grace to ourselves as well. Holding onto guilt or self-condemnation can be as damaging as refusing to forgive others. Like the Apostle Paul, who was radically transformed by Christ’s grace, we are all invited to become new by letting go of our past and embracing God’s mercy.

- Being an Example:  
  Our attitudes and actions are always influencing others. Showing forgiveness—even in hard situations—demonstrates Christ’s love to those around us, sometimes more loudly than words ever could.

- Restoring Broken Relationships:  
  Forgiveness can repair and strengthen relationships. Jesus restored Peter after his betrayal—teaching us that reconciliation and new beginnings are possible, even after deep wounds.

- Breaking Hurtful Cycles:  
  Unforgiveness can keep us stuck in cycles of pain and retaliation. By choosing forgiveness, we break these destructive patterns and invite peace into our lives and communities.

- Don’t “Fake It Till You Make It”:  
  The episode warns that forced or phony forgiveness isn’t biblical or healthy. True forgiveness, from the heart, is only possible through the help of God’s Spirit.

- Scriptural Foundation:  
  The conversation is grounded in scripture—Matthew 6, Colossians 3, and Romans 12—pointing out that forgiveness reflects God’s own heart and character.

- Freedom and Growth:  
  Allen and Torri compare unforgiveness to living in “limp mode”—moving through life wounded and weighed down. Real forgiveness lifts that burden, allowing us to become healthier, more whole, and better equipped to support others.

- Practical Steps:  
    - Reflect: Ask God to show you any lingering unforgiveness in your heart.
    - Pray: Invite God’s healing and let His word take root in your life.
    - Act: Decide to release bitterness, embrace God’s grace, and make room for growth and peace.

Closing Thought:  
Forgiveness is not about dismissing pain or pretending injustice didn’t happen. It’s about allowing God to heal us, transform our relationships, and lead us into true freedom. Forgiveness is foundational for anyone longing for spiritual health, deeper connection, and lasting peace—with God, others, and themselves.

In this episode, we explore the theme of forgiveness as a crucial aspect of spiritual growth and self-control. Focusing on the biblical foundation for forgiving others and discussing how releasing bitterness can lead to personal healing and freedom. Sharing steps such as acknowledging emotions, understanding others' perspectives, and practicing compassion, we aim to guide listeners on their forgiveness journey.