When something is brand new does that make it better than something that is old?  At first thought we might think yes, but the older we get the more often we see that just because something is new does not mean it is better.  In today's show we get to learn more about this idea through one of the most notable parenting experts of our times.  During this show John Rosemond joins us to share his experiences, knowledge, and wisdom that he has gained through his years as a psychologist in the  area of parenting.

John began teaching parents in the 1970's and 80's.  When he first began he was doing what all the other psychologist were doing.  But he began to question what he was actually saying to parents.  In fact, he began studying and observing what he and his colleagues were saying and realizing that they truly were not helping parents and children like they thought they were.   This made him look back at his own experience of being parented and that of his peers.  He noticed that the methods, philosophies, and approaches to what they were instructing parents to do was vastly different than what he grew up with.  

John humbled himself and realized that maybe his grandma did know best.  He began to teach to the ways he knew had a proven track record for many past generations of parents and children.  He began to call on the authority of the parent and bring it back into the house.  Even though the word "authority" as a parent was becoming a bad word in the psychology world.  The more John did this the more he was seeing positive outcomes from his work compared to the negative outcomes from his colleagues. 

His colleagues were promoting a progressive postmodern approach to parenting that placed the child on equal authority ground as the parent.  The child knows what is best for themselves and we should allow them to live in such a way.  They promoted the ideas of relativism for truth and what is right or wrong.  They threw out anything that sounded old-fashioned or especially of the bible.  

As we now clearly see, the experiment has blown up in our faces.  Today's parents are afraid of their own children.  They are afraid they will hurt them, offend them, or possibly even oppress them. They question their parenting decisions to the point that they simply ask the child what would be best for them.  The selfish child inside everyone of us never has any reason to develop and mature, because it is being enabled to stay a child.  

We use terms like "entitled", "lazy", "narcissist",  and "immature" to describe many of the younger generations.  It is time for us to realize that we created and enabled this cancer in our culture.  The good news is this, we have the cure for this cancer.  The bad news is this, it is going to take a great deal of work on our parts as parents to right our wrongs.  

John was so gracious in his words and encouragement to us in our work.  We hope you take his wisdom and begin to apply it to your own family.  Your kids will win, but even better, so will everyone else. 

John Rosemond - https://www.rosemond.com

Rock Solid Families - https://www.rocksolidfamilies.org

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