Core Topic: Validation for moms who feel like they’re “failing,” while giving a new lens on reactivity, shame spirals, and how to parent from connection instead of fear.
If you’ve ever thought…
“What if this is all my fault?”
“What if my teen never figures it out?”
“Am I the only one doing it wrong?”
You’re not crazy. Parenting teens really is a whole new level.
In this episode of Root to Ring: A Resilient Parenting Podcast, we’re pulling apart why trying harder isn’t working, why swinging between gentle parenting and FAFO extremes leaves you stuck, and what it looks like to parent from a place of rooted leadership instead of reactivity.
We’ll talk about:
• Why criticism of your teen feels so personal
• What’s really fueling “mama bear” mode
• Why gentle vs. authoritarian isn’t the only choice
• How to reflect on your own teen years to better understand your patterns now
• The role of consistency and structure in raising teens with respect and connection
Key Belief Shifts:
• Your reactivity isn’t proof you’re failing. It’s proof you care.
• Parenting differently doesn’t mean parenting perfectly.
• Calm isn’t passive, it’s leadership.• Discomfort isn’t danger, it’s growth.
Practical Reflection Prompts:
• What was hard for me as a teen? How did my parents respond?
• Have I swung too far in the opposite direction from how I was raised?
• What’s one small area where I can shift from reacting → reflecting → rooted leadership?
Quotes to Remember:
“Parenting differently doesn’t mean parenting perfectly.”
“Calm isn’t passive. It’s strong leadership.”
“Discomfort isn’t proof you’re failing. It’s a sign of growth.”
Resources + Links:
• Learn more about coaching: www.rootedinresiliencecollective.com
• Follow on Instagram: @parentingwithabi + @rootedinresiliencecollective
• Free Guide: Boundaries That Stick — available at the link in my bio
Next Steps:
If this episode hit home, DM me the word RESET on Instagram and I’ll send you something encouraging. And if you’re ready to parent with more calm and clarity, apply for 1:1 coaching today.