Considering that habits are formed when there are no consequences to bad behaviour during the formation stage, or when actions are rewarded or excused, those who have enabled it over the years bear just as much blame. Which explains why you’re so shocked when you finally meet someone like me who will not lower standards for you and hold you accountable. It’s really not your fault, I blame those who you met before me who didn’t stop you. Now I’m the toxic one.

This episode explores vulture friendships who stay in your orbit only waiting for the day you will be desperate enough for them to swoop in and take advantage to benefit themselves. They won’t help you if it will make you better but target your most vulnerable state so they can ask to use that same money to buy your phone for cheap.

My reflection on the things we have now normalised that would have gotten people ostracised just a few decades ago. And the courage it takes to be a critic in the world that mandates conformity so badly even when it makes no sense.

My take on people who deliberately thirst trap but then act shocked and offended when it attracts lurid comments from complete strangers. Miss me with that BS this year.

My reflections on how the passage of time makes old problems feel trivial and why we should get perspective now. In ten years, will these same things keeping you awake, actually matter? Or are you worrying away precious time?

This podcast examines the question of full disclosure in relationships and when they should be made. When does your long term boyfriend or girlfriend deserve to know your Health status or key life information (like out of wedlock children)?

This is me just thinking out loud about the role of commonality and relevancy in regular friendships. If the circumstances that brought you together suddenly change, you will find that you drift apart naturally. But real friendships are the ones not affected by circumstance. That’s the real difference.

Times like these it does not feel like a coincidence. My life is full of these moments when I actually give up on certain things and then everything starts to shift in inexplicable ways. Meeting even the needs I never thought I had. Is that God’s reassurance?

A reflection on how we give ourselves life deadlines as if we can control anything.

My experience with people “complimenting” me by saying I don’t sound Nigerian. The shock whenever I tell them I didn’t grow up in the UK or the US because I don’t fit their stereotype of what a black African from Africa should sound like. I blame the movies.