Run Against Violence

Amanda Tattersall has built a career helping ordinary Australians team up and win, as co-founder of GetUp, founder of the Sydney Alliance, host of the ChangeMakers podcast, and author of the new book Conscious Tribes. She has never worked in domestic and family violence. That's exactly why she closes this season.

After five episodes with researchers, advocates and community builders, one message kept surfacing: prevention lives or dies with ordinary people. So for the finale, Kirrily sits down with the person who knows how ordinary people get organised, and turns everything this season has called for into something you can actually do.

She starts by taking apart the biggest myth in social change: that it takes someone extraordinary. Movements, she argues, don't start with strangers. They start with the people already around you, at work, at school, on your street. And she lands on the idea the whole season has been walking toward: connection comes first, and when more of us take part, everything else follows.

It's the final episode of the season, and it ends where we began: with an answer to the question episode one opened with. If we know so much about domestic and family violence, why haven't we ended it?

If anything in this episode feels close to home, 1800RESPECT is there any time, day or night, 1800 737 732.

Amanda Tattersall offers an extensive range of resources at amandatattersall.com and conscioustribes.net.

For more resources and information on our events and programs, head to ⁠runagainstviolence.com⁠.If this episode got you thinking, don't keep it to yourself, send it to one person in your community who needs to hear it. And if you've got 30 seconds, leave us a review on Apple or Spotify. Every share and every review helps this show reach another community.

This podcast was recorded on Gadigal and Wiradjuri land.

CREDITS

Host and producer: Kirrily Dear

Executive producer and supervising editor: Pariya Taherzadeh

Audio editor: Graham Hunter

The Run Against Violence podcast is independently funded by the Broken Hill to Sydney Team Chase. Every entry and every piece of merch powers the movement to eliminate family violence from our communities.

What happens when someone learns, for the first time in their life, that violence at home is a crime? Aurelia Rahman watches that moment happen in her work, and she describes it as the moment a person discovers they have rights.

Aurelia is Head of Community Engagement and Relations at the Community Migrant Resource Centre, which has spent thirty years helping newly arrived migrants and refugees across western Sydney find their feet in a country where everything is unfamiliar: the language, the systems, even the idea that police are there to help.

She takes Kirrily inside the first year of a newly arrived family's life and the pressure it puts on a home, then reveals how prevention actually reaches these families. She shares how her teams rebuild trust in police, why the hardest people to reach are the men, and her belief that Australia could become the first country in the world to build communities free of family violence.

If anything in this episode feels close to home, 1800RESPECT is there any time, day or night, 1800 737 732.

For more resources and information on our events and programs, head to runagainstviolence.com.

If this episode got you thinking, don't keep it to yourself, send it to one person in your community who needs to hear it. And if you've got 30 seconds, leave us a review on Apple or Spotify. Every share and every review helps this show reach another community.

This podcast was recorded on Gadigal and Wiradjuri land.

CREDITS

Host and producer: Kirrily Dear

Executive producer and supervising editor: Pariya Taherzadeh

Audio editor: Graham Hunter

The Run Against Violence podcast is independently funded by the Broken Hill to Sydney Team Chase. Every entry and every piece of merch powers the movement to eliminate family violence from our communities.

Australia's answer to domestic and family violence has mostly been rescue, pulling people out after the damage is done. Vital work, but it doesn't stop the water rising. This episode is about working upstream.

Lou Hayes is the founder of CQ Healthy Families, a volunteer-run charity in Central Queensland doing the quiet work of holding a community's safety net together: a fuel voucher when a family is getting out, emergency accommodation, a security door fixed, and respectful relationships education delivered into ten high schools a year, coordinated entirely by volunteers in their spare time, with no funding behind it.

Australia doesn't lack answers, the research, the plans and the royal commission recommendations already exist. What's missing, Lou argues, is a community that owns the problem together. She and Kirrily talk about what that looks like: family violence treated as everyone's business, the hard questions finally directed at the people using violence, and why Lou believes we can end something earlier generations wouldn't even name.

If anything in this episode feels close to home, 1800RESPECT is there any time, day or night, 1800 737 732.

For more resources and information on our events and programs, head to runagainstviolence.com.

This podcast was recorded on Gadigal and Wiradjuri land.

CREDITS

Host and Producer: Kirrily Dear

Executive Producer and Supervising Editor: Pariya Taherzadeh

Audio Editor: Graham Hunter

The Run Against Violence podcast is independently funded by the Broken Hill to Sydney Team Chase. Every entry and every piece of merch powers the movement to eliminate family violence from our communities.

Why does a country that overwhelmingly condemns family violence keep producing it? The answer reaches well beyond individual choices, into our courts, our phones, and how far we've drifted from the people around us.

Kirrily is joined by Nick Tebbey, National Executive Officer of Relationships Australia, an organisation that has been walking alongside Australians through the ups and downs of their relationships for more than 75 years. Together they trace where the conditions for violence actually come from: a fifty-year-old family law system that can be turned into a weapon by the very people it's meant to restrain, online worlds quietly reshaping what young men believe about respect, national data showing Australians lonelier and under more pressure than ever, and the vulnerabilities that alcohol, gambling and what we consume online pour fuel on.

But this conversation lands somewhere unexpectedly hopeful: the evidence that knowing your neighbours is genuine protection against violence, why people who use violence can change, and what actually motivates them to. Plus a vision for Australia's future you won't hear anywhere else, involving a marinade.

If anything in this episode feels close to home, 1800RESPECT is there any time, day or night, 1800 737 732.

For more resources and information on our events and programs, head to runagainstviolence.com.

This podcast was recorded on Gadigal and Wiradjuri land.

CREDITS

Host and Producer: Kirrily Dear

Executive Producer and Supervising Editor: Pariya Taherzadeh

Audio Editor: Graham Hunter

The Run Against Violence podcast is independently funded by the Broken Hill to Sydney Team Chase. Every entry and every piece of merch powers the movement to eliminate family violence from our communities.

When almost everything designed to help children affected by domestic and family violence is built by adults, for adults, what does support look like through a child's eyes?

Ruby Allen knows, because she lived it. At 19, she's the founder of Kids of Purple, a youth-led initiative she started as a Year 10 school assignment, a place where kids affected by family violence can see their experience recognised in their own language and find help that actually makes sense to them. She's the Gold Coast Young Australian of the Year, a law student, and she's already shaping how organisations like Brisbane Catholic Education, the Queensland Department of Housing and the Queensland Victims Commissioner think about what children need.

In this episode, Ruby and Kirrily get into why "call a helpline" doesn't work for many kids, the shame children carry and what it does to their sense of who they are, how to have a clear, honest conversation with the young people in your life about what's okay and what isn't, and why young people need to be co-designing the solutions built for them.

If anything in this episode feels close to home, 1800RESPECT is there any time, day or night, 1800 737 732.

For more resources and information on our events and programs, head to runagainstviolence.com.

If this episode got you thinking, don't keep it to yourself, send it to one person in your community who needs to hear it. And if you've got 30 seconds, leave us a review on Apple or Spotify. Every share and every review helps this show reach another community.

This podcast was recorded on Gadigal and Wiradjuri land.

CREDITS: 

Host & Producer: Kirrily Dear

Executive Producer & Supervising Editor: Pariya Taherzadeh

Audio Editor: Graham Hunter

The Run Against Violence podcast is independently funded by the Broken Hill to Sydney Team Chase. Every entry and every piece of merch powers the movement to eliminate family violence from our communities.

How many Australian kids are growing up around domestic and family violence? The honest answer is bigger than most of us want to believe, and until we can look at it clearly, we can't change it.

To open the season, Kirrily sits down with Professor Tim Moore, Deputy Director of the Australian Catholic University's Institute of Child Protection Studies and one of the researchers behind the Australian Child Maltreatment Study, the first research of its kind to capture how many Australians experienced abuse or family violence growing up. 

But this conversation is about more than numbers. Professor Moore and Kirrily get into why children so often feel invisible to the adults around them, what it takes to be the adult who actually sees them, why young people want to be part of building the solution, and the small, everyday actions any of us can take to become that person in our own community.

If anything in this episode feels close to home, 1800RESPECT is there any time, day or night, 1800 737 732.

For more resources and information on our events and programs, head to runagainstviolence.com.

If this episode got you thinking, don't keep it to yourself, send it to one person in your community who needs to hear it. And if you've got 30 seconds, leave us a review on Apple or Spotify. Every share and every review helps this show reach another community.

This podcast was recorded on Gadigal and Wiradjuri land.

CREDITS: 

Host & Producer: Kirrily Dear

Executive Producer & Supervising Editor: Pariya Taherzadeh

Audio Editor: Graham Hunter

The Run Against Violence podcast is independently funded by the Broken Hill to Sydney Team Chase. Every entry and every piece of merch powers the movement to eliminate family violence from our communities.

Domestic and family violence affects every community in Australia. We know the scale of the problem. We know more about what drives it. And we know prevention is possible.

So why haven't we solved it?

In Season 4 of the Run Against Violence podcast, founder Kirrily Dear goes beyond the headlines to explore what preventing domestic and family violence actually looks like in practice.

Across the season, Kirrily talks with researchers, community leaders and people doing the work on the ground. We'll explore the scale of the problem with researcher Professor Tim Moore, examine the cultural drivers that allow violence to take root, and hear from people like Lou Hayes who are showing what community-led prevention can look like in regional towns, migrant communities and communities right across Australia.

Because real change doesn't happen through awareness alone. It happens when communities decide what they will and won't accept, and then start doing something about it.

Each episode asks three simple questions:

What is the problem?
What does the solution look like?
And what part can I play?

Imagine if one day we could look back on domestic and family violence the way we now look back on smoking in classrooms, on planes and on buses.

Imagine being able to say:

We don't accept domestic and family violence here anymore.

That's the kind of change we're working towards.

Season 4 starts Tuesday, 25 August.

Follow the Run Against Violence podcast wherever you listen to podcasts, or visit runagainstviolence.com to find out more.

One person can start a revolution. What part will you play?

CREDITS: 

Host & Producer: Kirrily Dear

Executive Producer & Editor: Pariya Taherzadeh

Patty Kikos interviews Brenton Pobjie, whose life has been shaped by service and resilience. His grandmother found refuge with the Salvation Army when fleeing domestic violence with her 6 children, and his father became a minister, instilling in Brenton the importance of helping others. After his mother tragically passed in a car accident, Brenton dedicated himself to youth work, including time spent in rehabilitation schools. As a Child Protection case worker, Brenton emphasises the power of deep listening and the need to show respect when in someone’s home. He shares practical tools to help children express when they feel unsafe, offering valuable insights for anyone caring for vulnerable young people.

Tarsha Jones is a proud Gomeroi woman who only learned of her Aboriginal heritage when she was a teenager. She opens up to Patty Kikos about how family violence impacted her life when her brother was hit by a drunk driver that caused him to have frontal lobe damage, and was ultimately drug addicted for 25 years. When Tarsha left her emotionally abusive husband who was an alcoholic, she never expected that her life would turn upside down. But that it would then become the right way up after she completed a TAFE course, changed careers, and after much deep listening and unexpected soul searching fro both her and her husband, found their way back to each other - in a much healthier way. 

The fabulous Dr Hayley Boxall shines a light on family and partner violence by teaching us about "desistance", and practical ways that we can encourage people to stop choosing to use violence. In this refreshingly down to earth interview with Patty Kikos, Hayley talks about the importance of 'respect' for different cultures, valid reasons people choose to remain in relationships, how violence is not limited to lower socio economic environments and why pressuring someone to 'just leave', won't necessarily solve their problems.