Kuldrin’s Krypt
S01E10-Red Flags, Fake Doms, & Predators Part 2
February 13th, 2017
Intro
This is Kuldrin’s Krypt season 1 episode 10 for February 13th, 2017.
(start theme pre-roll) Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I'm your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show this is a place to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.com. On this episode of Kuldrin’s Krypt we are going to continue unearthing the truth in part 2 of the 3 part series on red flags, fake doms & predators.
Rules to Love by:
Safe, sane, consensual, informed
KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerence, Kindness, Integrity
“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
Last week we discussed Red Flags and Fake Doms so if you missed that you will need to go back and listen to Part one and come back to this episode. As usual, this is partly taken from an article and partly my own experience. You can find the link to the submissiveguide.com article in the show notes at http://kuldrinskrypt.com/110 So without further adue on to the main topic.
Information Please!
If you’re a new submissive this lifestyle may seem overwhelming at first. A submissive I know terms it ‘the new submissive smell’. Dom/mes cense ‘new blood’, and swarm like piranhas to interact with, play with or train the new submissive in the group. Dom/mes may contact you online or meet you at a munch. They are covered with impressive or threatening names: Sir Snod of Grass or Master Whackyourass. With no experience, how can you tell if they are someone you can trust? The answer is information!
Questions and Answers
First of all, ask lots and lots of questions. A Dom/me should not feel threatened by a sub’s questions, especially when establishing a new relationship. This is his or her chance to encourage open communication and feedback. Being told that questions aren’t welcome, or having your questions ignored or avoided should make you think twice about continue to chat with or meet this Dom/me. A good Dom/me will encourage learning, and the first and most important thing you need to learn about is your Dom/me! S/he is going to teach you, guide you, and maybe torture you. Would you allow a stranger to do that?
What are questions that you can ask the Dom/me? The following questions were provided by the author’s Master as ones He would like a sub to ask Him.
What does SSC stand for? This is the cornerstone of BDSM, and S/he should be able to answer this (even if S/he professes to follow RACK (Risk-aware consensual kink) instead, he should still be able to answer this, and give you a discussion of the differences in theories).
What is their training style? How do they intend to adjust it to your personality?
What is the job/purpose of the sub?
What is the job/purpose of the Dom?
If they were to use an implement on you, how would they gauge how hard they are hitting you?
How do they tell if you’ve had enough or reached your limit (physically or mentally)?
Do they use safe words?
If you are going to be intimate, would they be willing to be tested for STD’s and STI’s and provide you with the paperwork?
What is aftercare?
How do they intend to handle sub drop if it happens several days later?
What are some munches and parties they have attended? Are they willing to give you the names and contact information of the organizers?
Now, as a newbie, you may not be able to evaluate these answers fully. However, you can judge whether your Dom/me is willing to answer the questions, and even better – if they enthusiastically discuss the questions and answers with you! Some of these questions can lead to long wonderful discussion...