Dom Sub Devotion

By Andrew & Dawn - Infinite Devotion

Deep, authentic discussions and conversations about love, polarity, and Dom/sub dynamics inside of loving healthy relationships.

Hosted by Andrew & Dawn - A 24/7 D/s married couple, passionate a... more

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How many episodes does Dom Sub Devotion have?

The podcast currently has 131 episodes available.

Dom Sub Devotion episodes:

April 27, 2026When the Dominant Isn't Actually the Dominant - Dom Sub Devotion #130
How do you actually know who's in charge in a D/s dynamic? Not who's wearing the collar, not who's claimed the title, not even who's doing what to whom. The one who's deciding is the one who's dominant, and those two things are often not the same person.
This episode was recorded live on Instagram, and the conversation that unfolded covers one of the most common and quietly damaging patterns in power exchange relationships: the submissive who sincerely wants to let go, but whose fear is actually the dominant force running the dynamic.
Andrew breaks down why dominance lives in the decision, not the act or the position, what the subtle mechanics of unconscious control actually look like, what real surrender requires of a submissive, and what it takes for a dominant to hold his frame through years of resistance before the shift finally happens.
In this episode:
Why the action, position, or appearance tells you nothing about who's actually in charge
The restaurant example and what it reveals about whether you're deciding or managing
The subtle ways a submissive can still be running the show while wearing a collar
What real submission requires beyond compliance
Why pushing harder into her resistance always makes it worse
The inverted polarity downward spiral and how it develops
The "gradually, then suddenly" shift and what the long middle actually looks like
Free Resources Free guides, tools & giveaways
Listen & Watch Apple Podcasts | Spotify | YouTube
Work With Us All courses and offerings | Becoming a Dominant Man | Rapture | Structuring Your D/s Dynamic | Submissive Foundations
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1h 3min
April 20, 2026The Truth About Monogamy, Non-Monogamy, and Devotion - Dom Sub Devotion #129
Is monogamy outdated? Should we all just embrace polyamory or ethical non-monogamy? Everyone seems to have a position on this right now, and everyone has their heels dug in hard. But here's what almost nobody is willing to say: most people's position on monogamy or non-monogamy isn't a philosophy. It's a defense mechanism.

In this episode, Andrew gets into the real conversation underneath all of the debate about relationship structures. We aren't naturally monogamous creatures, but that doesn't mean bouncing between casual connections gets us home either. Both sides of this debate are usually avoiding the same thing: the depth that only conscious devotion makes possible.

Andrew breaks down how monogamy gets used as a control mechanism, how non-monogamy and polyamory get used as an avoidance mechanism, and why both are just different ways of staying safe from something that needs to be felt. He also takes on the myth of the "high value man" and what actually makes a man worth choosing. And then he makes the case for devotion as a crucible: not monogamy by default, not a defended position, but a conscious daily choice to go fully into one person and not let yourself off the hook.

This one will make you uncomfortable. That's the point.

In this episode:
Why humans aren't naturally monogamous creatures, and why that doesn't mean what most people think it means
The way both monogamy and non-monogamy get used to manage fear rather than face it
The myth of the high value man, what it's really about, and what actually makes a man worth committing to
The difference between default monogamy and conscious devotion, and why they look the same from the outside but couldn't be more different inside
Devotion as a crucible: why you need the pressure, and why diffusing it keeps you shallow
What actually becomes possible on the other side of doing this work
Why Andrew and Dawn didn't choose this path so much as it chose them

Free Resources Free guides, tools & giveaways
Listen & Watch Apple Podcasts | Spotify | YouTube
Work With Us All courses and offerings | Becoming a Dominant Man | Rapture | Structuring Your D/s Dynamic | Submissive Foundations
Connect Instagram | Blog
...more
59min
April 13, 2026 How To Introduce D/s Dynamics To Your Partner - Dom Sub Devotion #128
Bringing up dominance and submission to a partner who doesn't know it's coming is one of the most common questions we get. This episode walks through exactly how to approach it — whether you're the one wanting to lead or the one wanting to follow.

Free Resources
Get all of our free resources at: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

Resources & Next Steps

If you’re ready to go deeper, explore our courses and offerings:
• Rapture — a journey into devotional D/s and erotic embodiment. https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture
• Becoming a Dominant Man — Andrew’s path for men ready to lead with clarity and integrity. https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man
• Structuring Your D/s Dynamic — build a relationship structure that actually works for you. https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic
• OnlyFans. Take a look inside our bedroom. https://dawnofdesire.net
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1h 2min
April 06, 2026You Can't Submit and Stay in Charge at the Same Time - Dom Sub Devotion #127
Episode 127: You Can't Submit and Stay in Charge at the Same Time

Download the free guided meditation mentioned in this episode: https://www.infinitedevotion.com/offers/aZEToAu5

Links Mentioned in This Episode:
Lovense toys (affiliate): https://www.lovense.com/r/c5fglq
Submissive Foundations: https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations
One of the most common questions Andrew hears from women: how do I feel submissive when my life requires me to be in control?

This episode is the honest answer. Submission and control are opposites. You cannot grip everything tightly and also experience the freedom that comes with letting go. The more useful question is why you need to be in control of everything in the first place, and whether you actually have the capacity to trust and surrender.

A good man will not force you to step back. If you won't let go when someone is willing to lead, he will eventually stop trying. Your submission is yours to offer, and that means you are an active participant in making it possible.

Download the free guided meditation mentioned in this episode: https://www.infinitedevotion.com/offers/aZEToAu5

Links Mentioned in This Episode:
Lovense toys (affiliate): https://www.lovense.com/r/c5fglq
Submissive Foundations: https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations

Other Links and resources:
Listen to the Dom Sub Devotion podcast: Apple | Spotify | YouTube
Explore our courses and offerings: infinitedevotion.com/store
Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/_infinitedevotion
Get all of our free resources here: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources
...more
40min
March 30, 20269 Lessons from D/s Dynamics That Failed
Get all of Andrew's free guides, training, and resources at: infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

Most episodes of Dom Sub Devotion lean into what's possible. This one goes somewhere different.

After years of coaching and deep observation, Andrew has watched D/s dynamics fail in ways that were painful, patterns, and in many cases, preventable. In this episode, he shares nine of the most important lessons he's learned from dynamics and relationships that didn't make it, including some that Dawn and he have had to work through personally.

This isn't here to scare you. It's here to help you see clearly, because if you can recognize a pattern before it does more damage, you can choose differently.

In this episode:
Why fear is the root underneath every other thing on this list, and the many forms it takes inside a dynamic
Why a D/s dynamic that only exists in certain conditions was never really a dynamic at all
What happens when you try to cast your partner in a role you've already written in your imagination
The push/pull feedback loop that quietly destroys more dynamics than almost anything else
Why adding D/s to a broken foundation doesn't fix it, it exposes it
Why entering a D/s dynamic ends mutual self-abandonment, and why you can't go back once that starts
What it does to a submissive when a Dominant withdraws leadership after she's genuinely started to surrender
Why the couples that fail are almost always the ones where one person is growing and the other is defending the need to stay the same
Why devotion isn't a feeling, it's a structural requirement, and why without it none of the rest of this works

If you're the person in your relationship who is honestly trying, this episode is for you.

Links and resources:
Listen to the Dom Sub Devotion podcast: Apple | Spotify | YouTube
Explore our courses and offerings: infinitedevotion.com/store
Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/_infinitedevotion

Resources & Links
All courses and offerings: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
Becoming a Dominant Man: https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man
Structuring Your D/s Dynamic: https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic
Follow on Instagram: https://instagram.com/_infinitedevotion
...more
54min
March 23, 2026What It's Really Like Inside a 24/7 Dom/Sub Marriage - Q&A with a Dom
Episode 125: What It's Really Like Inside a 24/7 Dom/Sub Marriage - Q&A with a Dom

Seven years inside a 24/7 Dom/sub dynamic. Fifteen years of marriage. And for the first time, Andrew opens up about the actual texture of his and Dawn's life together, not the teaching, not the framework, just the reality.

This is a listener Q&A episode unlike the ones that came before it. No advice-giving. No problem-solving. Just a look inside the life.

The podcast shows you what these dynamics can look like. If you're ready to learn how to actually build one, that's what our courses and coaching are for. You can find everything we offer at https://infinitedevotion.com/store.

In this episode:
What Andrew's dream playroom looks like (and why the feel matters more than the furniture)
How he regulates his own nervous system when things get hard, and the Rumi poem that changed his approach
How the OnlyFans conversation actually started, and what exhibitionism and voyeurism look like from his side of the dynamic
Why he genuinely doesn't care what people assume about a man whose wife does porn
How he maintains Dominance when Dawn is going through something hard and can't show up the way she normally would
How they navigate edges together without forcing or running away
The integration principle applied to real life: why they never feel like they're "out of the dynamic"
Why your physical environment is a reflection of your internal one, and what that means for men who want to lead
Why their sex life got dramatically better when they stopped trying to have sex at bedtime

Reflect on this: Dominance has to be an inside job. If feeling Dominant requires her to be submissive in a certain way, you're not leading. You're responding.

Resources & Links
All courses and offerings: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
Becoming a Dominant Man: https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man
Structuring Your D/s Dynamic: https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic
Follow on Instagram: https://instagram.com/_infinitedevotion

Resources:
Get all of Andrew's free guides, training, and resources at: infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

Ready to go deeper?
Explore our blog, courses, and coaching at https://InfiniteDevotion.com
Follow us on Instagram: https://instagram.com/_InfiniteDevotion
Subscribe to our OnlyFans for exclusive content: https://dawnofdesire.net
...more
53min
March 16, 2026Kink or Codependency: What's Really Driving Your D/s Dynamic?
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Most people enter Dominant submissive dynamics carrying codependent patterns they don't even know they have. And the hard truth is that D/s doesn't dissolve those patterns. It amplifies them, because the structure of power exchange gives those patterns a very convincing disguise.

In this episode, Andrew breaks down what codependency actually is, why it looks so much like Dominance and submission on the surface, and how to tell the difference between a dynamic driven by genuine power exchange and one driven by fear, control, and the need to fill an internal void.

In this episode:
Why D/s dynamics are fertile ground for codependent patterns to take root and grow
The core definition of codependency and how it shows up differently for Dominants and submissives
Real client examples of codependency disguised as D/s conflict
How Dominants can bottom from the top without realizing it
Why a submissive who can't let go of control may not be the problem her Dominant thinks she is
The critical difference between a dynamic built on wholeness vs. one built on emptiness
Why you cannot give power you don't have, and cannot lead from an empty place
What differentiation is and why it's the foundation of real power exchange
The internal work that actually moves the needle: EMDR, somatic experiencing, IFS, hypnotherapy, and more

Resources:
Get all of Andrew's free guides, training, and resources at: infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

Ready to go deeper?
Explore our blog, courses, and coaching at https://InfiniteDevotion.com
Follow us on Instagram: https://instagram.com/_InfiniteDevotion
Subscribe to our OnlyFans for exclusive content: https://dawnofdesire.net

Resources & Next Steps

If you’re ready to go deeper, explore our courses and offerings:
• Rapture — a journey into devotional D/s and erotic embodiment. https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture
• Becoming a Dominant Man — Andrew’s path for men ready to lead with clarity and integrity. https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man
• Structuring Your D/s Dynamic — build a relationship structure that actually works for you. https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic
• OnlyFans. Take a look inside our bedroom. https://dawnofdesire.net
...more
49min
March 09, 2026The Accidental Warrior: Martial Arts, Breath Work, and the Making of a Man
In this first ever listener interview on Dom Sub Devotion, Andrew sits down with Robert, a longtime follower and friend who has spent decades building genuine masculine strength across martial arts, competitive racing, and breath work. And still found himself completely disarmed the moment a woman got emotional.
Nearly 40 years of martial arts training under the same Korean master, and what it actually builds in a man
Why physical competency short-circuits the lizard brain stress response even in situations that have nothing to do with fighting
The breathing technique Robert's instructor taught him decades before science could explain why it works
Competitive car and motorcycle racing as an outlet for the kind of focused aggression modern men almost never get to express
The difference between splattered power and functional power, and what it means for men who don't yet have access to their dangerous side
Why building a spine is only half the equation
Andrew's take on why the drive to be respected often points back to a little boy still waiting for a parent's approval

Resources mentioned:
Breath by James Nestor: https://www.amazon.com/Breath-New-Science-Lost-Art/dp/0735213615
Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink: https://www.amazon.com/Extreme-Ownership-U-S-Navy-SEALs/dp/1250183863
Episode 116: Are You Strong Enough to Be a Dom? https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLtLLtls2DZ1sySIsW6iTsTVV1blhnOTBn

Resources:
Get all of Andrew's free guides, training, and resources at: infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

Ready to go deeper?
Explore our blog, courses, and coaching at https://InfiniteDevotion.com
Follow us on Instagram: https://instagram.com/_InfiniteDevotion
Subscribe to our OnlyFans for exclusive content: https://dawnofdesire.net

Resources & Next Steps

If you’re ready to go deeper, explore our courses and offerings:
• Rapture — a journey into devotional D/s and erotic embodiment. https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture
• Becoming a Dominant Man — Andrew’s path for men ready to lead with clarity and integrity. https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man
• Structuring Your D/s Dynamic — build a relationship structure that actually works for you. https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic
• OnlyFans. Take a look inside our bedroom. https://dawnofdesire.net
...more
1h 5min
March 02, 2026Sovereign Desire: How Men Build Magnetic Power
Episode 122: Sovereign Desire: How Men Build Magnetic Power

Most men are terrified of desire because unfulfilled wanting feels like weakness. So they either suppress what they want or chase after everything they can get, becoming slaves to their appetite in the process.

This episode reveals why a Dominant man's power comes from his ability to hold desire without being controlled by it. Why wanting without needing is the foundation of masculine magnetism. And why the space between desire and fulfillment is where your strength actually lives.

You'll learn:
Why immediately acting on every desire makes you weak, not strong
The difference between wanting her and needing her (and why she can feel the difference)
How unfulfilled desire becomes a source of ongoing aliveness instead of depletion
Why discernment requires the ability to hold your wanting without moving
How sexual tension and polarity live in the space between wanting and having
The practice of feeling desire fully while maintaining sovereignty over it
Why a man who can't govern his own desires has no business leading anyone else

If you've been chasing validation, driven by neediness, or wondering why nothing you achieve feels like it matters, this episode will show you the path to true masculine power.

This is Part 2 of a two-part series. Part 1 last week explored this from the feminine perspective.

Resources:
Get all of Andrew's free guides, training, and resources at: infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

Ready to go deeper?
Explore our blog, courses, and coaching at https://InfiniteDevotion.com
Follow us on Instagram: https://instagram.com/_InfiniteDevotion
Subscribe to our OnlyFans for exclusive content: https://dawnofdesire.net

Resources & Next Steps

If you’re ready to go deeper, explore our courses and offerings:
• Rapture — a journey into devotional D/s and erotic embodiment. https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture
• Becoming a Dominant Man — Andrew’s path for men ready to lead with clarity and integrity. https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man
• Structuring Your D/s Dynamic — build a relationship structure that actually works for you. https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic
• OnlyFans. Take a look inside our bedroom. https://dawnofdesire.net
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...more
43min
February 23, 2026The Gasoline & The Match: Understanding Feminine Desire
Most women kill their own desire by trying to fulfill it too quickly. They move from wanting to getting, from emptiness to fullness, and wonder why they feel numb, exhausted, and burned out.

This episode explores why feminine desire is meant to be held, not fulfilled. Why wanting itself is the point. And how the space between desire and having is where your aliveness, magnetism, and capacity to receive actually lives.

You'll learn:
Why you can't want what you already have (and what this means for your relationship)
The difference between masculine "holding space" and feminine holding of potential
How moving toward what you want destroys your ability to be led
Why desire is subversive, transgressive, and your most accurate compass
The practice of receiving desire from yourself first
How unfulfilled wanting makes you magnetic at a universal level

If you've been filling yourself up, managing everything, and wondering why you feel dead inside, this episode will show you the way back to aliveness.
Part 2 drops next week: Why men need to separate desire from having for entirely different reasons.
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42min

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How many episodes does Dom Sub Devotion have?

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