Dom Sub Devotion

By Andrew & Dawn - Infinite Devotion

Deep, authentic discussions and conversations about love, polarity, and Dom/sub dynamics inside of loving healthy relationships.

Hosted by Andrew & Dawn - A 24/7 D/s married couple, passionate a... more

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How many episodes does Dom Sub Devotion have?

The podcast currently has 137 episodes available.

Dom Sub Devotion episodes:

June 15, 2026How the Lack of Masculine Presence Taught Her to Control Everything | Episode 136
Last week I talked about killing the nice guy. This week I'm speaking to the other side of the same wound.
When masculine presence is absent from a relationship, a woman fills the space the only way she knows how. She takes control. Of everything.
This episode is about why she does that, where it comes from, and what it actually takes to create the conditions where she can start to let go.
I'm drawing directly from Dawn's and my 17 years together, including the patterns that nearly killed our relationship and the slow, unglamorous work that turned it into something neither of us could have built alone.
In this episode:
Why the wounded masculine and wounded feminine mirror each other in polarity inversion
Why healing looks fundamentally different for men and women, and why that asymmetry matters
The concept of existential vulnerability, and why a woman's healed state requires a kind of courage that men rarely have to face
Why "a healed woman doesn't exist without a healed man" isn't codependency, it's physics
Dawn's story: the rigid religious upbringing, the self-abandonment that got rewarded as obedience, and the lie her whole life was built around
Why the control pattern runs all the way down to survival, and why telling her to "just let go" is like telling an angry person to calm down
What it actually means to hold her, not with promises, but with presence she can feel
Why this process is slow, what it looks like in real time, and why it's worth every bit of it

CHAPTERS & TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Nice Guy Recap
02:10 Polarity Inversion Explained
03:54 Control Patterns and Stress
07:16 Why Surrender Is Hard
08:34 Hold Her Not Fix Her
13:14 Modern Roots of Distrust
19:31 Self Sabotage in Love
20:58 Childhood Conditioning and Perfection
31:36 Life Built on a Lie
36:19 Why Letting Go Feels Unsafe
40:10 Safety Takes Years
43:34 Grief and Being Held
46:29 Healing Together
48:04 Closing and Reviews
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49min
June 08, 2026How I Killed My Inner Nice Guy and Made Her Want Me Again | Episode 135
There was a version of me that did everything right. Generous, patient, never complained. Worked hard, provided, put her needs first. And Dawn hadn't truly desired me in years. This episode is about why.

In this episode, I go completely off-script to share a stretch of my marriage to Dawn where, by my own account, I didn't exist. Not in the way that matters.

I was there physically, going through the motions, doing all the things, but there was no actual person inside of it. Just a performance. A shape-shifting, approval-seeking, endlessly accommodating version of a man trying to earn something he could never earn his way to.

I share what it actually cost me, what it looked like from inside the marriage, and the specific moment of humiliation that finally cracked something open.

This isn't relationship advice. It's an honest account of what it took to go from a man Dawn could only tolerate to a man she actually craves. The difference wasn't a technique. It was becoming a real person.

IN THIS EPISODE:
The Noble Corpse: Why self-sacrifice doesn't make you generous or devoted. It makes you dead.
The Performance Trap: Why being a "good guy" can leave you feeling completely empty and unlovable at the same time.
The Humiliation Choice: The moment I realized I was trying to talk Dawn into wanting me, and what that moment actually meant.
The False Blueprint: Why constructing a new and improved false self (the dominant man, the stoic man) doesn't fix anything.
The Empty Home: Why your wife's lack of desire for you might have nothing to do with her, and everything to do with the fact that there's no one home inside your body.

Find more from Andrew & Dawn on Instagram at https://instagram.com/_infinitedevotion
Or at https://infinitedevotion.com

CHAPTERS & TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Off Script Confession
01:59 The Missing Self
05:49 Approval Based Identity
11:07 Nice Guy Origins
15:11 Self Sacrifice Kills Desire
24:11 Bedroom Humiliation Turning Point
31:29 Stop Building New Masks
36:11 Excavate Your True Identity
41:02 Mirror Work And Painful Truths
43:38 Rebuilding Through Action
46:29 Support From Other Men
51:21 Desire Returns When You Exist
56:04 Final Wrap And Takeaway
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58min
June 01, 2026Why She Shuts Down Around You (And What You're Doing to Cause It) - Infinite Devotion Podcast #134
Why She Shuts Down Around You (And What You're Doing to Cause It)

She used to bring you everything. Now she barely brings you anything. And you can feel it, even if you can't name what changed.

In this episode, Andrew makes a case that most men aren't going to want to hear: the way she's showing up emotionally right now is largely a response to how safe you've made it for her to feel around you.

Not because you're a bad person. Because you were never taught that emotions make sense, and so you've been, mostly unconsciously, telling her that only some of hers are acceptable to you. And she learned.

What's covered:
Why every emotion she feels is a 100% accurate response to something, and why the flaw is in your timeline, not in her feelings
How trying to shut down the emotions you don't like also kills the desire, warmth, and openness you actually want from her
The way men unconsciously teach the women they love to stop feeling openly, and what that costs both of them
Where emotional repression comes from, and why it almost certainly started long before your relationship did
What happens to her, to you, and to the desire between you when you start letting her feel again

This one is primarily for men, but if you're a woman who has felt yourself getting smaller around your partner, or who has stopped bringing him the full weight of what you feel, it's for you too.

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43min
May 25, 2026You're Not In Love, You're In Control: Why Secure Attachment Is Still a Cage
Most of us think we're in love with our partners. This episode challenges that assumption directly.
In this episode, Andrew introduces the concept of compersion, a word from non-monogamous communities that describes a wholehearted, sympathetic joy for your partner's joy.

It's a feeling most of us can access for our children, our pets, our closest friends. But somewhere in long-term relationships, it disappears. And where it goes is exactly where the real conversation begins.

Because compersion isn't just a feeling. It's a litmus test. And what it reveals is whether what you're calling love is actually love, or whether it's attachment, people-pleasing, which are more about trying to control, manage, or “get” love.

In this episode:
What compersion is, where it comes from, and why it matters for everyone regardless of relationship structure
The difference between love and attachment, and why most people are experiencing the latter
Why the attachment style framework, as useful as it is, still points toward a cage
The difference between people-pleasing and genuine unconditional love
The downward spiral that happens when two people are both waiting for the other to change before they can be happy
Why surrender feels like giving up, and why it's actually the only way out
A new definition of love: not something you get, but something you are

The gut-check question from this episode: Can you feel genuine joy for your partner exactly as they are right now, without needing them to change a single thing?

Real love is always available. It's just what's left when you stop trying to control everything.

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39min
May 18, 2026What Conscious Power Exchange Actually Looks Like in Real Life
In this episode, Andrew dives into questions brought by founding members of the newly launched Infinite Devotion Community, giving listeners a taste of the kinds of conversations happening inside that space.

In this episode:
Why "nice guy" behavior is actually a form of manipulation, and why she can feel it even when she can't name it
The binary trap: why the choice between "nice guy" and "bad boy" misses the point entirely, and what it actually takes to build a relationship with lasting sexual intensity
Why masculine responsibility feels empowering to a man while the same burden feels crushing to a woman, and what that tells us about polarity
How tracking Dawn's cycle transformed Andrew's leadership and deepened trust in ways he never anticipated
What submission looks like in everyday family life, and how a mother models surrender and trust to her daughters without ever saying a word about D/s
The difference between conscious power exchange and romanticized servitude, and why the dominant's open-heartedness is what keeps the dynamic from sliding into exploitation
How Dawn evolved from someone who didn't even know what "vanilla" meant to the woman she is today, and what that journey really looked like

The Infinite Devotion Community
These questions came directly from founding members of the Infinite Devotion Community, an online space for people who think more deeply about love, relationships, and power exchange. With two dedicated channels, Ask Infinite Devotion and the Dom Sub Devotion Podcast Discussion, it's a place where these conversations continue beyond the episode.

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48min
May 11, 2026We Built the Community You've Been Asking For - Dom Sub Devotion #131
Join the Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community

For years, people have been asking us the same question. Where do we go? Where can we find others like us? Where can we have real conversations about this dynamic without being hit on, talked down to, or surrounded by people who aren't taking any of this seriously?

The Infinite Devotion Community is the answer to that question.

In this episode, Andrew walks you through everything you need to know about this new private, paid community built specifically for conscious people who take their D/s dynamic seriously. What it is, what it isn't, how it's moderated, and why it was built the way it was built.

In this episode:
Why Andrew built this community and what it's leading toward
A full walkthrough of the 10 community rules and guidelines and the reasoning behind each one
How this is fundamentally different from Fetlife, Reddit, and other online spaces
Why there's a small membership fee and why that's actually a feature
The discussion channels available inside and how to use them
How moderation will work and what Andrew's personal involvement looks like
The bigger vision of where this community is heading, including in-person events, workshops, and retreats

This community is for you if:

You've been listening to Dom Sub Devotion and wished you had somewhere to bring your questions for Andrew.

You live a D/s dynamic and feel isolated because almost no one in your real life understands it.

You've tried Fetlife or other online spaces and left feeling like something was still missing.

You want real conversations with conscious people who take power exchange seriously.

This community is not for you if:
You're looking for a dating site or a hookup platform. You want to perform your kink for an audience. You're not willing to engage with others with class and respect.

Join the Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community

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45min
April 27, 2026When the Dominant Isn't Actually the Dominant - Dom Sub Devotion #130
How do you actually know who's in charge in a D/s dynamic? Not who's wearing the collar, not who's claimed the title, not even who's doing what to whom. The one who's deciding is the one who's dominant, and those two things are often not the same person.
This episode was recorded live on Instagram, and the conversation that unfolded covers one of the most common and quietly damaging patterns in power exchange relationships: the submissive who sincerely wants to let go, but whose fear is actually the dominant force running the dynamic.
Andrew breaks down why dominance lives in the decision, not the act or the position, what the subtle mechanics of unconscious control actually look like, what real surrender requires of a submissive, and what it takes for a dominant to hold his frame through years of resistance before the shift finally happens.
In this episode:
Why the action, position, or appearance tells you nothing about who's actually in charge
The restaurant example and what it reveals about whether you're deciding or managing
The subtle ways a submissive can still be running the show while wearing a collar
What real submission requires beyond compliance
Why pushing harder into her resistance always makes it worse
The inverted polarity downward spiral and how it develops
The "gradually, then suddenly" shift and what the long middle actually looks like
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1h 3min
April 20, 2026The Truth About Monogamy, Non-Monogamy, and Devotion - Dom Sub Devotion #129
Is monogamy outdated? Should we all just embrace polyamory or ethical non-monogamy? Everyone seems to have a position on this right now, and everyone has their heels dug in hard. But here's what almost nobody is willing to say: most people's position on monogamy or non-monogamy isn't a philosophy. It's a defense mechanism.

In this episode, Andrew gets into the real conversation underneath all of the debate about relationship structures. We aren't naturally monogamous creatures, but that doesn't mean bouncing between casual connections gets us home either. Both sides of this debate are usually avoiding the same thing: the depth that only conscious devotion makes possible.

Andrew breaks down how monogamy gets used as a control mechanism, how non-monogamy and polyamory get used as an avoidance mechanism, and why both are just different ways of staying safe from something that needs to be felt. He also takes on the myth of the "high value man" and what actually makes a man worth choosing. And then he makes the case for devotion as a crucible: not monogamy by default, not a defended position, but a conscious daily choice to go fully into one person and not let yourself off the hook.

This one will make you uncomfortable. That's the point.

In this episode:
Why humans aren't naturally monogamous creatures, and why that doesn't mean what most people think it means
The way both monogamy and non-monogamy get used to manage fear rather than face it
The myth of the high value man, what it's really about, and what actually makes a man worth committing to
The difference between default monogamy and conscious devotion, and why they look the same from the outside but couldn't be more different inside
Devotion as a crucible: why you need the pressure, and why diffusing it keeps you shallow
What actually becomes possible on the other side of doing this work
Why Andrew and Dawn didn't choose this path so much as it chose them

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59min
April 13, 2026 How To Introduce D/s Dynamics To Your Partner - Dom Sub Devotion #128
Bringing up dominance and submission to a partner who doesn't know it's coming is one of the most common questions we get. This episode walks through exactly how to approach it — whether you're the one wanting to lead or the one wanting to follow.

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Resources & Next Steps

If you’re ready to go deeper, explore our courses and offerings:
• Rapture — a journey into devotional D/s and erotic embodiment. https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture
• Becoming a Dominant Man — Andrew’s path for men ready to lead with clarity and integrity. https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man
• Structuring Your D/s Dynamic — build a relationship structure that actually works for you. https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic
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1h 2min
April 06, 2026You Can't Submit and Stay in Charge at the Same Time - Dom Sub Devotion #127
Episode 127: You Can't Submit and Stay in Charge at the Same Time

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One of the most common questions Andrew hears from women: how do I feel submissive when my life requires me to be in control?

This episode is the honest answer. Submission and control are opposites. You cannot grip everything tightly and also experience the freedom that comes with letting go. The more useful question is why you need to be in control of everything in the first place, and whether you actually have the capacity to trust and surrender.

A good man will not force you to step back. If you won't let go when someone is willing to lead, he will eventually stop trying. Your submission is yours to offer, and that means you are an active participant in making it possible.

Download the free guided meditation mentioned in this episode: https://www.infinitedevotion.com/offers/aZEToAu5

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40min

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