Are you just going through the motions of life? Or are you living it to the fullest? It may be time to change your perspective. Going from a “have-to” to a “get-to” view is an eye-opening experience that can help you be intentional about the choices you make every day.

In this episode, I discuss the difference between a “get-to” and a “have-to” perspective. I talk about how you can face the trials and tribulations required to Get-To the other side of this goal that you want, as opposed to the “have-to” perspective. Are you ready to change your perspective?

Tune in to the episode to improve your life and learn how to be a “get-to” person!

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:

• Changing your perspective from a “have-to” to a “get-to”.
• You always have the freedom to choose.
• Be intentional and purposeful.
• Your mindset may be holding you back from becoming your desired future self.
• Stop being reactive and start being proactive about what you do every day.

Episode Highlights:

[2:05] “Get-to” vs “Have-to”: Shifting Your Perspective

The distinction between “get-to” and “have-to” is a simple one to make. It's a tactic to shift the mindset and get more out of life. Behavior comes before motivation; action comes before motivation.

Shifting your perspective from a “have-to” to a “get-to” is an excellent tactic to get you into action. Think about the things you get to do and be grateful that you get to do them.

[4:26] Everything You Do is a Choice

You always have a choice in everything you do. Everything you're doing is a “get-to” option, a “get-to” behavior, a “get-to” activity. You don't have to do anything. That is when you have the decision to make. 

[8:24] The Fear That Life Will Come To An End 

Life will come to an end, and you will have regrets that you wished you had lived a different life. Make it a point to do it with passion and intentionality. Bronnie Ware, a hospice nurse, did research documenting the answers of her patients who were near death. Most people's biggest regret is not living the life they wanted instead of doing what they thought others expected of them.

[11:07] There are Only Two Choices in Everything That You Do

Ask yourself, "What if I didn't have to do it?" You have a choice in what we do. If you maintain a “have-to” attitude about it, then fear drives you, not faith. The choices you make are driven by fear or by faith.

Notable quotes from the Episode:

[2:20] “Behavior precedes motivation, or action comes before motivation.”

[3:16]  “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

[ 4:38] “By having this “get-to” perspective, you have a choice in every single thing that you do.”

[10:16] “People are not living the lives that they intentionally want to live, they're living a “have- to” life instead of a “get-to” life.

Resources Mentioned:

Bronnie Ware: Regrets of the Dying

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