Saira and Faizan talk about what role choice plays in how we process our emotions. How do we move through emotions and not let outside situations define us any longer.

Saira uses the example of captain, first mate, and sheriff to talk about how we are consciously making choices as well as fighting what has become automatic.

Saira and Faizan are talk about why relationships seem to be so hard. There seems to a lot of pain and anguish. We talk about the theory of

attachment and how we move forward beyond control and the roles that we play in the family.

Saira and Faizan are talk about why it is sometimes difficult to get on the same page as a couple. And how looking at old wounds and childhood may hold the answers to why we do things the way we do them.

Saira and Faizan are talk about how important conversations require active listening skills and a willingness to look at our own belief systems. And Faizan apparently has a perfect face for podcast...

Saira and Faizan are back after being busy not doing much. And one thing we have been doing, or at least struggling with, is relaxing. We discuss the difference between relaxation and avoidance. Faizan discusses his challenges with that pesky voice that starts bothering him that leads him to numbing out rather than truly relaxing. Sometimes all we need is to give ourselves permission to relax consciously.

In order to get through all the changes a relationship goes through, the foundational work involving mental, emotional, spiritual work must be undertaken. The work allows us to become more engaged and stable in our relationships as well as our interactions with the greater world.

There are times we fight to fit in to different places or communities yet end up finding ourselves still feeling lonely. Dr. Saira and Faizan discuss why belonging maybe better than just fitting in.

Saira and Faizan turn their focus on what they have in midst of all the turmoil. To make time and space for reflecting on the opportunities provided to us by those that have come before us is an

important practice when things don't seem to be working out.

Saira and Faizan are still struggling to figure out what is next. We are processing the anger and attempting to set a path forward for ourselves. Education is key. Who gets to tell the story is also a big key.

We are still at a loss of what to do about the racism other than continue having the uncomfortable conversations.

A part of us is broken that in 2020 we still have to talk about the injustices many in the world face. And we struggle to talk about it at all.

We started this podcast with the idea that you get to hear what we talk about on our couch - no scripts, no preparation. Just plain talk about the many topics Saira and Faizan love to talk about.

In this episode, we had difficulty putting words to our feelings. We are at a loss of what to do about the racism and a lack of care for others that we see being presented to us. We can start with

taking responsibility for our own actions (or lack of) and try to figure out what is to come next.