Welcome to the third episode of Safe Space with Laura Caruso. This week, Laura dives into a relatable question in relationships: Do I have to change to find the man of my dreams? With her trademark honesty and clinical expertise, Laura explores the deeper meaning behind this question, diving into what it means to create change—not for others, but for yourself.
This episode unpacks how our "tough, take no shit" personas often develop as a form of protection, how they serve us, and why it’s okay to put them down sometimes. Laura guides listeners through the process of envisioning their ideal selves and creating small, intentional changes to step into that vision—whether it’s to attract a partner or to lead a more aligned, fulfilling life.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
- Why meaningful change starts with yourself, not for someone else.
- The role of self-reflection in softening and embracing a new mindset.
- How to balance your tough, confident side with a softer, more intentional version of yourself.
- Why it’s important to align your vision of a partner with your vision of your ideal self.
- Practical steps to start small and make sustainable changes that align with your values.
[00:01:16] Laura shares why this week’s question resonated so deeply with her personal experiences.
[00:02:02] The short answer to the question: "Yes, but change for yourself, not for him."
[00:03:33] Exploring how the "take no shit" persona develops and why it’s so hard to let go of.
[00:05:17] Envisioning the softer version of yourself—what does her life, values, and emotions look like?
[00:07:12] How aligning your vision for yourself with your ideal partner can create healthier relationships.
[00:14:06] Shoutout to Jess Pinili's (@jesspinili) diagram for navigating personal change.
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Also: Check out Jess's identity worksheet here, and follow her on Instagram.
Why This Episode Matters:
This episode isn’t about changing to fit someone else’s mold—it’s about choosing to grow and evolve into the best version of yourself. Laura breaks down how self-reflection, small changes, and intentional actions can create a ripple effect in your relationships and your life. Whether you’re searching for love or simply seeking alignment, this episode offers clarity and encouragement for your journey.
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Next week, Laura tackles another listener question, diving deeper into the complexities of relationships, mental health, and personal growth. Be sure to submit your question on Monday and tune in for transformative insights.
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