Safe to Hope

Ann Maree introduces us to Charles, a husband who found his way back to his wife after a journey marked by abuse and redemption. 

With raw honesty, Charles talks about the abusive behaviors he once displayed, including his struggles with pornography and moments of deep despair that led him to threaten suicide. Through taking responsibility for his actions and seeking forgiveness, Charles witnessed a remarkable healing in his marriage.

This episode sheds light on the difficult path of reconciliation in the context of domestic abuse, offering hope and insights for recognizing and addressing abusive behaviors. Join us for an inspiring conversation that highlights the power of grace, accountability, and the rare gift of true restoration in a broken marriage.

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.

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We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. 

Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.

The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

A powerful conversation with Tabitha Westbrook, a licensed therapist and trauma specialist, as she sheds light on the challenging journey of reconciliation in abusive marriages—where it happens only 2-10% of the time. With compassion and insight, Tabitha discusses the essential role of humility and healthy shame in the healing process. She underscores the importance of a collaborative approach, involving advocates, counselors, and pastors, to effectively address domestic abuse. Tabitha also bravely challenges common misconceptions about pornography, affirming its destructive impact on relationships, equating it to adultery. Don’t miss her insights on healing sexuality after trauma, as previewed in her upcoming book, "Body and Soul, Healed and Whole." Tune in for a conversation that invites you to find hope and strength in your healing journey.

SHOW NOTES:

Tabitha Westbrook:

• Body & Soul, Healed & Whole: An Invitational Guide to Healthy Sexuality after Trauma, Abuse, and Coercive Control by Tabitha Westbrook
• Trauma Support Services

Resources mentioned:

• Church-Based Counseling series by Brad Hambrick.
• When Home Hurts:A Guide for Responding Wisely to Domestic Abuse in Your Church by Jeremy Pierre and Greg Wilson
• Called to Peace
• ChrisMoles.org
• Peaceworks is Chris Moles training arm and Protect the Flock is a seminar Called to Peace offers to churches. 

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.

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We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. 

Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.

The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

We invite you into a journey of healing and hope that speaks to the heart of every woman facing the pain of domestic abuse. This episode introduces Charles and Renee, a couple whose story is as rare as it is powerful—a story of reconciliation after abuse.

Ann Maree delves deep into the nuances of Renee's story, highlighting the importance of discerning true repentance and recognizing the profound changes that signify real transformation. This episode is a beacon of hope, reminding us that even in the darkest circumstances, God's redemptive power can bring about incredible change.

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.

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We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. 

Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.

The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Have you ever wondered how someone’s personal journey through trauma can lead to a powerful message of hope? Meet Kimrey Dillon, our newest team member and the author of Remember my Affliction, a devotional crafted especially for abuse survivors. In a heartfelt conversation with Ann Maree, Kimrey opens up about her experiences of betrayal and suffering, revealing how they inspired her to create this resource. Rooted in the book of Lamentations, the devotional serves as a gentle reminder of God’s comforting presence in the midst of pain. Whether you prefer to reflect alone or with others, this flexible guide allows you to take your time and find solace in God’s promises.

Plus, don’t miss the exciting news about our upcoming Festivals of Remembrance series and a sneak peek at the “Storyteller Series” launching on September 10. Are you ready to explore these stories of hope and healing?

Shop Remember my Affliction here.

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.

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We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. 

Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.

The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

In this episode, Ann Maree, Patrick, and Julia explore the principle of "do no harm" across the fields of medicine, counseling, and advocacy. Patrick delves into the intricacies of medical decision-making, discussing the balance between paternalism, technical approaches, and the importance of shared decision-making with patients. Julia highlights how shared decision-making is crucial in counseling, especially when working with vulnerable clients, and underscores the significance of humility and self-awareness in understanding power dynamics. Ann Maree reflects on the vital role lay counselors play in supporting professional therapists, emphasizing the need for careful language and encouragement. The episode wraps up with a preview of the upcoming season, which will feature a powerful story of reconciliation after domestic abuse.

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.

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We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. 

Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.

The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

In this episode, Ann Maree sits down with Julia Fillnow, a licensed counselor with expertise in trauma, abuse, and addiction, and her husband, Patrick Fillnow, a physician and church elder. Together, they explore the vital intersection of faith and mental health, advocating for a collaborative approach between biblical and clinical counseling. Julia delves into the significance of understanding human behavior through psychology and the necessity of precise diagnosis in clinical settings. Patrick brings his medical perspective, highlighting the deep connection between physical and mental health. They also candidly discuss the strengths and limitations of their professions, emphasizing the role of God, the importance of humility, and the pursuit of comprehensive care.

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.

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We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. 

Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.

The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Part 2 of PCA GA, "So What?" Join the conversation with Lynna Sutherland (Advocacy from the Presbyterian Pew) and Donna Westcott (The Psycho-Theologian) as we further discuss the happenings, nuances, and responses to last week’s PCA General Assembly. We will also explore the questions, hopes, and wisdom as we move forward. An insider’s look into the 'business' of GA.

SHOW NOTES:

• From Lynna’s ministry Advocacy From the Presbyterian Pew:
• PCA GA 2024 https://presbyterianpew.org/tag/pcaga24/
• Free course Presbyterian Church Government 101 https://presbyterianpew.org/courses/presbyterian-church-government-101/
• Donna Westcott, The Psycho-Theologian http://donnawestcott.com/
• Tim Keller podcast Ann Maree referenced at the beginning of the show can be found here https://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/podcasts/rise-and-fall-of-mars-hill/tim-keller-mike-cosper-mars-hill-bonus.html
• Ann Maree on Help[H]er Substack https://helpher.substack.com/
• DASA Report (Domestic Abuse and Sexual Assault) https://dasacommittee.org/committee-report

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.

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We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. 

Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.

The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

What does the PCA General Assembly mean to us as women? Are we safe in the denomination? Tune in for this special Safe to Hope podcast featuring Lynna Sutherland (Advocacy from the Presbyterian Pew) and Donna Westcott. Hear how they heard and experienced the denomination’s “business” last week and what this may mean for women.

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.

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We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. 

Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.

The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

This episode showcases Darby Strickland, author and biblical counselor, and Jill Butler, biblical counselor and instructor who has her own adoption story. As these two expert contributors speak from a counselor’s perspective, they describe trauma experienced by the children in the foster and adoption systems and how the church can come alongside to offer support. And Jill tells about the trauma she experienced as a child in an adoptive family and how the Lord ministered to her along the way. 

Visit your county’s dept. of social services website for foster parent info.

Click here for H Institute’s Theology of Story

Here’s info about Darby Strickland 

• Something Scary Happened (her children’s book)
• When Children Experience Trauma: Help for Parents and Caregivers
• Trauma: Caring for Survivors

Here’s info about Jill Butler

Books about fostering: Foster the Family and Reframing Foster Care

Alongside Families alongsidefamilies.org. If you don't live in NC upstreamcollab.org

If you are a foster parent looking for a support group in your area please visit Foster the Family support groups. 

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.

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We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. 

Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.

The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Caroline wraps up her story as a foster mom by relating how God continues to meet her family’s needs both physically and spiritually. She also explains how pastors, elders and churches can improve their sensitivity about serving well in the area of trauma. This episode is packed full of practical ideas to help churches serve adoptive and foster families. Have a listen!

Visit your county’s dept. of social services website for foster parent info.

• Click here for H Institute’s Theology of Story
• Dr. Goudzwaard mentioned the book: The Other Half of Church
• Find out more about Aundi Kolber and her book Try Softer
• Here’s info about Darby Strickland and her children’s book Something Scary Happened
• Meet Jill Butler
• Books about fostering: Foster the Family and Reframing Foster Care
• Alongside Families alongsidefamilies.org. If you don't live in NC upstreamcollab.org

If you are a foster parent looking for a support group in your area please visit Foster the Family support groups. 

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.

Help[H]er website                         
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Shop              

We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. 

Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.

The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.