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Again, we are joined by our storyteller, Anna as she helps us understand her process by sharing some of the ways the Lord spoke to and carried her during a really dark time. How did our young, Christian Anna find herself here? Listen along to her story. “This was really confusing and ultimately reinforced, inside of me, some things I had believed about my worth and dignity through abuse. And it's taken me many years to recognize this and untangle all of the impact of those decisions.“

If you would like to know more about the dynamics of domestic abuse if you have questions go to Called to Peace.org 

Darby Strickland's book Is It Abuse? is excellent for both victims and church leaders for identifying the patterns of abuse. 

And in addition, Dr. Jeremy Pierre and Dr. Greg Wilson's book When Home Hurts is particularly hopeful, helpful and hopeful for church leaders. 

Safe to Hope is a production of HelpHer. Our Executive Producer is Ann Maree Goudzwaard. Safe to Hope is written and mixed by Ann Maree and edited by Ann Maree and Helen Weigt. Music is Waterfall by Roman Senyk Music from Pixabayand and is licensed by Pixabay.

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.

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We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. 

Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.

The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

We welcome Sheila Gregoire to interact on the impact of purity culture, 
and those ‘dangerous female emotions’, as in circumstances such as 
Anna's and so many other girls and young women. Do boys have the ability to stop lust? Christan-like behavior and Christ-loving character. Have we got it backward? Sheila’s expertise on these matters is significant.

Sheila's resources are found on her website, Sheila Wray Gregoire.com and  Bare Marriage.com for her blog and podcast. 

If you want to know more about the dynamics of domestic abuse, I suggest you go to Called to Peace.org or Darby Strickland's book, Is It Abuse? is excellent for both victims and church leaders to identify the patterns of abuse. 

And in addition, I recommend Dr. Jeremy Pierre and Dr. Greg Wilson's book When Home Hurts and that's particularly helpful for church leaders. 

Safe to Hope is a production of HelpHer. Our Executive Producer is Ann Maree Goudzwaard. Safe to Hope is written and mixed by Ann Maree and edited by Ann Maree and Helen Weigt. Music is Waterfall by Roman Senyk Music from Pixabayand and is licensed by Pixabay. 

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.

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We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. 

Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.

The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Is the word 'abuse' too vague? We know it's terrible, but what IS it? We hear of manipulation and control but what does it look like? Join 'Anna' as she recounts (specific) details answering these questions and more. 

If you would like to know more about the dynamics of domestic abuse if you have questions go to Called to Peace.org 

Darby Strickland's book Is It Abuse? is excellent for both victims and church leaders for identifying the patterns of abuse. 

And in addition, Dr. Jeremy Pierre and Dr. Greg Wilson's book When Home Hurts is particularly hopeful, helpful and hopeful for church leaders. 

Safe to Hope is a production of HelpHer. Our Executive Producer is Ann Maree Goudzwaard. Safe to Hope is written and mixed by Ann Maree and edited by Ann Maree and Helen Weigt. Music is Waterfall by Roman Senyk Music from Pixabayand and is licensed by Pixabay. 

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.

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We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. 

Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.

The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Safe to Hope is a production of HelpHer. Our Executive Producer is Ann Maree Goudzwaard. Safe to Hope is written and mixed by Ann Maree and edited by Ann Maree and Helen Weigt. Music is Waterfall by Roman Senyk Music from Pixabayand and is licensed by Pixabay. 

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.

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Shop              

We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. 

Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.

The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Is ‘trauma-informed’ only a secular concept? What is Darby’s upcoming book about? How is 1 Peter 3:1-6 misapplied? Darby Strickland is back to discuss hope and care-filled biblical counsel for women devastated by sexual abuse in marriage. Darby will have abundant wealth to share on these and other topics with us.

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If you want to know more about domestic abuse I suggest you go to Called to Peace.org. A ministry specific to domestic abuse. You'll find a lot of information and resources. 

Darby Strickland's book Is It Abuse? is excellent for both victims and church leaders for identifying the patterns of abuse and in particular her chapter on marital sexual abuse in that book. 

Dr. Jeremy Pierre and Dr. Greg Wilson's book When Home Hurts is particularly helpful for church leaders.

Safe to Hope is a production of HelpHer. Our Executive Producer is Ann Maree Goudzwaard. Safe to Hope is written and mixed by Ann Maree and edited by Ann Maree and Helen Weigt. Music is Waterfall by Roman Senyk Music from Pixabayand and is licensed by Pixabay. 

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.

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Shop              

We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. 

Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.

The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Today, we focus on how Michelle navigated the many layers as a survivor of domestic and specifically sexual abuse in marriage. We're also going to look at God's redemptive thread flowing throughout her circumstances. She shares just some of the ways God met her and some of the many thoughts and feelings she had to mediate during that time. May you be ministered to by Michelle's wisdom as she shares in our final discussion really helpful things to hear.

Resources:
Brad Hambrick mentioned include the Church Cares program, and Making Sense of Forgiveness: Moving from Hurt toward Hope. and God's Attributes: Rest For Life's Struggles

To learn more about domestic abuse, go to Called to Peace.org. 

Darby Strickland's book, Is It Abuse?  which is an excellent resource for both victims and church leaders for identifying patterns of abuse. And specifically, Darby speaks in one chapter regarding sexual abuse in marriage.

Dr. Jeremy Pierre and Dr. Greg Wilson's book When Home Hurts  is particularly helpful for church leaders.

Safe to Hope is a production of HelpHer. Our Executive Producer is Ann Maree Goudzwaard. Safe to Hope is written and mixed by Ann Maree and edited by Ann Maree and Helen Weigt. Music is Waterfall by Roman Senyk Music from Pixabayand and is licensed by Pixabay. 

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.

Help[H]er website                         
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Shop              

We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. 

Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.

The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Warning: This season includes discussions regarding marital, emotional, spiritual, and sexual abuse. We advise listener and reader discretion.

As we’ve heard, Brad Hambrick is a well-seasoned counselor who has a deep understanding of abuse victims and survivors, all the while having a heart to care. Brad again joins us in this bonus episode and interacts with Michelle’s story addressing the injustices of how abuse is being handled, and what proper biblical responses look like. An excellent resource for pastors who want to help and not hurt.

Resources: Brad Hambrick mentioned include the Church Cares program, and Making Sense of Forgiveness: Moving from Hurt toward Hope. and God's Attributes: Rest For Life's Struggles

For domestic abuse, go to Called to Peace.org. 

Darby Strickland's book, Is It Abuse? which is an excellent resource for both victims and church leaders for identifying patterns of abuse. And specifically, Darby speaks in one chapter regarding sexual abuse in marriage.

Dr. Jeremy Pierre and Dr. Greg Wilson's book When Home Hurts is particularly helpful for church leaders.

Enjoy this episode on our YouTube channel.

Safe to Hope is a production of HelpHer. Our Executive Producer is Ann Maree Goudzwaard. Safe to Hope is written and mixed by Ann Maree and edited by Ann Maree and Helen Weigt. Music is Waterfall by Roman Senyk Music from Pixabayand and is licensed by Pixabay. 

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.

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Shop              

We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. 

Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.

The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Warning: Michelle’s story is for adult audiences only. This season includes discussions regarding marital, emotional, spiritual, and sexual abuse. We advise listener and reader discretion.

It is our privilege to introduce you to Brad Hambrick. Brad serves as the Pastor of Counseling at Summit Church in Durham, North Carolina. He also serves as Assistant Professor of Biblical Counseling at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary. He's a council member of the Biblical Counseling Coalition. From his many opportunities, he openly shares powerful and practical insights to level up what it means to care. Brad and Ann Maree discuss phases of abuse, rightly discerning next steps, theological concepts needed to shepherd women well, and so much more. 

Resources:
Brad Hambrick mentioned include the Church Cares program, and Making Sense of Forgiveness: Moving from Hurt toward Hope. and God's Attributes: Rest For Life's Struggles

To learn more about domestic abuse, go to Called to Peace.org. 

Darby Strickland's book, Is It Abuse?

Dr. Jeremy Pierre and Dr. Greg Wilson's book When Home Hurts is particularly helpful for church leaders.

Safe to Hope is a production of HelpHer. Our Executive Producer is Ann Maree Goudzwaard. Safe to Hope is written and mixed by Ann Maree and edited by Ann Maree and Helen Weigt. Music is Waterfall by Roman Senyk Music from Pixabayand and is licensed by Pixabay. 

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.

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Shop              

We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. 

Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.

The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

We join Michelle in the second part of her story where she elaborates on the devastating situation that impacts every aspect of her life, including her children and church family.

If you want to know more about domestic abuse, go to Called to Peace.org. They have a lot of resources that would be helpful can get a hold of an advocate if you need one. Also, I recommend Darby Strickland's book, Is It Abuse? which is  an excellent resource for both victims and church leaders for identifying patterns of abuse. And specifically Darby speaks in one chapter regarding sexual abuse in marriage. And then as I've said before, Dr. Jeremy Pierre and Dr. Greg Wilson's book When Home Hurts is particularly helpful for church leaders.

Warning: Michelle’s story is for adult audiences only. As a heads up, this season includes discussions regarding marital emotional, spiritual, and sexual abuse. We advise listener and reader discretion.

Safe to Hope is a production of HelpHer. Our Executive Producer is Ann Maree Goudzwaard. Safe to Hope is written and mixed by Ann Maree and edited by Ann Maree and Helen Weigt. Music is Waterfall by Roman Senyk Music from Pixabayand and is licensed by Pixabay. 

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.

Help[H]er website                         
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Shop              

We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. 

Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.

The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

We welcome back Melissa Affolter, as she helps us understand more about Michelle's situation - specifically about the ways to help victims of domestic abuse and survivors - as they navigate the healing process from this trauma, especially as it relates to sexual abuse and marriage.

Visit Melissa's website including ReStoried. ReStoried support groups are designed from a Christ-centered theological framework and clinically informed perspective.

If you want to know more about domestic abuse, go to Called to Peace.org. They have a lot of resources that would be helpful can get a hold of an advocate if you need one.
We recommend Darby Strickland's book, Is It Abuse? : A Biblical Guide to Identifying Domestic Abuse and Helping Victims.  Also recommended is Dr. Jeremy Pierre and Dr. Greg Wilson's book When Home Hurts:  A Guide for Responding Wisely to Domestic Abuse in Your Church. Particularly helpful for church leaders.

Additional references and Resources:
Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith Herman
Diane Langberg
Beth Broom Christian Trauma Healing Network
Karen Corcoran

Safe to Hope is a production of HelpHer. Our Executive Producer is Ann Maree Goudzwaard. Safe to Hope is written and mixed by Ann Maree and edited by Ann Maree and Helen Weigt. Music is Waterfall by Roman Senyk Music from Pixabayand and is licensed by Pixabay. 

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.

Help[H]er website                         
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Shop              

We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. 

Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.

The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.