In this Virtue we look at how shame is experienced in the body. Is it necessary for shame to be associated with more mundane aspects of our sexuality such as how often we have sex or how many partners we have?

Can there be too much shame? Of course there can.

Resources:

The Psychology of Shame by Gershon Kaufman

The Science of Shame by Gerald Fishkin

David Buss on Huberman Lab

Understanding the role of shame in female hypersexual disorders

Let's dive into our raison d'etre: desire. We get into the neurological hallmarks of desire and what our desires can tell us about ourselves.

References:

Love, Actually: The science behind lust, attraction and companionship

Goop - The Upside of a Crush

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We love to watch train-wrecks and cheating scandals.

Why are we so scandalized by infidelity? We delve into literature, culture and evolutionary psychology. Finally, we get a little spiritual.

As always be sure to check out our confession on our Patreon.

References Mentioned

2013 NY Times article

Human Migration Based on Betrayal

Today we dive into the importance of the development of sexuality in a childhood years.

Is it possible to respect our children's sexuality without taking advantage of them?

What is nature vs. nurture? The National Center for the Sexual Behavior of Youth tells us that while sexual development in ingrained in our natural physical development our attitudes surrounding sex are based on our cultural education. We look at a couple theories with respect to childhood development: Freud vs. Erikson.

This week, we explore the differences between male and female sexual arousal. Salo compares the research with her own experiences and the different roles and expectations that society places on men and women.

At the end of the day are we all that different?

BDSM is surprisingly as old as human history and the second most common fantasy. 40% of people in the US say they have a BDSM fantasy but only 2% of those people will actually go actualize their desire.

Salo gets into the history of BDSM, where the term Sadism originated and her own personal experience with exploring this aspect of her own sexuality.

Let's dive into relationships with age gaps. Are they cool or gross? Why are we so divided and reactive to whether Jay Z, and Beyonce's relationships is appropriate or not?

Salo also explores how her relationship with her ex husband, who is 12 years older than her, started when she was 20.

There is no confession this week, if you haven't listened to one yet, check out Patreon page.

Join while we explore different attachment styles and what they mean for how we relate to Sex. Each attachment style uses sex differently whether it's used to get into a relationship, while in relationships or for social status.

Join us on Patreon, for one of Salo's recent experience where her attachment circuitry could have led into a bad experience.

Bringing you a special holiday episode. Salo interviews her 99 year old grandmother about growing up in New York City, seeing her mother sing at the Roxy Theater, which would later become Radio City Music Hall, moving to New Jersey for High School, seeing Frank Sinatra perform as a teenager and finally getting married at age 19.

Our confession follows on our Patreon page, where Salo gets into family patterns and how that has affected how she has showed up in her own relationship. 

There isn't a person on the planet that goes through life untouched by sexuality, which is typically navigated in private.

Get to know your host Salo as we uncover our objective to feel less alone in our desires. We want to be your resource and support to approach sex and sexuality from an integrated place of comfort.

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