Happy New Year 2023 from BDSM United Podcast!! Here is an episode I recorded a few weeks ago on this relevant topic of BDSM and Kink resolutions and setting goals.

Negotiating a relationship is similar to negotiating a scene. Both come after a potential partner is vetted. Negotiations for a play scene are usually short conversations that happen before you meet for the actual play scene. However negotiating a relationship is a series of longer conversations that happen when a couple decides to consider a power exchange dynamic (such as D/s).

While it is more common these days for Dominant/submissive couples to have Top/bottom kinky play, the 1950's head-of-household style D/s relationship is an example of D/s without the T/b. In addition to no kink, some D/s relationships are not sexual either. Top and bottom are different than Dominant and Submissive. Therefore we can stop relating them to one another because ultimately we are making it even more difficult to learn their meanings by doing so.

When people ask how to become involved in kink or how to learn, the first thing they are told is “go to a munch!” Munches are a great first step, but like all first steps, they can be intimidating if you don’t know what to expect or how to behave. Munches are a key part of the BDSM community. It is where people go to meet other kinksters, see old friends and to establish themselves in their local community.

Today we want to jump back in time and share a snapshot from our past. Perhaps this is a bit of a romanticized look at the identity of a Master, you be the judge. But before we had Mottos like RACK and Safe, Sane, and Consensual there were Creeds such as these. They weren't necessarily better, they were just from a different era.

What level of intensity is your Power Exchange? How does your dynamic deal with change? Power Exchange can be messy and complicated because it involves people in a relationship.  Because the more they learn and grow, people often change. There will always be things on the distant horizon that you cannot plan for because they may not even exist yet.

BDSM United joins the Heathens Podcast for a special Yule celebration. We talk about celebrating this season and winter solstice from both right hand path and left hand path mystic traditions. And we talk about the best type of kink to enjoy for your Yuletime play scenes!

BDSM's Old Guard roots were once almost entirely homosexual men. It took almost thirty years before the scene became largely inclusive of homosexual women too. And then almost ten more before opening up to a significant amount of straight people. Today BDSM is considered pansexual in that it is open to all people, therefore it is good for us to understand words you’ll hear used in LGBTIQA+ communities.

BDSM's Old Guard roots were once almost entirely homosexual men. It took almost thirty years before the scene became largely inclusive of homosexual women too. And then almost ten more before opening up to a significant amount of straight people. Today BDSM is considered pansexual in that it is open to all people, therefore it is good for us to understand words you’ll hear used in LGBTIQA+ communities.