What happens when you choose softness but the Church tries to make you hard?

In this episode, I reflect on being the youngest female leader in a male-dominated church culture. I share how I was labeled difficult for protecting my peace and explain what the soft girl era really means...wisdom, rest, and emotional clarity. We’ll also look at Mary and Martha in Luke 10 and what their story teaches us about presence and purpose.

If you’ve ever been misunderstood, micromanaged, or misjudged, this one’s for you.

What if the room didn’t shrink — what if you did?
In this debut episode of Say Less, Farris, I open up about the moments I folded to fit.
Not because I lacked the gift, but because the room was more comfortable with me small.

From being praised in public to questioned in private, this one’s for anyone who’s ever been made to feel like too much.
Too bold. Too gifted. Too called.
But here’s the truth: God didn’t ask you to shrink. He called you to take up space on purpose.

Let’s talk about obedience, unlearning the fear, and standing tall even when it makes people uncomfortable.