In this episode of Say Less Farris, I’m calling out the “mean girl” and clique culture that’s become too common in the church. From fake friendships built for social media to the lack of genuine support for anyone outside the “popular” circle, I’ve seen it all, and it’s not Christlike.

I share the story of my real sisterhood with Bri and our late friend Tiffany, a bond that broke the cycle and reminded me what true connection feels like. We discuss why authentic relationships matter, how to distinguish between aesthetics and authenticity, and how to cultivate the kind of sisterhood that reflects God’s love.

This one is raw, heartfelt, and a call to do better.

What happens when you choose softness but the Church tries to make you hard?

In this episode, I reflect on being the youngest female leader in a male-dominated church culture. I share how I was labeled difficult for protecting my peace and explain what the soft girl era really means...wisdom, rest, and emotional clarity. We’ll also look at Mary and Martha in Luke 10 and what their story teaches us about presence and purpose.

If you’ve ever been misunderstood, micromanaged, or misjudged, this one’s for you.

What if the room didn’t shrink — what if you did?
In this debut episode of Say Less, Farris, I open up about the moments I folded to fit.
Not because I lacked the gift, but because the room was more comfortable with me small.

From being praised in public to questioned in private, this one’s for anyone who’s ever been made to feel like too much.
Too bold. Too gifted. Too called.
But here’s the truth: God didn’t ask you to shrink. He called you to take up space on purpose.

Let’s talk about obedience, unlearning the fear, and standing tall even when it makes people uncomfortable.