School Decisions with Rishanka Jones

Families pay admissions consultants thousands of dollars to get through this process. Most of what they're buying isn't secret. It just isn't explained to anyone who doesn't pay for it.

Start with the part nobody tells you: when a school says it has thirty places in a grade, that is not thirty places available to you. Some are already committed to siblings of current families, to children of faculty and staff, and to legacy families. At the most competitive schools, a consultant describing that market put it plainly: a thousand applicants for fifty seats, many of which are already taken.

So the ratio you calculate from the applicant number is not the ratio you're facing.

This video covers how the seats actually get allocated, the one concept that explains the entire process and almost nobody names for parents, what a waitlist really means and what schools genuinely cannot tell you about it, who is actually in the room when your child's file is discussed, and the one question almost no parent asks after a rejection.

CHAPTERS

00:00 The seats are not what you think

02:15 Yield: the word that explains everything

03:45 The waitlist, honestly

05:15 The money question nobody asks

06:15 Who is actually in the room

07:15 The question almost nobody asks after a no

08:15 What to do with all of this

THE THREE QUESTIONS WORTH ASKING

"How many places do you actually expect at this entry point, after siblings and faculty children?"

"Is your admission need-blind or need-aware? And does that change for waitlist decisions?"

And if your child is declined: "I'm not appealing, I'm trying to understand. What was the deciding factor?"

All three are answerable. Almost nobody asks any of them.

ON WAITLISTS

A waitlist is not a ranked list. There is no number. Schools genuinely cannot tell you where your child sits, because when a place opens they look for who fits what the class now needs.

A director of admissions and financial aid at one of the most selective schools in the country has described waitlists as students the school really thought would make a great impact, and said that with unlimited spaces they would have taken them immediately.

That's also why strong applicants get waitlisted. Schools don't know their yield when they build the class in February, so they hold a list as insurance. It isn't a verdict on your child.

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I'm not an admissions consultant. This is general information drawn from what admissions directors and educational consultants say publicly about how the process works. Every school is different, so verify specifics with the schools on your list.

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It's 7:40 in the morning. Your child is on the floor, or in bed, or locked in the bathroom saying their stomach hurts. Again.

You have twenty minutes to decide whether to push, or let them stay home.

Here's what nobody tells you about that decision. Both options feel wrong because both options are wrong on their own. Letting them stay home works today and makes tomorrow harder. Forcing them in without understanding why can make the whole thing worse.

So this video isn't about which to pick. It's about what's actually driving it, because the research is clear that the reason determines the response, and most parents are working without it.

CHAPTERS

00:00 The 7:40 decision

00:50 It's not truancy, and the difference matters

02:00 How common, and when it becomes a real problem

02:50 The four reasons, and why the reason decides everything

04:10 The trap, and it isn't your fault

05:10 The stomachaches are real

06:00 What actually works, honestly

07:10 What to do this week

THE TERM TO ASK FOR

There's a questionnaire clinicians use called the School Refusal Assessment Scale, Revised. Twenty-four questions, answered by both parent and child, and it identifies which of four functions is driving the behavior.

Ask for it by name. That one request will change the quality of the conversation you have with a professional.

WHEN IT'S A REAL PROBLEM, NOT A BAD WEEK

Researchers use concrete thresholds:

Missing at least 25% of school time for two weeks or more.

Or severe difficulty attending for two weeks with real disruption to family life.

Or ten or more days absent in any fifteen-week period.

If you're at or near any of those, this isn't a phase to wait out.

THE THING TO KNOW ABOUT PROGRESS

A review of eight trials found that psychosocial interventions significantly improved attendance but did not significantly reduce anxiety during the assessment period.

Attendance improves before feelings do. So if your child goes back to school and still says they hate it, that isn't failure. That's the normal shape of progress, and knowing it in advance will stop you pulling back too early.

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I'm a podcast host, not a clinician. This is general information to help parents understand what they're dealing with and ask better questions. It is not a treatment plan or medical advice about your child. School refusal is frequently connected to anxiety or depression and is best addressed with a qualified mental health professional. If you are worried about your child's safety, contact your pediatrician or a mental health professional the same day.

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There's a systematic review of research on parent-teacher conferences, and it found something that isn't in any of the "20 questions to ask" articles.

The conference is not a neutral meeting between two equals. The teacher is the person in charge, the person positioned as the expert, and the person who controls what gets discussed and for how long. Parents try to reframe the story being told, and in the words of that review, not always with success.

So the problem isn't that parents don't know what to ask. It's that they walk into a meeting where someone else sets the agenda, and then get twelve minutes.

Here's how to work with that instead of against it.

In this video: the email to send three days beforehand and why it changes everything, the filter to apply to every question you're considering, the five questions worth your minutes, the one almost nobody asks that can get your child help this month, and what to do if the teacher raises a concern.

CHAPTERS

00:00 The conference is not a meeting between equals

01:00 The three minutes that change everything

02:15 The filter for every question

02:50 The five questions worth asking

04:00 The question almost nobody asks

05:00 If something is wrong

05:45 The five minutes afterward

06:30 One thing for older kids

07:00 What to do this week

THE EMAIL TO SEND THREE DAYS BEFORE

"Hi, looking forward to Thursday. Before we meet, two things that might be useful. At home, they've been taking about two hours on twenty minutes of homework and getting upset about it. And they've mentioned a few times that they don't have anyone to sit with at lunch. I'd love to hear what you're seeing on both. Thank you."

It puts your information into the meeting before the teacher builds the agenda, and it gives them time to notice rather than answer cold.

THE QUESTION ALMOST NOBODY ASKS

"Can my child get accommodations in class without having an IEP or a 504 plan?"

Often, yes. A teacher can move a seat, give extra processing time, break instructions into steps, or check in before independent work. None of that requires paperwork. It requires someone asking.

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I'm a podcast host, not an educator. This is general information to help you use a short meeting well, not advice about your specific child or school.

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A child who disrupts a classroom gets attention within a week. A child who is quietly drowning can go years before anyone asks a single question.

Here are two numbers that show it.

In community studies, where researchers screen whole populations rather than waiting for someone to raise a hand, boys outnumber girls with ADHD by roughly three to one.

In clinics, among children actually referred for assessment, that ratio runs from about five to one up to sixteen to one.

Same condition. The gap between those numbers isn't biology. It's who gets noticed.

In this video I go through why the diagnostic criteria were built around boys, what a 2021 study found about where girls end up instead of an ADHD assessment, why the standard teacher rating scales miss quiet girls almost by design, and what to actually say when you request an evaluation.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Two numbers that explain everything

00:45 A real disclaimer

01:15 The criteria were built around boys

02:30 Where girls end up instead

03:55 What it actually looks like

05:00 Why the standard screening misses her

05:55 The number that convinced me

06:30 What to actually do

THE THING TO SAY DIFFERENTLY

Describe effort, not outcomes.

Don't say "she's doing fine in school." Say "she's doing fine, it takes her three hours a night, and she falls apart on Sundays."

The second one is the information a clinician actually needs.

SOURCES

Klefsjö et al., 2021, Nordic Journal of Psychiatry, on the road to diagnosis in girls and boys with ADHD.

Skoglund et al., 2024, Swedish population register study on sex differences in ADHD presentation and referral.

Mowlem et al., on sex differences in referral thresholds and the role of disruptive behavior in diagnosis.

Bassok, Hinshaw, and others on prevalence patterns in childhood and adulthood.

DSM-IV to DSM-5 reclassification of ADHD from Disruptive Behavior Disorders to Neurodevelopmental Disorders, 2013.

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Dates shown are for the 2027-28 admissions cycle. Always verify on each school's own site before you rely on them.

I looked at two of the most prestigious private schools in this region. Sidwell Friends in DC and Gilman in Baltimore. They're an hour apart.

Almost nothing about their application processes matched.

Different deadlines. Different testing. One considers the ISEE. The other currently doesn't accept it at all. One tells you not to send teacher recommendation forms before November 1st. One has the application due in December but recommendations not until January, which catches people out every year.

If you assume private school applications work the same way everywhere, that assumption is going to cost you money, or a Saturday, or a spot.

This video walks through the whole process: which test your child actually needs by grade, why the teacher recommendation sinks more applications than anything else, how financial aid runs on its own separate track, and the questions to ask on a tour that most parents never think of.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Two schools, an hour apart, nothing in common

01:00 They're building a class, not ranking your child

01:45 Which test your child needs, by grade

04:00 The recommendation problem, and a contradiction worth understanding

05:30 A real timeline, month by month

07:00 Financial aid, need-blind vs need-aware, and the real cost

08:30 The parent statement, the interview, and the child's visit

09:30 Four questions to ask on the tour

10:30 The mistakes, and two things to do today

THE THING THAT SINKS THE MOST APPLICATIONS

No school reviews your file until it's complete. Not mostly complete. Complete. If one teacher recommendation hasn't arrived, your application isn't late in a forgiving way. It isn't being read.

And the recommendation is the one piece entirely outside your control.

Tell the teacher in September, even if you won't send the form until November. Give them one email with every school, every deadline, and every link. Then two weeks before the deadline, confirm with the receiving school that it arrived. Not with the teacher. The school.

TWO THINGS TO DO THIS WEEK

1. Email your child's teachers and give them a heads up that forms are coming.

2. Pull up the admissions page for every school on your list. Not a ranking site. The school's own page. The dates change annually and they do not match each other.

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Your child is struggling at school and someone told you to ask for an IEP. Or maybe a 504. Nobody explained the difference, including the school.

Here's the simplest way to think about it: a 504 changes the environment. An IEP changes the instruction. If your child can learn the same way as everyone else but needs barriers removed, that's a 504. If they need to be taught differently, that's an IEP.

But the qualification bars are different heights, and that trips a lot of families up. Your child can be denied an IEP and still qualify for a 504. ADHD can go either way, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

In this video I walk through which one your child actually qualifies for, how to start the evaluation process the right way, the two Maryland deadline clocks most parents never hear about, and what changed in federal special education oversight this summer.

On that last part: your child's rights did not change. IDEA is still law. Section 504 is still law. But enforcement capacity did change, and that means your documentation matters more than it did a year ago.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Your child is struggling and nobody explained the difference

01:18 IEP vs 504: the one distinction that matters

02:42 Who qualifies for which (and why ADHD goes both ways)

04:19 What schools don't usually volunteer about cost

06:21 How to request an evaluation, and the two clocks in Maryland

07:48 What changed in special education this summer

09:47 So which one do you ask for?

THE EXACT WORDS TO USE

"I am requesting a full evaluation to determine whether my child is eligible for special education services under IDEA. Please treat this as a formal written request."

Send it by email. Keep the sent copy. Write down the date. A written request starts a legal clock. A hallway conversation starts nothing.

MARYLAND TIMELINES

60 calendar days from your written consent to complete the evaluation.

And a second clock most parents never hear about: 90 days from the written referral. The referral is the earlier date, so that time is already running.

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Your kid's teacher is looking at 26 faces. Here's how to make sure yours isn't the one they misread.

Carol Muleta of The Parenting 411 has raised twin sons who are now 26, and she has a habit most parents never think of: she emailed every teacher at the start of the school year, before there was ever a problem. Not to complain. To introduce herself, say what her child was interested in, and quietly flag what he struggled with.

Because a teacher who sees loose papers falling out of a notebook might read that as a kid who doesn't care. A teacher who got a two-line email in September reads it as a kid working on organization, with parents who are paying attention.

We got into a lot more than that. What to do when your daughter is dealing with the kind of subtle meanness that never quite rises to something you can report. The exact three-step script Carol taught her sons for standing up for themselves. Why after-school meltdowns happen and what to change about the first twenty minutes at home. And the question I've been wrestling with myself: what do you do when your child is emotionally years ahead of her classmates, and does skipping a grade actually solve it?

Carol's answer to that last one surprised me, because she tried it with her own son and it didn't work.

CHAPTERS

00:00 The email most parents never send

01:14 Welcome, Carol

01:52 Where confidence actually gets built

03:32 Girls can be mean with words

04:32 The three-step script for standing up for yourself

06:00 When the bullying is an eye roll you can't report

07:49 The teenage years and fitting in

10:34 Screen time, empathy, and why community matters

12:56 How to make the teacher your partner in September

14:42 Why they hold it together at school and fall apart at home

15:37 Letting them take the armor off

17:33 The "I wonder" technique for getting them to open up

19:35 What a healthy boundary actually looks like

21:52 When your child is more mature than everyone in the room

25:11 Skip a grade, switch schools, or homeschool?

27:47 Connection before correction

THREE THINGS TO TRY THIS WEEK

1. Send the September email. Two lines. What your child loves, what they're working on.
2. Ask what they need in the first twenty minutes after school. Snack, yard time, or straight into homework. Let them decide.
3. Swap "how was your day" for "I wonder if you felt left out when they went off to play." It gives them a word for the feeling and lets them correct you.

   GUEST Carol Muleta, The Parenting 411 Website

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Are you struggling with fatigue, mood shifts, or stubborn weight gain? In this essential episode, we dive deep into women's health, hormones, and endocrine function to uncover how to balance hormones naturally for optimal wellness.

We explore the silent impact of stress on hormonal balance, breaking down the common signs of high cortisol and how chronic stress wreaks havoc on your body. Our discussion simplifies complex topics like hormone replacement therapy (HRT) for menopause, female testosterone levels, and the critical PCOS insulin resistance connection. You will also learn the science behind cycle syncing for period health and how hidden toxins in your daily environment affect your fertility and thyroid. If you are ready to take control of your body, reverse hormonal imbalance, and master foundational health practices, this episode is a must-watch!

We’ll cover:

• Understanding cortisol and its direct impact on weight, sleep, and anxiety.

• The real pros and cons of hormone replacement therapy in women's health.

• How cycle syncing can help you align your diet and workouts with your menstrual cycle.

• Navigating PCOS, insulin resistance, and natural ways to manage symptoms.

• The truth about female testosterone and why low or high levels cause issues.

• How environmental toxins and everyday endocrine disruptors ruin your hormonal health.

Chapters:

00:00 Understanding Cortisol and Stress

06:49 Hormone Replacement Therapy and Menopause

13:37 Cycle Syncing and Hormonal Health

18:08 PCOS and Insulin Connection

25:22 Female Testosterone and Hormonal Imbalance

32:34 Impact of Environment on Hormonal Health

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Are schools quietly failing our brightest minds? In this episode, host Rishanka Jones sits down with renowned education expert Dr. Jonathan Plucker to expose a hard truth: high-potential students are being missed in plain sight, and the long-term cost of academic stagnation is bigger than most parents or schools realize.

Dr. Plucker breaks down the "anti-excellence bias" deeply embedded in the education system—explaining why schools too often reward baseline remediation over true talent development, leaving advanced learners bored, under-challenged, and quietly disengaging from the classroom.

Whether you are a parent wondering if your child is being pushed enough, an educator fighting for classroom equity, or a school leader looking for practical, low-cost solutions, this conversation will completely reshape how you view intelligence, ability, and opportunity.

WHAT YOU'LL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE:
• The Dangerous Myth: Why assuming "bright students will rise naturally" is actively hurting kids.
• Universal Screening: The simple shift that uncovers far more hidden talent than subjective teacher nominations ever will.
• Flexible Readiness Grouping: How to effectively serve classrooms with wildly different learning levels without breaking the school budget.
• Beyond "Gifted": Redefining the labels we use and how language shapes institutional expectations.
• Twice-Exceptional (2e) Learners: How to identify and support brilliant students who also face learning differences or neurodivergence.
• Real-World Life Skills: Why fostering self-sufficiency and introducing concepts like personal finance education are vital for long-term student success.
• Technology’s Role: Leveraging modern tools to prevent intellectual stagnation and create real pathways for acceleration.

Dr. Plucker makes a compelling, evidence-based case that excellence and equity are not opposites. Discover how schools can immediately start finding and serving advanced learners well—without waiting for massive budget overhauls.

📌 KEY TAKEAWAYS:
• Overcoming the institutional anti-excellence bias.
• Implementing universal screening to remove bias from talent identification.
• Balancing equity and excellence to give every single child a fair shot.
• Fostering an inclusive mindset that creates immediate opportunity.
• Combating the long-term psychological and emotional effects of student stagnation.

🕒 CHAPTERS:
00:00 The Myth of Natural Talent in School
02:22 Why Universal Screening Finds Hidden Talent
04:46 What Is Flexible Readiness Grouping?
07:16 Balancing Equity and Academic Excellence
09:19 How Parents Can Advocate for Advanced Learners
11:55 Redefining "Gifted and Talented" Education
14:13 Using Technology for Student Acceleration
16:37 Examples of Inclusive Talent Development
24:01 Preventing Boredom and Burnout in Smart Kids
25:05 Long-Term Effects of Academic Stagnation
27:37 The Hidden Cost of Wasted Student Potential
31:53 Challenges in Twice-Exceptional (2e) Education
34:46 Supporting Twice-Exceptional Students in Classrooms
37:33 Raising Advanced Learners: Excellence at Home
40:18 What Does a Flourishing Student Look Like?
43:42 Future of Inclusive and Equitable Education

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The conversation delves into the concept of pluralism in education policy, highlighting the challenges in the current education system, the role of curriculum and school culture, social cohesion, enforcing a pluralistic education system, concerns about democracy and fundamentalism, and the comparison between private and public education in the UK. The conversation explores the complexities of education systems, including school oversight, charter school performance, inclusion, funding, curriculum, pluralism, parental choice, and class size. It delves into the impact of teacher quality and challenges traditional assumptions about class size.

Takeaways

• Pluralism in education policy offers a diverse and nimble structure for public education, challenging the traditional monolithic system.
• The role of curriculum and school culture plays a significant role in student success and should be a key consideration for parents and policymakers. Pluralistic education systems offer a mosaic of schools with varying oversight and accountability measures.
• Charter schools have the flexibility to close if they underperform, unlike traditional district schools.
• The impact of class size on student outcomes is not as significant as commonly believed.

Chapters

• 00:00 Understanding Pluralism in Education Policy
• 03:19 Challenges in the Current Education System
• 04:20 The Role of Curriculum and School Culture
• 12:13 Social Cohesion and Pluralistic Education
• 17:22 Enforcing a Pluralistic Education System
• 19:52 Concerns about Democracy and Fundamentalism
• 22:57 Private vs. Public Education in the UK
• 23:56 School Oversight and Accountability
• 24:19 Charter School Performance and Closure
• 26:47 Inclusion and Equality
• 31:55 Funding and Resource Allocation
• 36:02 Curriculum and Instructional Practices
• 39:22 Pluralistic Education System
• 42:19 Parental Choice and Support
• 47:27 Class Size and Teacher Quality