Access misused is when we abuse the audience,a view,an allowance to get in to a particular place.it sometimes maybe as petty as talking where you are supposed to listen,or even when you put your feet up in someones cofee table or even messing someones fridge arrangement becuase you are been allowed and didnt respect the chance accorded to you!

Change needs to be given: Chance,Time,Ground & An audience!

We have inadvertently cripled others bu making them constantly come to is for things that we could teach them and allow them be Independent.compeletely devoid of us and allowing us (depended on)..to have more time on our selves,to learn more.We have made people think of us more as solvers for even trivial matters that they can handle on their own.

Tea set Theory is a description of how we relate.The tea set represent either a cup or Kettle: which one is only supposed to pour,and the other to receive and none should be in question or doubt of their duty..just like friendships one has to know their purpose in it,either to receive or pour in to and be okay with that

It is an analogy of cup(person),content(character) which for a long time we have tried to separate the two.Character maketh man is a common saying but what if,we allow people change? Won't be the same ones to say he was bad but now he is a good person(not a bad person with good character 🤔

These are the many acts that we do(good or bad)..when we sometimes wonder what happens to us continuosly unexplained and tend to forget that which we did.sometimes it stays longer before it changes because we don't realise it is the reap/harvest of our social afore input.

Many are the times we pick the faults in people(so do we have them).On the flip side,when this is observed we actually can get some attributes which are admirable,also can be immulated to make our selves better only if we observe.Kei apple have some succulent fruits!

The very many times that we are needed to practice wisdom.Being able to hear and hold information for the better good.Because the reaction,the matter and the people sometimes are better left as they are for the damage might be bigger or even the matter might not be a non issue...

In life we all grow,and acquire a different interests.This needs to be accepted by all our former socials because we might always stay stuck in a past that needs to be accepted by both parties(you and I ) that we have either grown or out grown or even we have acquired new activities over time!

It's a person's take on who as friends should one have around them.As hard as it may seem or our difference in preference of friendships,we should consider OPY (Older,Peer,Younger)