If you grew up being the responsible one, this episode is for you. 

In this episode I am joined by my sister Liz to discuss what Eldest Daughter Syndrome really means. From growing up too fast and carrying the invisible load, to the guilt, burnout, and people-pleasing that follows us into adulthood. 

We get into parentification, family expectations, and how to start separating who you are from the role you were given. We also talk about setting boundaries, practicing self-compassion, and rewriting generational patterns without losing the strengths that come with being the eldest like leadership, resilience, and empathy. 

With real stories and honest conversations, this is your reminder that you’re allowed to rest. Your worth isn’t defined by how much you do for others.

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🤔 Why are so many people discovering they have ADHD or autism in adulthood, while others are labelled as children before they're fully understood?

🎧 In this episode of Searching For Myself, we explore the growing conversation around ADHD, autism, AuDHD, neurodiversity, and SpecialEducational Needs (SEN) through the lens of Gen Z 🌍, race ✊🏾, education 🎒, and mental health 💚.

📱 Social media has helped normalise conversations about neurodiversity, making it easier for many people to recognise themselves and seek support 🤝. But has increased awareness also blurred the lines between self-identification 🪞 and clinical diagnosis 🩺? And why are Black childrenmore likely to experience both overdiagnosis and underdiagnosis depending on how they present?

🧩 We unpack how trauma 💔, culture 🌍, unconscious bias ⚖️, and the education system 🏫 can shape the way children are assessed, supported, or overlooked.

From Black boys being disproportionatelylabelled as disruptive 🚸 to autistic girls masking their struggles 🎭 for years, this conversation askswhether the system is truly recognising children's needs—or simply responding to behaviour.

💬 Join us for an honest, thought-provoking discussion about identity , belonging 🤝, diagnosis 🧠, and what meaningful support should really look like. 🎙️✨ 

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What’s left of you when the camera’s off? We’re in the same boat — scrolling, performing, chasing “authentic” content that doesn’t feel authentic at all. From main character syndrome to brat summer to demure fall, we’ve turned life into a script.

This week I’m joined by my incredible brother @mikeleeonlone. We get real about the authenticity economy, dopamine detoxing your brain, and what happens when you stop living for the comment section. Try the 30-Day No Grid test: Would you still gym, travel, rest… if you couldn’t post it? If the answer’s no, you’re not living. You’re content farming. Stream us on YouTube, spotify and apple podcast. 

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You are not one person. You’re five. Work-you. Online-you. Group-chat-you. Family-dinner-you. Alone-you.  At what point does “reading the room” become losing the plot?

This episode of Searching for myself ft my friends Helen and Philip. We  exposes The Split Self — how code switching, likes, and feedback loops quietly fracture who you are. We dig into the social mirror effect, why performing for perception breeds anxiety, and how your brain starts choosing optics over values.

The fix isn’t “just be yourself.” It’s this: Other people’s perception is data, not direction. 

Learn the 3 anchors to stop drifting and stay unified — even when the world sees you differently in every room.

Millennials were told to hustle, achieve, and figure it out, but a lot of us hit our 30s feeling off track and wondering why the plan never quite fit. In this episode, we’re talking about what it actually means to own your existence instead of waiting for permission to live authentically. We get into why rest, career changes, and setting boundaries don’t need anyone’s approval, and how emotional well-being isn’t a luxury but the foundation for everything else. 

You’ll hear why healing, saying no, and logging off count as growth, how to stop missing your life while you’re busy building it, and why your milestones are still valid even if they don’t look traditional. If you’re tired of measuring yourself against someone else’s timeline, this is your reminder that growth isn’t linear, success isn’t one aesthetic, and you’re allowed to evolve on your own terms.

“What does it actually mean to be a man in a generation that rejects definition?”

I have the honour of interviewing entrepreneur @charlesodt as we tackle the tension Gen Z men are living in — identity confusion, social media pressure, and a lack of real role models. We unpack the crisis of manhood caught between cultural extremes of passivity and toxicity, and why so many young men feel lost or misled.

Then we rebuild the vision: a biblical blueprint for manhood where leadership means service, strength means responsibility, and identity is rooted in Christ. From Jesus as the servant-leader to practical marks of integrity, sacrifice, and discipline — we redefine what strength actually looks like.

We get practical about leadership for today: leading yourself first through habits and discipline, leading in relationships with respect and accountability, and leading in faith by standing firm when it costs you. No fluff — just real, doable steps: build daily discipline, find mentorship, take responsibility in small things.

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Searching for Myself S2E1: kicks off with a qualified psychotherapist (therapywithbuks) to explore all things mental health and how it shows up in everyday life.
*here's what we'll cover"

🧠 Understanding Mental Health 
* Define mental health as emotional, psychological, and social wellbeing
* Explain how it affects thoughts, feelings, and behaviour

💬 What Is Counselling?
* Define counselling as a professional, confidential talking therapy
* Explain the role of a trained counsellor (listening, guiding—not judging)

❌ Challenging Common Myths 
* Myth: “Counselling is only for serious mental illness” 
* Myth: “Talking won’t help” 
* Myth: “It’s a sign of weakness” 

🌱 Benefits of Counselling 
* Provides a safe space to express feelings openly
* Helps identify patterns in thoughts and behaviours
* Teaches coping strategies for stress, anxiety, and challenges
* Builds self-awareness and emotional resilience
* Can improve relationships and communication skills
* Supports personal growth and decision-making

⚠️ Barriers to Seeking Help
* Fear of being judged or misunderstood
* Not knowing what to expect from counselling
* Worries about cost or accessibility

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On this episode of@searchingformyslefpodcast Gyles shares his entrepreneurial journey, sharing the unvarnished truth about what it takes to build something from scratch. 🤯

*Here's what we'll cover:*

1️⃣ *The Spark*: What inspired them to start their business, and how did they take the leap of faith? 🔥
2️⃣ *The Success Equation*: How do they define success, and what metrics do they use to measure it? 🤔
3️⃣ *The Obstacle Course*: The biggest challenge they've faced, and how they fought to overcome it 💪
4️⃣ *The Hard-Won Lessons*: The most important thing they've learned as an entrepreneur, and how it's impacted their business 📈
5️⃣ *The Insider's Guide*: What advice would they give to someone just starting out, and how can you learn from others in the industry? 💡

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 In this episode, we're talking about fitness and how it intersects with our faith. I am joined by Danespinosa who is a personal trainer, faith-based clothing designer and a man of great faith. He shares his insights on how to cultivate a healthy body and a healthy soul.

Topics discussed 

*Prayer and wellness: the connection between faith and physical/mental wellbeing
*The spiritual side of fitness-how physical health can reflect spiritual discipline and stewardship of the body.
*Overcoming Spiritual Dry Spells: Exploring ways to reconnect with faith during challenging times 

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@Danespinosa @espinosapthysiques (personal training) @Kadoshcollective (clothing) 

During this episode we explore the importance of being comfortable with oneself.  Societal pressures can make it challenging to accept ourselves as we are, but embracing our flaws and imperfections is key to self-acceptance. The episode covers:

 *Signs of self-comfort*: Being alone without feeling lonely, accepting flaws, and being okay with silence.
 *Challenges*: Comparison culture, internal critics, fear of rejection, and the difficulty of change.
. *Practices for growth*: Quiet reflection, mirror exercises, journaling, setting boundaries, and walking without distractions.