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It can be difficult for working mothers to manage their duties at home and at work. This week on SecondWind, we have Stacey Hiles on to share her story about raising her children, running a business, and then getting introduced to a company that allows for a better work-life balance. She speaks on the importance of giving back to your community, and how being a Rodan & Fields consultant helps her to help others.

Stacey Hiles is a mom to four, and a business owner. She grew up in Tyler, Tx and attended college at Abilene Christian University. 13 years ago, she found herself going through a divorce, raising children alone and with a business that her ex had run primarily. Her journey was far from easy and she made a huge change in careers after 5 years running that business. Stacey found a company that let her work around her life and help people. It was a leap of faith and took consistency to build what she has today. That was the hard part. Sharing products she loves and helping others do the same is a pleasure. Her passion through life has been volunteering in her community and she has had the privilege of leading some large events. Stacey gives credit to her volunteer experience in preparing her to survive her life transition. Today, she's married to an amazing man. She never thought she'd trust anyone again, but it's possible. Their three older kids are successfully adulting and they have one still at home that's doing great. Stacey has been working at her new business for 9 years and it continues to be a blessing. The ups, downs, twists and turns of life haven't always been easy. Through adversity, we have to keep going, push through, be brave and find joy!

"Another thing I love about not only our skincare, but the company is the diversity, and the inclusion, and the love that everyone feels for each other. We're just a big family." Stacey Hiles

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

• What gave Stacey the confidence to know that she can run a dry cleaning business
• What it was like balancing motherhood and a business after her divorce.
• How she met her husband, and what helped her determine that he is trustworthy
• The insecurities that come with starting a business, and how Stacey was able to get past them
• The types of skin care regimens Rodan & Fields offers for different skin types
• Important information to know about skin cancer
• What makes Rodan & Fields and excellent business for anyone to be a part of

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Though it may be difficult to admit, many of us have trouble managing our finances. This week on SecondWind, we have Bob Wheeler on to talk about how our emotions and money management can be connected, and how money can become a source of contention in a marriage. His background in comedy gives him a unique way of seeing the world and connecting with people in order to give them the life they envisioned for themselves.

Certified CPA and CORE Energetic practitioner, Inspirational Speaker, Author, and CFO of the world-famous Comedy Store in Los Angeles Bob Wheeler inspires people with his financial acuity, compassion and genuine energy, sharing his simple and effective concept, "The Money Nerve" regarding emotions and money. He teaches people from all walks of life how to create a healthy relationship with money. Bob is a popular speaker, workshop presenter, thought leader, and TV / podcast guest.

His crusade for personal growth and deeper awareness developed from his thirty years of helping clients, while baring his soul onstage as a stand up comedian. Digging down to find clarity and purpose on a personal level motivated Bob to help others to explore their past without judgment and to provide insight for people to recalibrate their mental mindset. Knowing that shame or personal memories about money can affect numbers-based budgets, Bob's passion to help others gain an understanding about emotional triggers – that often sabotage financial decisions – is transforming lives for thousands of people.

Bringing emotions to the center of personal finance conversations sets Bob apart from other financial experts. His book, The Money Nerve: Navigating the Emotions of Money, explores how negative emotions and habits surrounding money impacts people, and then guides people to determine their life values, be proactive, explore unhealthy emotional habits and start making intentional decisions. Integrating an intentional mind-body balance of energy, certified Radical Aliveness and CORE Energetic Practitioner, Bob has conducted numerous Proactive Abundance and Money at its CORE seminars through the USA & Canada.

"I think each of us wants to have an impact on the world. I think each of us deep down want to be the best versions of ourselves and we want to make a difference. And I think all of us are starved for community and we want connection..." Bob Wheeler

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

• How we can tell that we hold our trauma and emotions in our bodies
• How CORE Energetics & Radical Aliveness has helped Bob express his vulnerability
• What Bob learned when he separated men and women in his workshops, and asked them to talk about money.
• Couples often don't have an equal say in how money is spent and saved within their household
• What one of the biggest takeaways from his workshop is
• What Bob used to do early in his comedic career to help in case he had a bad performance, & what he does with a negative reaction
• One of the hardest lessons he had to learn about accomplishments

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A near death experience can have a profound effect on how you view your health and life's purpose. My guest Anita Pirkle can relate to having a life threatening illness, surviving, and finding her new mission in life. In this devastating yet inspiring story on battling Covid-19, we are left with a lesson on the significance of prayer, having a positive mindset, and healthy diet.

Anita Pirkle was born and raised in New Jersey and graduated from Purdue University. She was married for 61 years, and has 3 children and 2 grandchildren. They moved to Atlanta 40 years ago, and have been sharing a product called Juice Plus for 25 years. With all the many nutrients Anita has been putting in her body, she was in excellent health. That is until Christmas Day when 7 members of her family were exposed to Covid-19. Only 3 of them were hospitalized. Her daughter, Dana, her husband, Carl and herself. It was one of the most terrifying experiences she has ever had. Dana was released in 6 days and Anita was released in 14 days. Her husband, Carl, died after 8 days. One night she heard her doctor tell a nurse that her lungs were not sustaining the oxygen, and he didn't think Anita would make it. She awoke at 2:00am in a sheer panic. She had to talk to someone so she called Dana. Anita didn't know what she said, but when she closed her eyes she prayed harder than she had ever prayed. Carl had just died and Anita knew she had to survive. She asked God and Carl to help her lungs heal and pour healing light over her body. Anita then went to sleep. The next morning she woke up a different person. It was a miracle. She knew she was going to survive and go home. The doctors and nurses were amazed at how much Anita had changed. From lying in bed dying to sitting up living. Everyday she grew stronger. Her mission is to tell people they have choices. Being grateful for everything puts you in a different frame of mind.

"God really knows I have more to do. I have a message. I have more to do in this life. He's not ready for me to go over." Anita Pirkle

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

• The Pirkle family's experience with Covid-19
• What Anita Pirkle credits to saving her life
• What Juice Plus is, and how it played a part in Anita's recovery
• How it felt to be grieving in the hospital and live alone for the first time
• Anita's daughter-in-law's idea on how to help with grieving at home
• Why Anita isn't worried about not being able to visit her loved one's resting place
• A good way to process pain and capture moments

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Dating today looks very different from how it was when many of us were coming up. We now have the internet to help us find our soulmate, and my guest Dr. Joan Bragar has first hand experience with the wonders of online dating. Most people desire to have a partner to commit to, but for those who went through a gray divorce, dating again can be a challenge that a dating coach can guide you through.

Dr. Joan Bragar is the author of Never Too Late for Love: The Successful Woman's Guide to Online Dating in the Second Half of Life.

Joan is a certified relationship coach who helps women to find happy healthy love in the second half of life. She was happily married at age sixty-two to Marc, whom she met on Match.com. They are living a full life working, staying fit, and enjoying their many children and grandchildren.

She has worked as a professor of leadership at Boston University and as an executive coach to business owners at Harvard Business School.

Joan earned her AB, EdM and EdD degrees from Harvard University. She has taught leadership around the world in universities, businesses, and health ministries.

"Dating is a practice in asking for what you want and finding out how they respond" Dr. Joan Bragar

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

• Dr. Bragar's message for women who are giving up on finding love in their midlife or after divorce
• Why some women feel the need to be an overachiever
• The importance of vulnerability while dating
• The difference between how men and women experience attraction towards one another
• The beauty in friendship before intimacy
• How long you should wait to marry your partner, what to look for and why
• How to rebuild trust after it has been broken

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Aging and preparing for retirement can be sensitive topics to navigate through with your parents or even your peers. With the help of my guests, Amanda Lambert & Leslie Eckford, these grim topics became more pleasant by discussing the variety of ways the elderly can be taken care of. In this episode, we take a look at the negativity we associate with the word "old" and how we should all work to make sure the elderly feel seen and heard.

Leslie Eckford is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and RN with a long practice in mental health and geriatric health. She is co-creator and co-author with Amanda Lambert of mindfulaging.com and three books. Leslie has been a long distance caregiver to her aging parents. As her own children become young adults, Leslie is determined that the "empty nest" is the "empty NEXT."

Amanda Lambert grew up on the east coast and went to undergraduate school at University of Massachusetts in Boston. She migrated to Salt Lake City, Utah over 25 years ago and received her Masters at University of Utah. She spent several years working as a geriatric care manager and professional guardian and started her own geriatric care management company about 4 years ago. In addition to co-authoring three books with Leslie Eckford, Amanda is a full time freelance writer on topics related to aging, end of life, caregiving, home accessibility and senior living. Amanda's particular area of interest is how we can age with good mental and physical health. Her parents live in Salt Lake City in independent senior living and her sister is here as well. She enjoys hiking out with her trainer, reading, family time and exploring healthy cooking ideas.

"We all have wishes. We have a life that we wish for, and we have a life based in reality. And when we put a lot of effort and thought we can make a life that is closer to our wished for life, but it doesn't always work. One of the things that Amanda and I are really emphasizing in this book is you have to keep an open mind. Some things are going to fit, and some things aren't." Leslie Eckford

"You may fantasize about this wonderful living situation, and then you may find that there are parts of it that you just didn't anticipate and that's just part of the process" Amanda Lambert

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

• We have more options for assisting the elderly than we used to
• Why people are gravitating away from the concept of assisted living
• Our society puts an emphasis on youth and denies aging
• A lot of aging women are starting to do home sharing with like minded people
• Making preparations for your later years helps take the burden off of your adult children
• Women often give up paying jobs to be a caregiver for their families
• Many people, especially women, say that they often feel invisible as they age

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With the rise of internet pornography, more people have access to sexually explicit content, and are more susceptible to develop an addiction. In this episode, we will have an informative conversation with Rosie Makinney on the dangers of porn addiction in a relationship, and how you can move forward from this as a couple. We dive into why she also went into recovery for her husband's addiction, and why some women have a crisis of faith in these relationships.

Rosie is an author, podcaster and founder of Fight For Love Ministries. Her heart is for women in relationships affected by porn addiction, especially those in the lonely and confusing stage between discovery and recovery. She grew up in a small seaside town in Yorkshire, England, and now lives in a small seaside town in California. Her garden is her happy place, and in it she has planted a seed for every woman in her support group. Rosie's mission is to give women hope that a porn-free marriage is possible, and to educate and empower them with the faith and the facts to help them get there.

"Pornography is not actually the problem, it is the solution to the problem which is an intimacy disorder" Rosie Makinney

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

• The gender demographic of porn watchers, and how the global sex industry is trying to change women's views on sex
• The shame attached to watching porn is nonexistent for some people, and prevents others from seeking help
• Why men and women are affected differently from viewing adult entertainment
• Pornography programs women to accept and expect to be degraded
• There is no profile or personality type that is more likely to be addicted to internet porn
• 75% of wives of porn addicts blame themselves for their partners addiction
• The red flags women need to watch out for to determine if their partner is watching porn

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It takes courage to go against the expectations of others, and follow your own dreams. My guest for this week's episode, Linda Pavek, has had her life planned out for her as a child. In her adulthood, she decided to take her life into her own hands. As a successful business owner, caretaker, and recent college graduate, Linda is an example of what can be possible with a plan & dedication.

Linda Pavek was born in Duluth, MN. She is 64 years of age, and owns two businesses located in North Branch, MN (BeasyTrans Systems, Inc. and CopperTouch, LLC). She is married with no children, has three spoiled dogs, and also was an only child. Linda considers her family to be whomever she meets that she feels a kindred spirit with. She is a caretaker for her husband, who is a stroke victim, her Mother, who is 91 with severe dementia, and her 95 year old amazing Aunt who still drives and lives independently. Pavek graduated from college four years ago with two BS degrees in business and marketing. It was a lifelong dream to get her college degrees, and she did it with a 3.98 GPA which she is very proud of.

"Some people age faster because they think they're old." Linda Pavek

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

• How school took away Linda's love of music & pushed her to switch her major
• What she discovered when she returned to playing music for pleasure
• Linda's perspective on life, spirituality, and how to move forward from tragedies
• A message for people who feel they are too old to become an entrepreneur
• How coming from a stoic family influenced how Linda expressed her emotion
• Being introduced to death and learning how to grieve in order to find peace
• What to know before becoming a caretaker, and dealing with a parent with severe dementia

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Finding ways to remain active is an essential part of our physical wellness journey. Our guest, an award-winning personal trainer Julio Salado, is on to discuss how we can get on the track to a healthier lifestyle. By sharing that he wasn't athletically gifted as a child, we are all reminded that with hard work, we too can achieve our fitness goals.

Julio Salado is an award-winning personal trainer and the founder of Fitnessfoundry.net, a leading online resource for health and wellness. For over fifteen years, Mr. Salado has guided countless individuals from all levels of fitness to achieve their body sculpting and personal training goals. His unique blend of Western exercise science and holistic arts has been featured on numerous TV shows, in print, and online. Mr. Salado also is a licensed EMT, continuing education provider and consultant for team development and personal training business.

His passion for being the best is carried outside the gym and into his community through his social networking with other successful health and fitness professionals including businesses that have a similar mission.

"Physical wellness leads to empowerment, which leads to mental health benefits." Julio Salado

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

• What Coach Julio means when he says he offers his clients unconditional support
• How to begin your weight loss journey for long term results
• What makes Coach Julio's training unique
• Pain is not a motivator, and you have to listen to your body before doing any physical activity
• How consuming sugar has a lasting effect on your body
• Why people lose so much weight at the beginning of their weight loss journey, but lose less weight with time
• The sequence of areas we notice weight loss on our bodies

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Everyday we see the effects of the pandemic, and not being able to communicate the way we're used to taking a toll on our mind, body, and spirit. In this episode, the multi-talented Danielle Findlay talks about the benefits of incorporating movement like Pilates or yoga into our routine, and how she is able to use her gift of communication to help others navigate through their own struggles. She leaves us with a challenge to find 3 things that we are grateful for which is an excellent step to achieving a more positive outlook on life.

Owner of Danielle Findlay Pilates & Wellness, Danielle is a Pilates teacher, yoga instructor, podcast co-host, and energy practitioner. In 2018 after leaving a 20+ year corporate career, she discovered her #1 true love and purpose within her studio guiding bodies through the magic of movement and supporting others on their journey of healing and wellness.

Danielle is a natural communicator and loves to share, connect, and empower others to live their best lives. Her podcast, The Cauldron Podcast, is her favorite platform for expression and she loves the weekly conversations that take place around the podcast airways.

Danielle loves to engage in conversation and never shies away from topics like sex, personal relationship issues or physical and mental health concerns, she is always open to sharing her personal experiences of pain, trauma and heartbreak. She has a supportive ear, is a wise soul, and believes in the importance of others feeling seen and heard.

Danielle lives in the heart of the Canadian Rocky Mountains in Canmore, Alberta with her husband, Robb and their cat Louis and when not in her studio she will most likely be on a travel adventure, taking in a round of golf or relaxing by there with a book in hand.

Multi-talented and skilled, never with judgement, always with support, ask her anything and get ready to laugh, be motivated and inspired - this girl lives her best life and wants to help you live yours too!

"The real beautiful magic happens when you work one-on-one because when we move our body, emotion will come to the surface and we have choices. We can either suppress it, move it, we can numb it, we can not even acknowledge it, but what I remind my clients is that in the movements that's going to happen there is an opportunity for emotion to come to the surface and for it to be embraced, be acknowledged, and then release it." Danielle Findlay

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

• What it is about Pilates that draws Danielle in
• How men and women differ in how they approach Pilates
• The difference between the experiences Danielle has with yoga and Pilates
• What inspired her podcast, and how it helps people get through the pandemic
• The naivety and the numbing that happens with acknowledging the effects of the pandemic
• How we can tell when we're not in alignment
• Everyone can move in some way, we just have to find what works best for us

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Many have attempted to answer the age old question: What is the secret to a happy marriage? Our guest on this week's episode of SecondWind, Bill O'Herron, reveals how we can enter relationships with a better understanding of ourselves, and sustain these relationships with emotional intelligence. What we take away from this conversation is a greater understanding of the significance our childhood plays in our romantic relationships, and the role that masculine and feminine energy play in the human experience.

Bill O'Herron is a corporate executive and practicing clinical social worker (weekends and evenings). He tries to use all the insights and experiences that he has garnered from the 46 countries he visited, his 34 years of financial sales management, 24 years of marriage and parenting 3 amazing daughters, 15 years of counseling clients, and most importantly his 8,500 hours (25 years) of meditation, to help his clients better understand themselves, deepen their relationships, and fully complete their lives. Bill grew up in NJ, earned a BA in English from Middlebury College and an MSW from Columbia Univ.

O'Herron has been researching self in relationships for 20+ years. All the work they have done shows that relationships fail for one single reason: a lack of understanding of one's own emotions and reaction patterns created in childhood. His work with archetypes demonstrates also that relationships are not a single experience or dyad between two people, but are eight unique relationships occurring at the same time.

Three key concepts Bill uses which helps accelerate his client's work on themselves are Stand in the Fire, 2nd Law of Thermodynamics at Home, and Relatus.

O'Herron believes our marriages start in 4th grade, when our limbic-emotional body learned, absorbed, and inherited our parents' lives and experiences, and that we are all actually married to our own old, unconscious emotions more so than to our spouse.

Bill believes that working on oneself, which will automatically improve the dynamics of all our relationships, is the most important thing in life, and that what we do right now in reaction to others echoes through posterity, changing who our grandchildren's children become.

"Women see the boy inside the man, and they see the man inside the boy-adult, and they're trying to get him to wake up." Bill O'Herron

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

• A deeper appreciation for feminine energy
• Why Bill doesn't initially ask people he counsels to love themselves
• The reason that women should observe their partner's relationship with their mother
• Why men feel the need to hide their sensitivity
• How to balance your rationality with your emotions and gain emotional intelligence
• Why marriages between young people are more likely to end in divorce
• How experiencing heartbreak is a fundamental part of transitioning into manhood

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