SecondWind with Joyce

It takes courage to go against the expectations of others, and follow your own dreams. My guest for this week's episode, Linda Pavek, has had her life planned out for her as a child. In her adulthood, she decided to take her life into her own hands. As a successful business owner, caretaker, and recent college graduate, Linda is an example of what can be possible with a plan & dedication.

Linda Pavek was born in Duluth, MN. She is 64 years of age, and owns two businesses located in North Branch, MN (BeasyTrans Systems, Inc. and CopperTouch, LLC). She is married with no children, has three spoiled dogs, and also was an only child. Linda considers her family to be whomever she meets that she feels a kindred spirit with. She is a caretaker for her husband, who is a stroke victim, her Mother, who is 91 with severe dementia, and her 95 year old amazing Aunt who still drives and lives independently. Pavek graduated from college four years ago with two BS degrees in business and marketing. It was a lifelong dream to get her college degrees, and she did it with a 3.98 GPA which she is very proud of.

"Some people age faster because they think they're old." Linda Pavek

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

• How school took away Linda's love of music & pushed her to switch her major
• What she discovered when she returned to playing music for pleasure
• Linda's perspective on life, spirituality, and how to move forward from tragedies
• A message for people who feel they are too old to become an entrepreneur
• How coming from a stoic family influenced how Linda expressed her emotion
• Being introduced to death and learning how to grieve in order to find peace
• What to know before becoming a caretaker, and dealing with a parent with severe dementia

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Finding ways to remain active is an essential part of our physical wellness journey. Our guest, an award-winning personal trainer Julio Salado, is on to discuss how we can get on the track to a healthier lifestyle. By sharing that he wasn't athletically gifted as a child, we are all reminded that with hard work, we too can achieve our fitness goals.

Julio Salado is an award-winning personal trainer and the founder of Fitnessfoundry.net, a leading online resource for health and wellness. For over fifteen years, Mr. Salado has guided countless individuals from all levels of fitness to achieve their body sculpting and personal training goals. His unique blend of Western exercise science and holistic arts has been featured on numerous TV shows, in print, and online. Mr. Salado also is a licensed EMT, continuing education provider and consultant for team development and personal training business.

His passion for being the best is carried outside the gym and into his community through his social networking with other successful health and fitness professionals including businesses that have a similar mission.

"Physical wellness leads to empowerment, which leads to mental health benefits." Julio Salado

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

• What Coach Julio means when he says he offers his clients unconditional support
• How to begin your weight loss journey for long term results
• What makes Coach Julio's training unique
• Pain is not a motivator, and you have to listen to your body before doing any physical activity
• How consuming sugar has a lasting effect on your body
• Why people lose so much weight at the beginning of their weight loss journey, but lose less weight with time
• The sequence of areas we notice weight loss on our bodies

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Everyday we see the effects of the pandemic, and not being able to communicate the way we're used to taking a toll on our mind, body, and spirit. In this episode, the multi-talented Danielle Findlay talks about the benefits of incorporating movement like Pilates or yoga into our routine, and how she is able to use her gift of communication to help others navigate through their own struggles. She leaves us with a challenge to find 3 things that we are grateful for which is an excellent step to achieving a more positive outlook on life.

Owner of Danielle Findlay Pilates & Wellness, Danielle is a Pilates teacher, yoga instructor, podcast co-host, and energy practitioner. In 2018 after leaving a 20+ year corporate career, she discovered her #1 true love and purpose within her studio guiding bodies through the magic of movement and supporting others on their journey of healing and wellness.

Danielle is a natural communicator and loves to share, connect, and empower others to live their best lives. Her podcast, The Cauldron Podcast, is her favorite platform for expression and she loves the weekly conversations that take place around the podcast airways.

Danielle loves to engage in conversation and never shies away from topics like sex, personal relationship issues or physical and mental health concerns, she is always open to sharing her personal experiences of pain, trauma and heartbreak. She has a supportive ear, is a wise soul, and believes in the importance of others feeling seen and heard.

Danielle lives in the heart of the Canadian Rocky Mountains in Canmore, Alberta with her husband, Robb and their cat Louis and when not in her studio she will most likely be on a travel adventure, taking in a round of golf or relaxing by there with a book in hand.

Multi-talented and skilled, never with judgement, always with support, ask her anything and get ready to laugh, be motivated and inspired - this girl lives her best life and wants to help you live yours too!

"The real beautiful magic happens when you work one-on-one because when we move our body, emotion will come to the surface and we have choices. We can either suppress it, move it, we can numb it, we can not even acknowledge it, but what I remind my clients is that in the movements that's going to happen there is an opportunity for emotion to come to the surface and for it to be embraced, be acknowledged, and then release it." Danielle Findlay

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

• What it is about Pilates that draws Danielle in
• How men and women differ in how they approach Pilates
• The difference between the experiences Danielle has with yoga and Pilates
• What inspired her podcast, and how it helps people get through the pandemic
• The naivety and the numbing that happens with acknowledging the effects of the pandemic
• How we can tell when we're not in alignment
• Everyone can move in some way, we just have to find what works best for us

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Many have attempted to answer the age old question: What is the secret to a happy marriage? Our guest on this week's episode of SecondWind, Bill O'Herron, reveals how we can enter relationships with a better understanding of ourselves, and sustain these relationships with emotional intelligence. What we take away from this conversation is a greater understanding of the significance our childhood plays in our romantic relationships, and the role that masculine and feminine energy play in the human experience.

Bill O'Herron is a corporate executive and practicing clinical social worker (weekends and evenings). He tries to use all the insights and experiences that he has garnered from the 46 countries he visited, his 34 years of financial sales management, 24 years of marriage and parenting 3 amazing daughters, 15 years of counseling clients, and most importantly his 8,500 hours (25 years) of meditation, to help his clients better understand themselves, deepen their relationships, and fully complete their lives. Bill grew up in NJ, earned a BA in English from Middlebury College and an MSW from Columbia Univ.

O'Herron has been researching self in relationships for 20+ years. All the work they have done shows that relationships fail for one single reason: a lack of understanding of one's own emotions and reaction patterns created in childhood. His work with archetypes demonstrates also that relationships are not a single experience or dyad between two people, but are eight unique relationships occurring at the same time.

Three key concepts Bill uses which helps accelerate his client's work on themselves are Stand in the Fire, 2nd Law of Thermodynamics at Home, and Relatus.

O'Herron believes our marriages start in 4th grade, when our limbic-emotional body learned, absorbed, and inherited our parents' lives and experiences, and that we are all actually married to our own old, unconscious emotions more so than to our spouse.

Bill believes that working on oneself, which will automatically improve the dynamics of all our relationships, is the most important thing in life, and that what we do right now in reaction to others echoes through posterity, changing who our grandchildren's children become.

"Women see the boy inside the man, and they see the man inside the boy-adult, and they're trying to get him to wake up." Bill O'Herron

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

• A deeper appreciation for feminine energy
• Why Bill doesn't initially ask people he counsels to love themselves
• The reason that women should observe their partner's relationship with their mother
• Why men feel the need to hide their sensitivity
• How to balance your rationality with your emotions and gain emotional intelligence
• Why marriages between young people are more likely to end in divorce
• How experiencing heartbreak is a fundamental part of transitioning into manhood

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Grieving the loss of a marriage is a unique type of pain that can be amplified when there are children involved. This week on SecondWind, licensed therapist and divorce coach Jill Barnett Kaufman touches on some of the hardest parts of going through this process such as financial strain, emotional turmoil, and adjusting to co-parenting. Instead of focusing on the past, she offers helpful solutions on how to move forward with this new phase of your life.

Jill Barnett Kaufman is a Divorce Coach, Licensed Therapist, Author & Co-parenting Expert. After she went through her own difficult divorce in 2012, she made it her life's mission to help others not have it so tough. Single parenting with a difficult ex wasn't easy, but she eventually got to a great place in her life and learned so much about the process. Jill has put all that she learned into her book, I'm Getting Divorced, Now What? and the book is the basis for her group coaching program, Thriving Through Divorce. Jill's extensive experience enables her to help her clients and creative solutions to the complex financial and parenting issues in divorce. Her 3 adult children are doing well, and she lives part time in Colorado and part time in New Jersey where she skis, snowshoes, golfs, hikes and bikes. Jill is excited to be getting married in August.

"Once you decide you're getting a divorce, you no longer are in the same relationship with your ex. If you have children you're co parents and you don't have the same expectations..." Jill Barnett Kaufman

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

• The most difficult thing about entering a divorce
• The affect the pandemic had on divorce
• Healthy ways to process your emotions during a divorce
• How Jill has changed from the beginning of her marriage to after her divorce
• Realizing that your partner is not always the only reason for your divorce
• Some of the mistakes people make when going through a divorce
• How you should view co-parenting with your ex-spouse

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Starting a new business can be an exciting yet terrifying decision to make. Our guests for this episode of SecondWind, Deirdre Harter and Carmen Reed-Gilkison, make it their goal to help alleviate the fear that comes with this new career path. Their focus is helping you build a solid foundational business strategy that is rooted in your values. We discuss how women are taught to put ourselves last, and how that presents itself in how we charge for our services.

Carmen Reed-Gilkison, Whole Person Certified Coach, and Deirdre Harter, CPA, and Business Strategy Coach are the Co-Founders of Encore Empire.

We help new and established female entrepreneurs over 40 increase bottom line profits in their online business consistently and holistically by leveraging their past experience, honoring their values, and becoming financially savvy.

With decades of combined entrepreneurial experience, we understand all aspects of business-building in the online marketplace. By combining our two areas of expertise we've created a uniquely holistic approach to launching and growing businesses for women over 40.

Women relate and interact differently at this age than their younger counterparts, and definitely different than men. We believe in relationship-marketing and that's where women over 40 excel. The majority of our activities take place inside our free Facebook Group: Empire of Unstoppable Midlife Women Building Profitable Businesses. You are cordially invited to join us for free weekly training, monthly networking events, bi-weekly business promotion posts, and more!

We offer a holistic 6-month launchpad program for new entrepreneurs and 12-month next-level profits coaching program focusing on business strategy, systems to scale through the lens of finance and leadership.

"The women who are drawn to us are women who are action takers. They realize that they have decades of life experience that is valuable, and they have a dream that they want to bring out to the world." Carmen Reed-Gilkison

"We tend to work a lot with heart centered entrepreneurs...We are doing this in a holistic manner." Deirdre Harter

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

• How Covid-19 forced business owners to make major changes with the services they provide.
• How adopting a feminine way of doing business can be beneficial
• Why their clients are often uncomfortable with discussing compensation for their work, and how they can avoid feeling this way
• The power your mindset has in your entrepreneurial journey
• When you get to midlife you begin to look at things from a different perspective and think about your legacy
• Being okay with your entrepreneurial journey not being linear
• Important things to know about building a business based on your values

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Finding the strength to change your life can feel like an impossible task. This week we have certified life coach Jennifer Crowley on to discuss how we can change our mindset from accepting our life's shortcomings, to acknowledging our own power to create a new story. Jennifer takes us on her journey from evaluating her life, to realizing that she needed to take a new direction.

As a Certified Life Coach and founder of Changeable Coaching, Jennifer Crowley works primarily with women looking to make impactful changes in themselves and in their lives. She's also a leadership consultant, working with entrepreneurs to help them strengthen their management skills and develop healthy cultures of success.

Prior to her professional life as a coach and consultant, she made the decision to leave behind a successful 20-year career in the wine business to follow her calling and share her path to change and fulfillment.

Jennifer's mission is to help women summon their strength and create plans to bravely make changes and live the lives they want. As a former executive and divorced mother, she understands the struggle of juggling roles and living with other people's expectations. In light of her experiences, her goal is to empower women to make changes that align with their wants and needs and help them transition themselves into more integrated, joy-filled lives.

She has chosen to share her story and the life-altering practices she discovered on her journey to inspire other women to action and help them prepare themselves and gather the support they need to be more fearless in the face of change.

Jennifer grew up just outside of Chicago and majored in microbiology at the University of Illinois, Urbana-Champaign. She worked in iconic downtown Chicago bars and restaurants in her twenties, and then found her way to the wine business. She now happily lives in Chicago with her son, Liam, and their dog, Buck.

"My heart is really with women and helping women. I don't want another woman to stay stuck the way that I did for so long..." Jennifer Crowley

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

• The role Jennifer's career played in sparking a transition in her life
• How Jennifer discovered her passion for helping others
• The difference in the way that men and women tend to express or deal with their pain
• How being a woman in a male dominated work environment can alter your personality traits
• How Jennifer was able to realize that she was living with anxiety
• Why connection to your support system is essential to your wellbeing, especially during quarantine
• How to distinguish stress from anxiety

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We all grieve in different ways, but for many of us it can become a self-consuming struggle that we feel we can't escape. Our guest Debra Hester is on this week to help us learn how to build resilience while experiencing grief. We discuss what has put her on this path to help people at their lowest point, and the approach she takes to get them to a more peaceful state of mind.

Debra Hester is a creative social entrepreneur who advocates building resilience and breaking the silent struggle with grief and loss. She is the award-winning author of My Backyard Garden, A Memoir of How Love Conquers Grief.

As founder and CEO of MB Enterprises, Debra leads a talent development organization with a motto of "Inspire, Inform, Transform, that's what we do! She offers a MOVE Mapping™ workshop experience to address the limited amount of ongoing support, resources, and structures for people struggling with traumatic change.

This transformative MOVE Mapping™ approach applies growth mindset techniques to move participants from pain points to peace. Her My Backyard Garden book series also includes a 2021 release, Look Up Mississippi, A Photo Memoir. Debra creates and produces videos, podcasts and uses social media channels as the foundation for bringing awareness to looking and moving beyond traumatic change and events to #empathyforgrief and loss for self and others.

With over 25 years' experience as a creative, innovative, learning, leadership development and SHRM senior certified HR leader in large, global organizations, she brings a broad base of practical, people, organizational development skills, and experience. Debra has a passion for the art and science of personal transformation. She is known for participating in, developing, and leading professional and leadership development experiences which drive increased team engagement and performance.

Debra is a skilled writer, facilitator, and visualist who uses communication, marketing, and digital strategies to drive awareness to adoption for her clients' organizational change initiatives. Debra spent K-12 in Arkansas and graduated from Oklahoma State University in Broadcast Journalism and received her MA in HR Management from Ottawa University. She is currently pursuing an MBA from Mississippi State. She has a weakness for coffee and dark chocolate and finds peace in modern country living in Northern Mississippi.

"There are a lot of things that are strong. We have trees and buildings but there are certain forces that they can't withstand. I don't care how strong they are. So it doesn't mean that you're weak or strong … because you know yourself it allows you to be resilient." Debra Hester

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

• The special connection Debra had with her mother and how that played a role in finding her passion
• How Covid-19 has broadened her audience
• How we should view and deal with anger while grieving
• Why Debra chooses to focus on emotions rather than stages of grief
• The problem with using the word "strong" to describe people going through a difficult time.
• What MOVE Mapping stands for, and how you can implement this into your own life
• Debra's goal of identifying your specific pain points and helping you move to peace and productivity

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Years of dealing with traumatic experiences can take a toll on your mental health. This week on SecondWind, Janet Wiszowaty gives us her insight on PTSD, life through the pandemic, and living in the Canadian Arctic territory of Nunavut. With this discussion we not only get a picture of the cause & diagnosis of PTSD, but also what life can be like living with it.

Janet is an expert in overcoming life's challenges and has transformed that into helping others do the same. She is an author, speaker, trainer and cheerleader for her clients. Janet has honed her skill while working with emergency police services, through trauma, change, and crisis management, into a practice that is second to none in terms of results achieved with individuals and groups. Janet has and continues to work closely with her clients to develop tools that work for them to move forward and thrive. This work has brought significant results to both individuals and business teams. The tools and the overall effectiveness that Janet has developed and fine-tuned over the years has and continues to provide life-altering results to those when they are at their most vulnerable, their Now What. If you are searching to live a healthier, wealthier, happier and more productive, life, reach out to Janet to explore your next step. Janet has trained with the best and is a Canfield Certified Trainer, Dream Coach plus Master NLP, Time-Line Therapy™ , and Hypnotherapist. She says Your Success is Her Success. To connect directly with Janet, call 780 983 0840 or email Janet directly at [email protected]

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

• How our understanding of PTSD has changed throughout the years
• What accumulative PTSD is, and how it has impacted Janet Wiszowaty's life
• The correlation between keeping busy and burying your trauma
• The steps that Janet has taken to help deal with her trauma
• Why she pushed herself to travel, learn, and be driven.
• What it is like to live in an arctic region
• The types of issues the pandemic has created or worsened in the home

"It's hard to slow down, you just want to keep going... I'm alive so I better keep moving." Janet Wiszowaty

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We are constantly changing and facing new challenges that force us to reevaluate who we are, and what we want. For those of us who value in person human interaction, it has been a very difficult year due to the pandemic and social distancing. On today's episode of SecondWind, we'll be discussing our evolving values, self love, and the complexities of socializing in today's day and age.

"You need to connect with love, and the love starts with you. Self love." Joyce Buford

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

• What we need to be aware of while going through a difficult life change
• Why we need to find a community that fits who we are now
• How Covid-19 has expanded the way we use the internet
• The role our family plays in our self esteem
• How isolation affects the way we grieve
• Why we should change our mindset from blaming others to accepting responsibility
• The journey to loving yourself and finding your values

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