Secrets with Kate McGwire

One of the hardest parts about finding love later in life is letting go of the way we always dreamed it would be. Some of the dreams we had for the way we wanted out life to turn out unfortunately die. 

This was a tough episode for me to record. It actually took me numerous recordings over the last few months but I didn't want to skip it. There are things I wanted to address, I wanted to talk about even though it was so hard. 

I claim to be a planner. Nothing about my love story went as I had planned. It's beyond my wildest dreams! Even after my dream of finding love came true I still attempted to plan the next big moment and I'm so grateful that didn't go according to plan! 

It's no secret dating was a real struggle for me. I thought once I found my person I'd be on Easy Street and everything would be simple. The joke was on me! At 40 years old I decided to live with someone for the very first time! 

I crashed into a wall with this podcast this year. Instead of pretending the elephant isn't sitting in the room, I'm going to address it. I want to share with you why I got stuck this year and what I decided to do about it. 

Single parents need loving too! But I wasn't going to be the person to do it. I had a rule. I wouldn't fall for someone who already had someone else to love. Please know all the rules get tossed when you're dating someone who has a kid. 

Until you have the talk about being exclusive, assume he is dating more than just you. And you should be dating more than just him! And you shouldn't be upset about it! With that attitude, there is no need to be spending your time on this Facebook page that goes against everything I believe when it comes to dating.

Love is not a gender thing, it's a human thing. In my mind it was hard for women to find love, but not for men. If they were single later in life it's because they chose to be. This episode shows how small minded that thought is. Men crave that human connection as much as we do and as time races by they feel just as frustrated and hopeless as we do. Well at least the good ones do. 

Nothing in my dating life went as planned. It's only when I stopped fighting it that the plan I dreamed of became reality and so much more! 

Dating always felt out of control for me. I was always reacting instead of being proactive. Then I switched things up and decided to do what was best for me and crazy things happened!  

You can't survive 25 years of being single without picking up a few tricks & strategies along the way to handle being dumped. It wasn't pretty but I found my way through it.