Secular Sexuality

Whoa momma has it become trendy to call your boyfriend Daddy, and no judgement we’re happy to see you being you. Caregiving and caretaking are important emotional needs and a little bit of roleplay may be just what the doctor ordered. Curious? Confused? Concerned? Brett Turner joins Christy and fan favorite Serafina Smith to help clear up the questions and introduce us to the big big world of little relationships. All your ageplay questions answered plus your calls on the October 4th episode of Secular Sexuality.

►Find a collection of resources and connect with Austin Age Play at http://linktr.ee/atxageplay

►Go on a big little adventure and dive deeper into the episode at
https://www.vcatx.com/media/ageplay

We throw a lot of new words around (it’s all poly-viking-power-bottom this and demisexual compersion that) but when these words really define a piece of who you are it becomes all the more important that your therapist speaks your language. Talk therapy loses a lot of momentum when you have to pause your explanation of your self to constantly explain yourself and yet most therapists make it through their many years of training without any special understanding of queer culture or human sexuality. This summer Grace Stephenson launched Glimmer, a safe & empowering online space for womxn, QTBIPOC, and LGBTQIA+ communities to find sexual and mental health professionals. Grace joins the show to explain the need for culturally competent and sex positive therapy and to take your calls on the October 1st episode of Secular Sexuality.

Vi and Christy are continuing their conversation about the world of sex work with a luxury escort, internationally recognized sex educator, and 4’8” redhead, Alice Little. Tonight, they’ll be discussing how Alice got started, her many specialties (from flirting and foreplay to lectures on the science of sex), and the state of sex work during COVID. A bonus: they will also have some practical advice for anyone thinking about hiring a luxury escort, in case you wanted to try it yourself!

►Find Alice’s YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMl6gE-PPKdjIWgJaNlvK3w
►Enjoying Secular Sexuality’s Sex Work September series? Check out our past episodes:
Amberly Rothfield: https://youtu.be/YUXPnhxfUo8
Rudy Bee: https://youtu.be/DPff8cgL-SQ
►Find Alice’s social media and more by diving deeper into the episode at https://www.vcatx.com/media/littlealice

Christy’s Intro Guide to Non-monogamy- https://www.vcatx.com/media/openingupislike
Non-binary Basics and Myth-busting- https://www.vcatx.com/media/excultbabyenby

EARN IT’s State-law Exemption Would Create Bewildering Set of Conflicting Standards for Online Speech by Ben Horton for Center for Democracy and Technology https://cdt.org/insights/earn-its-state-law-exemption-would-create-bewildering-set-of-conflicting-standards-for-online-speech/

The Origin Of Love from Hedwig And The Angry Inch-
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_zU3U7E1Odc

Despite what you may read in our YouTube comments sex work is real work and real business. With the growth of OnlyFans and others creators can have more and more industry access with differing results. Enter Amberly Rothfield, business consultant and erotic content creator with 15 years in an always changing industry. Join Christy and Vi as we talk shop and take your calls on the business of sex.

►Find Amberly on Twitter @AmberlyPSO and online at https://amberlyrothfield.com/
►Learn more about modern sex work and dive deeper into the episode at https://www.vcatx.com/media/amberlyrothfield

Some of tonight’s links and recommendations-

3 Months to No.1 by Will Coombe

https://pineapplesupport.org/
https://apagunion.com/
https://www.domain.com/domains/whoisprivacy

Ahh, homemade artisanal soft genderfluid cutiepie nudes, just like Grandma used to make. We’ve dabbled before in the discussion of amature porn but ExCultBaby Rudy Bee returns to the show to get a little extra up close and personal about their OnlyFans. We’re talking online sex work in a pre-gender equality, post-Bella Thorne COVID present, plus taking your calls on the September 10th episode of Secular Sexuality.

►Find Rudy on Twitter @ExCultBaby and YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0MAi67khv-LcaAepPQCsDg

Whether you blame it on a glitch in the Matrix or just a bad headache, our senses often throw us curve balls. Ghosts? ESP? An undigested bit of beef, a blot of mustard, a crumb of cheese… hard to say exactly what it is that trips up our senses but for many of us it’s not an occasional deja vu but a life that seems to be turned up to 11.

By exploring new neuroscience and classical psychology Courtney Keiser joins Vi and Christy in a skeptical and intriguing look at the phenomena of highly sensitive people plus your calls on the September 3rd episode of Secular Sexuality.

►Find Courtney and learn more about her work at https://www.discoveringyour.life/
►Connect a little deeper with the episode and learn more at

https://www.vcatx.com/media/hsp

Find the HSP test, more resources and Elaine Aron’s original research at https://hsperson.com/

This month The Wachowskis confirmed that their sci-fi blockbuster The Matrix was in part an allegory for the trans experience- a splinter in the mind telling you that your reality, enforced through violent agents, is really just a performance. That hasn’t stopped The Red Pill and other online groups on Reddit and elsewhere from using the film as a jumping off point for warmed over social Darwinism and misogyny. Bigfoot De-Bunker and Truth Wanted Objectively Dan joins Vi and Christy to take your calls and see how far down the rabbit hole goes.

► Check out the ACA’s Truth Wanted https://www.youtube.com/TruthWanted and join the TW Fan Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/TruthFG/

► Go further down the rabbit hole find even more resources at https://www.vcatx.com/media/redpill

Find Dan on Twitter: @ObjectivelyDan

Former Red Pillers: Discussion Forum- https://www.reddit.com/r/exredpill/

Be the men's issues conversation you want to see in the world-
https://www.reddit.com/r/MensLib/

Nothing says first kiss on a hot date quite like August 20th, 2020 does it? Between the social unrest, political division and stumbling economy, it’s almost possible to forget about the virus you specifically get...from spit. At a time where we all have way too much time to swipe, many of us are struggling to look for new love in the time of corona. Returning to the show is relationship therapist Grace Wood to answer your calls and walk us through dating in 2020.
►Find Grace and her Dating In 2020 at https://www.gracewoodtherapy.com/blog/2020/7/27/dating-in-2020
►Dive deeper into the episode and find even more resources at https://www.vcatx.com/media/coviddating
Grace is on Facebook and IG: https://www.facebook.com/gracewoodlpcintern @https://www.instagram.com/gracewood_therapy/
How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving Paperback by David Richo
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love by Amir Levine

Last week we discussed the power of finding your own sexual identity, throwing out every sort of adjective, orientation, kink and descriptor we could find! If it felt like we left on a bit of a cliffhanger, the SecX Patron Saint Eve is here to dust off the darker corners of the research library and walk us through the dos, don'ts and don’t evens of exploring a new kink. We’re safe, sane, consensual and learning how to kink, plus your calls on tonight’s Secular Sexuality!

Topics and calls on today's episode:
-How Do I Research Sex Stuff?!
-Partners Trying Kink, Consent Boundaries, & Safe Words!
-Julie-ID | Trauma from Sexual Abuse Effects On Perceptions of Sex
-Mira-(GE) | Having a Hard Enjoying Kinks a Second Time & Finding Partners
-Roan-NC | I Might Be Agender or Nonbinary...but I Don't "Feel" the Identity
-How Do You Enter Into New & Different Sexual Communities?
-Warning Signs You're Not Reeeally Into or Ready for a Particular Kink
-Marcus-CA | Religion Shamed Me "Out of" Homosexuality...Help?
-Resources for Trying New Forms of Sex & Kink! (Plus Our Own Class!)

Catch Saint Eve on Twitter @TransSaintEve

►Get started on your kink journey with these links https://www.vcatx.com/media/howtokink

What on earth is a poly Viking power bottom? How about a soft dom femboy switch kitten? Are they spy code names? Super obscure indie bands? Character descriptions for the world’s best sci-fi film? No, these are descriptions of our kinks, and we want to walk you through creating your own epic kink title! Join Vi La Bianca, Christy Powell, and photographer and kinkster Julian Oakes Norman as we discuss the benefits of kink identities and practices on Secular Sexuality.

► Read ENM Magazine’s article on discovering polyamory and kink featuring Julian: https://enmmagazine.com/magazine/2020July/index.html
►Find even more Secular Sexuality links, deets and resources:
https://www.vcatx.com/media/poly-viking-power-bottom

Follow Julian on social media:

Instagram: @cameracoffeeguy
Website: www.cameracoffeeguy.com

Recommended Reading-

Explore your own adjectives and find community at https://fetlife.com/glossary
Take the BDSM test at https://bdsmtest.org/select-mode
Learn to build your own DIY sex-toys with Megan, & Andy of Forbidden Fruit https://youtu.be/FAwulNKxwEE
Dating in 2020- A 5 Step Guide by Grace Wood https://www.gracewoodtherapy.com/blog/2020/7/27/dating-in-2020