A blog post called, "I Kissed my Humanity Goodbye" sparked a discussion about the terrible emotional, spiritual, and physical pain of being raised within a culture which tried to over-control romance.

She is an agnostic, I am still a Christian. Together, we talk about our deconstruction journey, of processing traumas, re-evaluating our beliefs, and giving one another space to walk the path in our own ways.

First time back in church in eight months, and the sermon made our blood boil. The pastor stated that while your spouse may be unlovable (like an old teddy-bear, dragged through the mud) their spouse's love can change them. Love changes people. No it does not! Boundaries change people! Loving submission to abuse just enables that abuse, and this is terrible advice to give to anybody. This sermon sparked a discussion about some of the boundaries that made us into a better couple, early in our marriage. 

Writer, mother, and life-coach, Rebeka Drumsta, M.A., was raised in what she describes as the "cult" of ATI. Her deconstruction journey has been ongoing for the past twelve years, as she seeks to heal from her legalistic and controlling childhood. She offers help to others through her blog and life-coaching.

Is ATI a cult? Chantelle gives her reasons why...

Registered hypnotherapist Chantelle Neufeld opens up about her childhood in the cultish homeschooling curriculum of ATI.

Chantelle Neufeld is the oldest of 10 children and was raised in a cult. She is now is a mom to 3 teenagers and lives in Manitoba, Canada.   She is passionate about helping people feel better emotionally.   Chantelle offers online Trauma Therapy, which fast-forwards the emotional healing process through guided visualization, comfortably releasing emotion that has been locked away.  You can find her on her facebook page Mindful Regeneration or at MindfulRegeneration.com

Merle is a longtime mentor, pastor, and friend: the guy I turn to when I have hard questions. Like this one: is Evangelicalism emotionally healthy? Does it fit with my vision of seeking a healthy and authentic spirituality? Or does it have to go? His answers surprised me.

Here is the link to the seminar that Merle referenced on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r0QZj5CVNpw&feature=youtu.be&fbclid=IwAR1kKgSvcZFl6c1c466D4gVpk_CYPSQLrNrPjj47DR1LQEzbDxIAn2_OFg8